I need some advice for a kid with tantrums?

Answer 1

It's difficult to try and answer this with out more detail. How old is your kid? What sets off the tantrums? Is this something new? What do you mean by tantrums?

However, in general my remedy has been a good spanking. And this has worked well.

Answer 2

Lisa,
first of all you need to watch the child and see if there is a specific activity ,time of day, food or event that brings the tantrums on. Often times small children will have a tantrum when they are overly tired, hungry, uneasy with a situation or not on a schedule. If you find there is no common reason the child is trying to get your attention try to stop what you are doing and give them 5 minutes or your time and talk to the child in calm voice and explain that their behavior is not acceptable. Use this this approach every time and then move to time out after repeated attempts. Small children learn through repetition and stability. They will learn if you do action A action B is the result. Hold your ground and it will get better

Answer 3

Well it really depends on the age. My nephew when he was 2 started throwing tantrums. The only thing that would work and still works to this day was just putting him in his room and letting him get it out. We wouldnt throw him in there or anything like that, we would just lift him up carry him to his room and set him in his room and leave him. If you dont acknowledge the tantrum and freak out about it they will just eventually give up. The reason that the child will throw a tantrum is to get attention, you need to show them that they can get your attention in positive ways rather than the negative ways. Well good luck with your child.

Answer 4

Depending on the age of the child (over 3) take toys away, time out, ignore them, distract them. I used to be a nanny for a little girl that had HORRIBLE tantrums and I would give her a time out in her room (She hated that) and after a couple of minutes she would calm down and I would go in and talk to her and tell her that when she screams like that she won't get what she wants and I told her that if she was good the rest of the day I would take her and my son to the park, or somewhere else the next day, but if she misbehaved she didn't get to go. You have to be consistant when dealing with a child. They get really confused if they are bribed into not having a tantrum one day and get spanked for it the next day.

Answer 5

Everyone is so afraid of Spanking. We listened to Doctor Spock and stopped spanking in the 60s (Dr Spock wasnt even a pediatrition and wrote his book only because he was paid to do it, and in later life regretted ruining an entire generation) I don't mean beating a child senseless or abusing a child. But sometimes a child needs a real, tangible, physical deterrant to misbehavior. Meaning a good old fashioned spanking, done in a controlled temper. Never spank in anger, and never hard enough to bruise or harm the child. And if you do spank you need to do it consitantly. The child will learn then that you will spank beyond a certain point and so will not cross that line often. I think I spank my son maybe once a month when he forgets himself, and then he behaves for the another month. I know I will get a thumbs down from all of you who dont like spanking but oh well, You can go ahead and put your children on unnecessary drugs and raise future convicts if you want. I will raise Respectful children instead.

Answer 6

my daughter is 3 and loves to throw tantrums well not as many now but she had a problem communicating so we had her hearing checked and she had a blockage had that fixes and now her skills in talking are improving and tantrums are on the way out the door.....if it isn't medical try ingnoring them and praise when tantrums are not going on and child is doing something you like them to do

Answer 7

How old and what kind of tantrums. Need a little more info.

Answer 8

Try 'collecting' your child more often. Every few minutes, or whenever you can, make eye contact with your child and connect with them. This will help keep things from getting out of hand in the first place.

Keep track of your child's schedule, most children thrive on schedules. Don't force it or anything, your child probably has a natural scheudle of their own... just facilitate it. Make sure sleep and naps are a priority, tired people are much more likely to have tantrums. Adults too!

Answer 9

My pediatrician recommended this one and it works...

Keep a spray bottle filled with water in the refrigerator. When they throw their tantrum, spray them in the face with the cold water. It's momentarily shocks them and brings them back to reality. Usually, that's the moment you need to get their attention and talk with them calmly.

Answer 10

DO NOT spank your child. This is teaching them that adults can not control their tempers either, you child is learning boundaries and this is the time to teach your child the boundaries for seeking attention. say calmly "if you want my attention you will have to ask me nicely" give your child an example. "mommy can I please ..."
Spanking you children is violent and lazy, you are not teaching them behavior modification, violence begets violence. Spanking is a temper tantrum that you are throwing, if you want to teach your child not to throw tantrums do it by example.