My girl broke up with me because I work too much and iv become snappy and stressed out. it was the hardest thing ever to be with out her and to add insult to injury she kept on rubbing it in my face how meny guys she got n how much fun she’s having, now I love this girl to death I mean it but it just hurt so bad I couldn’t take it no more. Had my nights at the bar, drunk driving getting high you know the "I don’t give a s#!t eny more" type of feeling. So I wake up and say “ima be all right I don’t need her, I could get my self a new girl" so im on the up and up and then we meet n she get all emotional about how she misses me and love's me. me as a sucker we started dating today again but I feel like I can trust her like she slepped with all these guys(witch she denies) and I feel like she’s to out there now and not the angel she was. I can’t sleep, I love her but I don’t want to suffer.
2006-09-27 19:19:25 · 22 answers · asked by johnny c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should have stayed on the up and up. I hate when guys get on with their lives and their dramatic girlfriend comes back to squash them back down. Trust me brother, it only gets worse in time! She will think, "wow he took me back after ALL THAT? Now I'm powerful and I can do it all the time." Trust me, it just gets worse. Hopefully your case is different and she is truly genuine and misses you and regrets what a ho she has been (if she was one) and she's changed all her ways and wants to be your angel. But it's unlikely. Keep your guard up a little and if she goes off the deep end again. LEAVE HER THERE!!! She will realize later on down the road what a fool she was. Move on then, and be a better person, take some lessons with you and don't harden your heart after her. Don't let her ruin the nice guy you are. There are other honest and nice girls out there who deserve a nice man, so don't become bitter at the world, and good luck out there!
2006-09-27 19:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by ananswerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the relationship, she will only do this too you again. hti sis very unhealthy for you! show her how it feels to be dumped. if she slept with all of those guys then why be with her? she was obviously having fun the probably got bored and rebounded to you... please leave the relationship, no matter how much you love her it will be for the best of you. It was not fair for her to break up with you in the first place just because you work too much and your under stress. Im sure shes been int he same situation. things will be alot better without her, seems liek shes using you and doesnt really love you if she left your for that reason or she could be lying and not telling you the real reason why she broke up in the first place. and drunk driving is very bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you could have killed somebody or yourself. i wish more peopel like you went through a life changing experience in high cschool called 'every 15 minutes" which is a 2 day event about the dangers abotu drunk driving..........it was literally life changing ther were so many emotions in the school during those times.
anyways!!! leave her, sometimes you have to let the ones go that you love the most.........
it wil be for your own good
and dont be stupid and drink and drive next time!
2006-09-28 02:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you thought that maybe she said those things cuz she missed you and she wanted to make you feel bad and miss her? Girls do things like that. Maybe she did sleep other people maybe she didn't, but the thing is you weren't with her so you really can't hold it against her. Maybe she was as miseralbe as you were and wanted the pain to go away andshe did what she thought would make her feel better. The bottom line is you need your communication to open up and just tell her how you feel. You were upset that she wasn't there and now she's back again. Maybe she left because she thought it was the best thing. But if she didn't love you she wouldn't have came back. Either you love her and stick with it or decide you can't handle it and go your seperate ways. No one can really tell you what to do cuz in the end its your heart and the out come you have to handle not anyone else.
2006-09-28 02:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Cy Hante' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hoestly i hv not understood ur question completely, but watever i cud gather, i c that majorly there is a trust problem, c first of all i will suggest try working on it, if u can, just trust her words, she said she hasnt sleep with any other guy, just trust her, give urself some time, say one month or so, just enjoy the moments with her which u were craving for, feel her love inside u, if u can feel her love, u will her trust her, and if u cant do it in some considerabel time, then there is no use carrying a relationship as a burden
i hv a feeling she loves u lots, and just needed ur attention thats why she broke up, and used to tell u all tjose fun things to actually make u want her, i m girl i can speak for her
2006-09-28 02:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by hmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were working all the time then she probably felt left out of your life and needed to get your attention. Most of the time, men are reacting like men and women are reacting like women. You both need to sit down and discuss whether you want to be together and can the issues of you working all the time be dealt with. Communication is the key. And I would say that she wasn't sleeping around. Women in general only share that stuff with other women. Give her another shot and this time let her know how important she is too you. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 02:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not working all the time and spending more time with your girl, you should know if she has time or even wants to do the things you think she might be doing. Don't judge her by what you think she was doing while you were split up, that's the past.Focus on what's happening today or you'll miss out on the good stuff you've got going !!!
2006-09-28 02:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by maria jr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, l dnt think what u need is a gal right now, you need time to sort yourself out about your work and also time for your lady if u wont do that then no lady will be ready to have a man who is always stressed and snapping all the time, so jus take time and find yourself.
2006-09-28 02:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by judy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor guy. A woman who doesn't appreciate a hard working man? You're not the one with issues sir. Let her go and the suffering will last in the short term - but if you want the pain to come back and to let it last for the long term - keep the relationship going.
2006-09-28 02:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude I hate to say it but I think that you need to find a new gf. Take time to heal first though. If you try to get into a relationship right now, you'll most likely get into a "rut" you can't get out of. So take the time to heal, and get a new gf. Have a good day.
2006-09-28 02:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for working, you're not a lazy bum. She is lucky to have you! She was just trying to make you jealous talking about those guys. Probably thought you would beg her back and when that didn't happen she wanted you back. Girls sometimes try to make their guy jealous because a girl just loves to be loved, and told that you love her. If she doesn't hear it enough she sometimes will try to make you jealous.
Until you see with your eyes that she is lying, trust her. Your relationship can't go anywhere until you do. Give her another chance, if you want to be with her and you really love her.
2006-09-28 02:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋