What does it mean if he makes fun of me more than others in our group of friends. Sometimes the things he says are hurtful. I try to forget it and tell myself I'm being to sensitive. He has kissed me twice, but is now more distant. When we are hang out in person he keeps his distance and is an *** hole sometimes, but calls, texts, and msn's me all the time. He says we're best friends, but doesn't always act like it. Should I give up on him as ever likeing me? Should I give up on the friendship itself since he doesn't treat me well? Any advice would be helpful :)
2006-09-27 19:34:18 · 9 answers · asked by chei 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would confront him about how he hurts your feelings when hanging out in groups. That is not a quality of a good friend at all. Maybe he didn't realize but if he knew your feelings were being hurt all along, I would lose him. Tell him to stop calling you and that you are not really good friends. Once an a s s whole always an a s s whole. He won't change for you. He will have to decide for himself that he wants to change. I'm sorry to tell you, that rarely happens. Good luck and I know you will find someone better who actually values you.
2006-09-27 19:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. That's a tough one. I take it this is a friend you wish to keep? First question: why, if she saw you holding hands at least once with this guy, would she have a crush on him? It seems she is: a) not a very good friend; b) clueless; c) just gushing about how cute he is but doesn't really have a crush on him but because you are a little paranoid about that you took it that way. Try to think back on all that has happened. Did she know you have a crush on the guy before she announced she has one? Sounds like she is moving in on him, and trying to move you out of the way. In my experience -- and please take this as just my experience, doesn't mean you have to do things this way -- I would just sort of give up. Someone that self-entitled, I would feel badly trying to go into battle with her. The good news is, a true guy can see past that. It might take a while, but if you let go he might come back to you. Here's another possibility: maybe she has some past with him, too. I would ask about that: have you and he done anything together? has he shown an interest in you? have you held hands? ... essentially, why would you be messing with him when you know I like him (if she really knew). She may be trying to tell you that he has gone after her, too. If that is the case, he is probably something of a player. Just chill and go about your business and see who plants himself in your path some day. A guy will let you know if he really likes you and wants you to stop with him. And guys like to go after girls who are focused on something bigger than themselves, like their careers, finding a cure for a rare disease, saving the world, etc. They like to be the pursuer. So you're probably safe. If he has been pursuing you and she starts pursuing him, guess who he will run after if he's a real guy? And if he's not a real guy, well, he is of course not really worth the effort. You'll be fine. :)
2016-03-26 20:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and don't make yourself so accessible to him. He's just doing what many young guys do - testing his limits. When he says something hurtful to you, brush it off. Don't return all of his texts and calls. Start looking elsewhere for a boyfriend, and if he has feelings for you, then he will figure it out and work a little harder to stay in your good books. But in the meantime, don't regard him as your best friend, because your not - he is probably just saying stuff like that because he feels bad for treating you poorly in front of your group of friends. OR, he really does like you but he doesn't want his friends to know, so that's why he's an *** in front of others, and then sweet when your in private. However, I don't have all the details, so that's for you to figure out!
2006-09-27 19:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know girls always go for the bad guys and we think we can change them, but in the end we fall flat on our noses! This guy seems like like your typical a s s. You shouldn't waste your time with someone like that, use your time more productively and go find yourself a guy who knows how to treat a lady.
Believe me they are out there!
2006-09-27 19:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he likes you but wants to play hard to get or doesn't want anyone else knowing he likes you. Just take it slow maybe he'll come around... OR he may even be leading you on , just be careful with it
2006-09-27 19:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh!! Almost the samething happend to me this weekend.. where we made-out and hes sending mix signals.. i'm not sure what to do I poseted to let you know you're not alone!
2006-09-27 19:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dex's Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up and do your own thing. If he likes you, let him follow you around and kiss YOUR ***.
2006-09-27 19:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by MorgantonNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want someone like that to like you...why would you even want them to be your friend?? he may like yu but he is too immature to express it....especially in front of people....let him grow up a little before trying to be his girlfriend
2006-09-27 19:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up on him he is using you,u cant force a person to like you.tell him2 f****off
2006-09-27 19:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by babyglad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋