Heres the story, Im 21 and my parents left Iran when I was 8. I went there for the first time this year. It was okay, but it was a cultural shock. I've been raised in Canada so Im much different. Heres the question, I met a girl there, and for some strange reason I fell in love and so did she even though i thought Iranian girls were not worth my time before. We are very different, but over 2 months we kept getting closer and closer. Now I talk to her on the phone all the time. She keeps telling me to come back, and I want too but im scared, her family is strict muslims and mine is NOT AT ALL. I think I want her forever. And everyone here is making fun of me cause shes in Iran. One even called me nadid badid in Iran which pissed me off so much. I have completely blocked off any contact with other girls cause Im only in love with her. What do you think?
2006-09-27 19:18:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not much problem if u both agree to live in canada or other country. Dont worry about what people say.Iranians say: dare darvaze ro mishe bast vali dahane mardomo nemishe bast (zarbolmasal).U can show them how good iranians are.
But there r some girls that fall in love because they want to live in Europe or USA!
If u both love each other and want to marry u both have to be ready to pay the price(...ke eshgh asan nemud aval vali oftad moshkelha....).
I think u r young and sensitive and emotional(ehsasati).U can marry later if u want.Some people marry at over 35 or later in Iran.I have a problem somehow like yours.Our parents r not much like each other.But its not very important for me because I am 41 and she is 37. We r going to marry (may be!).
may be the best way is to convince
her parents to let her live in Canada.Or convince herself.
Another point: U both have to make sure that the cultural difference between y and her (not your parents) wont have any effect in your relationship after marriage. U have been with each other only 2 months and have not lived together in one house before.
there is a guide book for marriage : "Are you the one for me" from barbra de Angelis and is translated into persian.
and dont block off your contacts with the world because this could lead to depression.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 20:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by manly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not Iranian, but I am not american either if that helps. I think it is not a good idea to go and live in Iran now, if you can be in Canada instead. You can keep a long distance relationship for some time (make sure her parents don't find out), go back to Iran again for holidays and meet her again, and if it works out marry her and bring her to Canada or another country -Europe, etc, if possible.
2006-09-28 02:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just marry her and runaway from IRAN
2006-09-28 02:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by ssshhhhhh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋