I have been wearing only modest dresses and skirts at all times as well as wearing a small, simple head scarf since April of this year. My coworkers have not said anything until recently when one
told me that I had lost my mind and needed to join the modern age. How do I handle this politely and why does she have a problem with my dress? I make no comments nor judgments on hers.
2006-09-27 20:08:20 · 11 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In obedience to Sacred Scripture, many Catholic women wear some kind of veil or headcovering. Some wear a headcovering only at Mass. Others feel called to wear a headcovering at other times during the day, as well as at Mass. Many non-Catholic Christian women also wear a headcovering.
These women are following the call of the Holy Spirit. Society discourages women from wearing a headcovering and from doing anything else which shows submissiveness and obedience. Yet these women have found the light of truth in the midst of dark times.
2006-09-27 20:27:08 · update #1
I do not wear any shirt with writing on it and my coworkers are friends that I have worked with for the past few years or months and are aware of why I am dressing this way.
2006-09-27 20:32:09 · update #2
Whenever anyone does an act to please God, or to follow the laws of religion, they almost always meet with opposition.
The Prophets (Peace be upon them) were persecuted and treated harshly, so we also can expect opposition from people when we try to follow the teachings of our religion.
The people who oppose you will be the ones who either don't understand your perspective or they want to turn you away from your religious teachings.
The best thing for you to do is to politely tell her that it is YOUR CHOICE to wear the head scarf and if she does not approve, it will not alter your decision in any way.
Good Luck.
And remember that you are trying to please God, so ask Him for help and guidance.
2006-09-28 01:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by mystery woman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AHHHHH, why do we always feel threatened by what we do not understand. Sp many people believe that what is different from what they are, must be wrong and must be made to conform.
I am sorry that you were hurt, but there is no easy way to do this. Hopefully your employer would have some diversity program where your lifestayle, and that of different groups can be highlighted. If such an option is not available, then you can try and explain to your fellow worker why you dress the way you do etc. Try to explain your beliefes.
It will not be easy, but you might create understanding for EVERY christian who decides to live as modestly and simply as you.
2006-09-28 03:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People made fun of me too because I was still a virgin when all my friends were not. I was living my life like I knew God wanted me to. If you feel more comfortable in the clothes you wear, I'm proud of you & so is the Lord. We as women are to be modest. I know this is not a popular idea with the modern woman of today but I am just fine with not showing off my body for all to see. Good for you!!!
2006-10-02 01:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. However, the head scarf does have me confused. Do you have some sort of religious connotation implied in wearing the scarf? Some people are offended by religious implications.
Or do you have "hateful" statements written on your modest dresses? Some people wear T-shirts with markings on them that imply intolerance to others.
I wish I could help you more....but it may just be that your co workers are somehow confused or un-educated on why you have chosen to dress as you do.
2006-09-28 03:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say and god bless you too and go on. Don't worry I put in a good word for you with the fashion police. Thats another thing you could say Don't worry I have a friend on the fashion police squad who fixes my tickets. God will bless you for dressing like this and satan he does not like it. all those people out there wasting resources that could help the needy and disabled you know who is the major share holder in that Gig, give ya a hint he has horns. Tell you something else guys like a woman who dresses clean but simple.
2006-09-28 03:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you intimidate her. She may be feeling conviction that you are unaware of and personally have nothing to do with other than being a Christian...a light shinning in the darkness. As to what you should say to her...hopefully she will accept that you like to pick what you are wearing based on what you enjoy not what others are doing. I have always wore what pleased me and was not much concerned what others thought about it unless it was the Lord of course. God Bless and remember to pray.
2006-09-28 03:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by AcePrincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as I stated before I'm an atheist, but I happen to like your questions! They are well put and inoffensive.
You are practicing your faith and it is causing you to appear "different". This is good, as I'm assuming you are "being separate from the world" and walking your talk. I love that in a christian...it is rare these days. These actions will frighten some ppl. You are not following the status quo...thereby making others feel uncomfortable with themselves. It is their problem and their insecurities that are the issue...not your choice of apparel.
2006-09-28 03:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Medusa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to ignore this kind of comments. I agree with the modesty in your garments but I don't understand your head scarf, does it have any meaning to you? let us know. thx.
I used to work with Philippines and I started a diet. I used to have different kind of salads everyday, this coworker said salad again? well since that day she always had the same question, at the beginning I used to give her explanations about my diet, but she did not stop then I started asking rice again? and she kept the same. Sometimes when she asked I just said don't bother me I'm eating, sometimes "get a life" anyway I just thought she had a problem in her head and completely ignore her I always thought she was crazy. People never stops, sometimes just don't listen.
2006-09-28 03:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by mansongirl17us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell her that you are following your religious beliefs.
Quite frankly, I think she is a bit rude. If she had manners and common sense, she would have asked if it was symbolic of something, she did not need to insult you.
Blessings )O(
BTW, I repect and admire you for dressing in a manner you find to be in accordance with your beliefs.
2006-09-28 03:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its because u r not what is dressing as the normal today ...and thats o.k. to do...you shouldnt be dressing as some of these"ladies"(and i use the term loosely)do today with everything hanging out today... i would just say thank u and keep moving along...why do u think u have to explain urself to her..?..if u r o. k. with it who else should be worried about it??
2006-09-28 03:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by jsbrunette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋