My girl broke up with me because I work too much and iv become snappy and stressed out. it was the hardest thing ever to be with out her and to add insult to injury she kept on rubbing it in my face how meny guys she got n how much fun she’s having, now I love this girl to death I mean it but it just hurt so bad I couldn’t take it no more. Had my nights at the bar, drunk driving getting high you know the "I don’t give a s#!t eny more" type of feeling. So I wake up and say “ima be all right I don’t need her, I could get my self a new girl" so im on the up and up and then we meet n she get all emotional about how she misses me and love's me. me as a sucker we started dating today again but I feel like I can trust her like she slepped with all these guys(witch she denies) and I feel like she’s to out there now and not the angel she was. I can’t sleep, I love her but I don’t want to suffer.
2006-09-27 20:13:38 · 16 answers · asked by johnny c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No she doesn't have commitment problems, she has issues with her own preferences. Women whether they want to admit it or not, get to a certain age when they like the working guy. He's stable and provides security. There are some women however that simply pass this and cling to the 3-day-crush-guys. Also, don't blame your snappiness for her actions, because human beings period tend to become snappy when stressed. As someone who "cares?" for you she should understand why you are as moody as you are and stop trying to agitate you, or bug you. Instead she should be doing things to ease the way you feel, she should comfort you.
Honestly? She doesn't give a crap for who you are because if she did than she wouldn't go about doing what she does. She obviously knows your weakness for her and is using it to her advantage. Sit down and think really hard about what you want in ANY relationship. The beginning of a relationship is always about what YOU want, then your significant other comes next.
You've already made a list here of the things she does. determine if this is the type of person you want for yourself. What type of longevity can come out of this? None? Then leave her. Sure...you'll probably be drinking for a while, but soon you'll meet someone (and don't think you can't) you'll give you what you deserve.
2006-09-27 20:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Alivana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you're hurt, fair enough, but if you really love her, try to work things out. Maybe she slept with other guys, maybe she didn't, but you'd split up remember! If you working too hard and being snappy was the true reason behind the separation, try to make more time for her and don't take work related issues out on your girl - make her your confidant, not your enemy. Good luck.
2006-09-28 03:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the looks of it, you two don't seem to be a happy and balanced pair. If it were up to me, I would say dump her, giver her a taste of her own medicine, and that way you can get some closure out of the relationship. If she really has any genuine feelings for you, she will come back, if not, then you will have made the right choice for your future.
2006-09-28 03:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by bloop87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah that hurts ..suffering is no good at all ..ive suffered for a year with my ex dumping me and the time is still counting. sux that she broke up with u..well at least she can appreciate that ur working hard and bringing the money in....wait a minute..uh oh. i think shes dealing with bad boys right now (if im not wrong)..and its not preety neither..u know what bad boys are and what they do right? thats y shes havin lots of fun ..cuz of them. be careful
2006-09-28 09:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sonic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the bull you wrote earlier in the first message would either make me run or laugh,who cares about it.Now are you in love or lust,if your in love its time to commit to it and ask what do i want,would this girl wipe my butt if I was paralyzed tomorrow,if yes then alright! if no,then your only in love and she couldnt give a rats @ss.so enjoy what you got while you got it,'cause its not yours in the first place.youll only be sucker if you fall in love with someone who doesnt really care,and only actions can tell not words,no matter what she says....only time can tell.be honest with yourself for once after all dont you deserve the best!
2006-09-28 03:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do want to suffer, otherwise what did you go back to her for? You are a sucker for punishment, and until you decide that you've been a doormat long enough, nothing is going to change.
2006-09-28 03:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time you got your heart broken, you won't be so trusting next time. You'll get over it. I mean think about it. What are your own standards for a girlfriend. If she isn't it, why bother?
2006-09-28 03:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wanted only to attract attention to her , to make you jealous and realize how you'll be missing her , all those guys were only her inventions to drive you crazy,if you really love her you have to understand her , this kind of trick lots of girls are doing when they are feeling neglected by their partners.
2006-09-28 03:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you.
Whatever happens, keep talking to each other, and most importantly, keep listening to each other. I made the mistake to completely cut myself off from any communication before, and believe me it hurts, hurts and hurts. Listen to each other and ask yourselves what you really want from each other.
2006-09-28 03:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by ibelieveicanfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her... DO find yourself a loyal girlfriend... You don't need her. Let her go out and sleep with other guys. Go find someone whom you feel will be more loyal.
2006-09-28 03:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋