if i go active army will my wife be with me at all times live good? os housing off post.?

Question

please we need help on making this decision.

Answer 1

By joining the army, you will not always be with your wife. For example, if the US invades Iran and you are one of the soldiers sent there, you cannot bring along your wife to fight the Iranians.
Joing the army is a patriotic act and you have to sacrifice for your country.

Answer 2

As an army wife, I can tell you that going active will make you and your family elible for on post housing, or to be reimbursed for housing off post, as well as all the other full time benefits. Yes, you'll get to live together. Will you get to spend all your time together? HELL no. I've been married for 6 years, between training, a chance tour in Korea (I couldn't go with him, he was right on the DMZ), and his first deployment to Iraq, we've spent about 2.5 years of that together, and he's gone again. Army deployments are currently a year long. Bosnia and Kosovo were running 6 months, but they've cut back or cancelled those now. Active duty is a huge step up from civilian life or even from the reserves, don't make it unless you're willing to sacrifice your current way of life.

Answer 3

My husband has been active duty for over 4 yrs. In those four years he has been to Iraq for a total of 18 months, when he is home he spends 40% of his time in training which can last anywhere from 10-30 days at a time....so, no you and your wife will not be together very much! I am not going to lie to you-Army life can be hard!! If you and your wife have a good bond, and your relationship is strong-you will be fine. Life on or off post is good. The Army will pay for your housing off post in the form of BAH(basic allowance for housing). This amount of money depends on what rank you are. I would suggest staying on post at first, so you can get a feel for the surrounding area (neighborhoods, schools, ect.) The pay is good as gold, you will not get laid off, free medical for your family, commissary/PX benefits strong bonds between you and other families, security...I suggest taking your wife with you when you go to speak to the recruiter-that way she can ask all the questions she wants also-I annoyed the HELL out of my husband's recruiter-but I'm glad I did!! Army life is what you make of it-it can be an awesome experience, or it can be a difficult one...it's all dependent on one's outlook!

Answer 4

I can only speak for active duty air force since that is what my husband was for over 21 years. However, I can pretty much promise you that you will be deployed at least a couple of times a year for tours of duty in places like Afganistan and Iraq. Usually these deployments are for a minimum of 3 months to as much as a year... and of course, she will not be able to go to places like that with you. In addition, you may be assigned remote tours of duty that are also unaccompanied... these assignments can be for 18 months or a little longer. These assignments can put a lot of pressure on relationships and family life. A couple must have a lot of love and trust to endure the military lifestyle.

Also, most housing is a mixture of on-post and off-post, or at least that is what the air force offers. However, most young enlisted junior officers are placed on-post unless the post you are at doesn't have enough housing for everyone and is already full to capacity.

Hope this helps and good luck with your decision.

Answer 5

I don't think that you are literate enough to be accepted by the Army, so I do not believe that you need the answer to this question but OF COURSE NOT. My husband has served as an Army Officer for over 25 years and I should imagine that we have been apart for over thirty percent of that time. Where did you imagine your wife would be whilst you were deployed in Iraq or Afghanistan for up to a year at a time? in a tent in Kabul??

Answer 6

No, she will not always be with you. If you are in areas considered too hazardous, or if you are on a short-term deployment (which can mean up to 2 years) then the Army will not pay for her to come with you. If she came with you, then she would have to pay for her own transportation.

If you choose to live off-base, they will give you an allowance, but it's pretty limited and depends on your rank and whether they have authorized your wife to come with you.

Base housing ranges from tolerable to fairly nice, with officer's quarters being nicer and more spacious than enlisted. It will be very generic, however, and you will have some fairly strict limits on your decorations.

It is very difficult to be a military wife. Totally aside from the risk that you'll be sent in to a war zone, she will be uprooted every 2 - 3 years and have to adjust to a new home, new friends, etc every time.

Answer 7

It depends on what you are called upon to do. Ive had to leave my family behind for 7 months, 4 months,and 11 months. But that was due to deployments.
Once you get to your permanent duty station, as long as you have accompanied orders, your family can go along. Base housing isn't always available, and in some places doesn't even exist.When I arrived in Okinawa, I had to live off base for 14 months. In Florida, a year.
The key words here are "accompanied orders".
Like the others said, they wont send you wife into the sandbox with you. You will deploy like every other soldier, and leave your family behind as they do.

Answer 8

After 6/12 yrs in active duty....I can say this from experience. It is very hard for newly weds to "make it" while husband or wife are in the military.
You are going to have 8 weeks of Basic Training, and once you graduate you will be assigned to your school for your MOS (Military Ocupancy Specialty), those times you wife will not be able to be with you at all. Once you get assigned to your permanent post or duty station, she will be able to join you there.
Most bases offer on post housing, but since they are so booked up most soldiers choose to live in the economy or (off post). Priority is given to families with children first and are put in the waiting list with priority vs married couples with no children.

If you are brand new to the armed forces, that means that rank wise you are not going to make too much money, if you chose to live off post this will be a financial burden on you and your wife since they allocate funds according as to where you live (Zip code wise)

My suggestion is (if you choose to accepted) live on post for a few years, save some mooney and once you have moved up the ranks you will be better off.
I have seen soldiers file for bankrupcy and or divorce because of those reasons....

Good Luck to you

Answer 9

I don't know if you're a Brit or American, But I'm assuming you're American.

I'm in the RAF, and single, but I know loads of married guys. It can be tough, even in peacetime. You can be posted with a six month notice, and be prepared to move to the opposite end of the country every three years or so. Because of this, many wives have to abandon ideas of big careers, and end up doing lesser, but flexible jobs. (Eg, the wife of my boss was in the police force, but her husband moved form Scotland to the centre of Britain, and so she had to leave the police, as there were no places for her down here.) She will have to put up with a lot, and you could be sent to the theatre at a moment's notice.

You truly need to make this decision together, as it will be hard for both of you, but I've seen many successful marriages in the military, so It really is possible.

Good luck mate.

Answer 10

Be more specific....
Do you mean when you go active and you get stationed somewhere if your wife will be with you?yes she will unless you get deployed or you not come home because you in the field or in school etc.
Live good off post it depends what your define as good living....some people define it as roof over there head and food on the table as good and somebody define good in living in a million $ house.
To live off post its to say the higher your rank is or will be the more Bah you get.
On post housing is decent in the us you don`t have to worry about paying any light and water or security deposit etc.
On post from my experience is easier to clear in the end again.