i m upset .. i am having negative approach towards my life can anybody please help?

Question

hi i m 18 years old gal .. i am very depressed .. i have a very negative approach toward my life.. basically i m deprived of love! take things to my heart.. keep on thinking about them.. always crying! making myself feel miserable.. my loved one esp my boyfriend and my frends are sick of me. they are sick of my insecutriy..sick of my crying all the time.. they feel i can never be happy whatever they do.. things are getting too much for me.. i dunno wat to do? how should i be! i agree i remain sad but i m sometimes happy too wen i m vid them.. my boyfrend complains that i am never happy watever he does so now he has stopped doin anything.. i m failing in studies.. i dont have good relation vid my family.. wht shoul i do?
how should i make my life happy?
how should i make my loved ones happy?
how shud i keep a positive aprocah to my life?
please please please help me

Answer 1

Prozac!!!

Answer 2

Hey, I'm 18 as well. I have a fair idea of what you mean. Like you, I feel like nobody loves me, unlike you, however, I don't have a person who loves me in return. You have your bf, he is there for you and he has been trying to show you how much he cares about you. I on the other hand don't have anyone. I've been in countless relationships that go abosultely nowhere. I think what you need to consider is what is making you unhappy. Maybe you need a new outlook on life, or maybe you just need to slightly change the one you have now. Your family, despite what you may think, loves you very much, they always have and they always will.

Depression is a nasty thing, if you allow it to overcome you it will turn out disasterous. Get ontop of life, do the things that make you happiest. Perhaps write journal logs or something for an outlet to your emotions.

Finally, have a rest for the world. Find a 'happy' place, a sanctuary to shake of the despair that life throws at you.

There are many of us out there who feel the same way at times, talk to other people and find someone who you can trust and tell them everything. Life isn't meant to be easy but there is no point in making it harder.

Answer 3

First of all things, little one--depression is a serious matter ---
and you are detailing all the classic signs here---
It becomes a catch 22 thing--where your feeling bad brings on negative outcomes and the negative outcomes bring on more reasons to feel bad---
Best thing here is for you to seek a professional counsellor--there is absolutely nothing wrong in this---some of the world's most notable people have had bouts with this thing and have come out in great shape after getting with the people who have the training and the know how to combat this debilitating occurance --without that help---you are destined to continue to watch your life fade into a veil of darkness and more sadness---and --life is entirely too short for that !!!
Talk to a clinic psychologist at your first opportunity--you can be on your way to much better days in no time !!!
Don't delay--without help this thing only gets worse !!!

Answer 4

Whatever you are feeling like, I am feeling the same way. Althoug h my family relations are good, you and me both feel that a tragedy has occured with our lived where our circumstances rule our lives fully, so we cant be our true selves at all. I realized that we have potential in us to live again, and what I think is the solution is to UNCONDITIONALLY love someone. You EXPECT things from your bf, and so does he. But thats not love, thats wants. Just want you to know that to me, you are somebody that will be content one day, and you are the most beautiful person inside. Just let love in, and it will drive your life. Can you trust someone to love back? In this harsh world no one can be fully trusted, but do your part: give yourself mind and soul to a purpose: whether it be love, contentment, or development. Then you have dynamism, acceleration, positivity. We both lack it now, because our life wears us down too easily. But u are beautfiul and perfect even with your flaws, and when you or someone else realizes this about you, then there is love.

Happiness and sadness arise when we compare two different times and situations. So the beauty of it is, one who hasn't been through the darkest of times can never experience the highest and brightest of happiness. Your sadness, when you will compare it later with even a tiny happy ray of light, will make that ray a 100 times bigger :) so don't worry about your sadness ok.

Hope this helps. I was trying to convince myself too. I hope you will tell me if it did help at my email [e-mail]

Answer 5

It sounds like you have a depression problem, which can be very serious. If yuo can try to find a counselor whom you can talk to. They are trained to listen to you, or find a self-help group where people with similar problems can give you feedback. I was always a negative person and I learned to look at the positive side of life. Read the Serenity Prayer, it will hopefully help you, there are just some things that you cannot change, so learn to accept them, good luck and God bless you.

Answer 6

Get counseling or therapy. Your crying is a sign of either depression or a very tough life you've been leading. I was once like you and things only got better when I identified the source of my sadness-my dysfunctional family. As far as the relationship with your family, mimic the role you would like to see, but if they can't offer support and kindness, be able to set your boundaries to make sure you aren't allowing them to cause your condition. Remember, you are responsible for your happiness---giving that job to anyone else is too much of a burden for anyone to accept or come through for you. Please go see a professional as soon as you can....

Answer 7

slow down for a second. life is not that bad...

I was like you not long ago. I think you need to have an outlet for expressing yourself that is 'safe' in the sense that no one will judge you.

It sounds like to me that you want attention, but you are not getting the kind that you need.

it helps to keep a journal and to allow yourself to vent.

make a list of everything in your life that makes you miserable
ask yourself why it makes you miserable. and whatever answer you come up with, keep asking why that is.

for example: i hate my life. why? because I do not have a good job. why? because the job I want doesn't pay me enough. why? because i did not get enough education. why? because i don't think i'm smart enough. why? because growing up, my parents told me that boys are smarter than girls...

and then you ask yourself. IS THIS REALLY TRUE? are boys really smarter than girls?

it's really time consuming, but isn't your happiness worth it?

THEN, make a list of everything you want to be.
for example: i want to be loved.
state it in a positive, in the present. "I AM LOVED" and repeat this to yourself (As an affirmation) 100 times every night before you go to bed. when you feel that you are loved, then go on to the next one.

Good luck.

Remember, nothing good in life comes without work, and you are the way you are because you haven't done the things you needed to to change.

Answer 8

Well, this is no way to live your life :(

But you are headed in the right direction with wanting to change your outlook. I recommend you love yourself first. Pick up a copy of Feeling Good by David D. Burns, M.D.

It's a nice, thick book, but you can really sink into it because it just makes sense!

In this hectic world it's not hard to fall into a funk and even to let it drag you down further than just a "blue" stage. Take care of yourself.

You can also visit Dr. Burns' site...
www.feelinggood.com

Answer 9

whoa,slow down,whats so serious,your eighteen,life is way ahead of you,if your like me,i feel a general sadness in the universe all the time,the way your seeing yourself is not the way others are percieving you,but when your depressed or on a downer lets say,your drawing in and pushing out a negative vibe that repells others away,realize they cant understand the down feelings because they're yours,no matter how hard you express them,to be happy is to love ones self(which yes is a struggle within itself)
but all you see is not real,just some can hide theirselves better.I get my self in a better mindset when i can legitamately help someone else thus hoping the cycle gets passed on stop expecting the world to change it wont,only you can change and in this,the world changes around you

Answer 10

hi there...dont worry about ur way of life...its like that...sometimes life is a gift to us...and sometimes a curse...i think its ur latter time now...but these two never prevail permanently..most of all life's happiness and sorrow depends on how we look at it...i think u always think abt ur sorrows a lot..u also even compare urself with others i guess...when do so u always underestimate urself..then ur confidence falls and then u cant face public...so u always break into tears quickly...just make urself lively...try being alone always, thinking abt a particular thing for a long time,comparing ur blessings,talents,fate etc with others..just relax..talk to urself...say always i can be smart,lively and friendly..always wear a beautiful smile on face...whenever u meet ur boyfriend be very active..wish him just hug him or kiss him and say u missed him..go to a nice place and talk...forget ur sorrows..play a lot of games...never sit always in ur room or house or alone..keep on speaking to all...so u'll have a lot of friends and contacts..so u never be alone...add sweet talks with ur bf...sometimes go for movies etc..u see life is never cool until we live it...so just be urself and just live LiFe!!!
LifE RoCks!!!
all d best

Answer 11

I read a chapter of Psalms every morning. It changed my life. I used to be so negative and self absorbed. Now I care about others and nothing makes me more happy, when you care for others you're own problems don't seem so significant anymore. Psalms just reinforces that for me.