how should i tackle the stress i face when i think of marrying a person against my parents wishes?

Question

i hav a boyfriend and we love each other a lot.He has told his family about our relation and they have accepted me.I have told my mom but she is worried that my father would never agree because of status issues.I feel very helpless sometimes and this stress is affecting my studies.I dont know how to cope up with this .PLEASE HELP.

Answer 1

the same thing happend to me.
i loved a girl deeply and she loved me tooooooooo.
my family no problems but her father did not allow.
she had to marry that guy, she even dont like that person. she openly told him she is going to adjust with him. during his visit to her before she had told him that she is engaged with somebody. but he said he never mind that. The culd not protest against her parents.

so wat my advice is. think first can u live without that person.
wil u be able to live with the person whom ur parents select.
did u loved truely and did he loved ur truly.
if you believe in true love,then fight for it.
i dont advice u to run away with him instead make ur parents convinced. wenever a guy come to see tell him directly u are in love with some one, so plz ask them to leave, but without causing problem for you. never loose the strength. tell ur parents i wil only that person otherwise i wont marry. tell them if u force them to marry the one whom her parents select , u wil not be responsible if ur marriage life is not success. you hav find out the solution. tell ur grand parents ur other family members who make ur fathers understand. Its ur life u hav to live. wats there in status. wil ur parents go along with this status when they die. wil status give u hapiines. if they love u truly , if they look for ur happiness they must agree with you.

I hope u wil not wreck that man heart by marrying somebody else becos of force.

i hope u solve this situation.
u must be ready to suffer any punishment from ur parents side .
then u can success.

I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.
TAKE CARE GOD BLESS YOU

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Answer 2

You seem like a really nice girl and you seem somewhat intellectual. You say you are studding right. I recommend you finish your studies and keep on dating this guy. Tell your father about him and warm him up to the idea . Show your parents that you are mature enough to be able to make such a big decision.

Just remember that it is important to get your parents approval even though your father does not agree. If you really love this guy and you have a mature relationship than he wouldn't mind you finishing up your studies before you get married.

If your father doesn't warm up to it though you can always say you tried.

Good luck

Answer 3

marriage is an exceptional scenerio which can not imagine while you are single, there wont be any one with you if this relation fails and it tends to, I reecently got married after a breakup and kindly follow ur parents wishes and go for arranged marriage

Answer 4

When you are old enough to handle this stress, you will know that you are then old enough to get married. You sound much too young to be considering marriage as in forever at this time.

Answer 5

babe,

first thing first.........
u concentrate on studies & forget "love affair for now",
it will also test ur boyfriend, if he stands by u,

when u have done clean, satisfactory job of ur studies then revisit this question.......

otherwise u would be having bigger stress 5 years later that u could have been "nicely educated" and self sufficient.......blah... blah... ( or correctly booh .. booh... booh.......)

got it;

many-ques!!!

Answer 6

right now you should conc. on your studies and do something good to make your father proud and then tell him about ur choice and try n convince him, always marry with the person of ur choice but with ur parent's permission,dont think about it, u will get wat u want

Answer 7

if u r confident in ur lover nothing will stresss u go ahead

Answer 8

samaaj se ladne ki taakat hai to thik hai.