Is it possible for a past relationship to affect your actions in a new relationship?
2006-09-27 18:47:24 · 13 answers · asked by *LuckyStar* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, for better or worse we all learn something from the people we love.
2006-09-27 18:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe thoughts more than actions. Past relationships can teach you lessons that you won't have to repeat in the future relationships. But it might take a few relationships to break you of bad habits. It depends on how soon you learn your lessons. I think it only affects you as much as you allow it to. Sometimes in my past relationships it was really hard for me to communicate with the guy. And then the next relationship I felt the same way even if it was a different guy. Because you almost expect it to be the same in a way. But you know it isn't. And I think you condition yourself to be the same in each relationship because you have your relationship style, but I have broken out of some of my known habits. At least the ones that I am aware of. Especially with communication. I'm not afraid of it anymore. And some of it too depends on the type of person you are with too. They have an affect on how the relationship goes obviously. If they are worse or better than an ex. And also how the last relationship ended can have some affect on how the new one goes. Such as if the ex isn't completely out of either persons life. Hope that helps.
2006-09-27 19:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Someone can remind you of a previous relationship by the way they look, act, talk or any of a hundred other things. A friend once had a relationship with a red-headed guy, and it turned out to be a disaster. But the outcome was that she no longer trusted ANY red headed guy, and passed on some pretty nice guys that were interested in her. That's an extreme case, but it does happen. So what you have to learn to do is compartmentalize, and not let previous relationships trickle through into your new relationship.
2006-09-27 18:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it possible, it's probable. Starting with your birth every relationship you have will effect your personality and how you respond or react to others around you. We must realize the significance of this and learn to evaluate and assess our behavior and that of others in order to function in today's society.
Looking back and examining how the relationships we have had influences our emotions is important. Sometimes we need to strive to overcome the negative influences that have paid key roles in our lives. The saying that a child lives what he learns is so true, in other words a child that lives with criticism learns to criticize others. This behavior carries with us through to adulthood if we do not work to correct the problems in ourselves but, at the same time we need, at some point in time to try and leave our baggage behind us.
which bring my answer to a conclusion. All relationships are work, nobody is perfect and we all need to work both to overcome any negative experiences we have had, and to support our friends/partners in there journey.
P.S. No-one should stay in an abusive relationship.
2006-09-27 20:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by scribbles_abc_mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very much so from time to time the things you did before will come back to haunt you so to speak things that may not have seemed really important when you did them back in the day take on a whole new meaning. we have patterns in our life and if you did it before chances are at some point you are going to do it again no matter what it is......having had a couple of bad relationships in the past i know that for me what i did back then and what i went through totally affects relationships for me now so yup long and short answer is yes yes yes yes yes and yes
2006-09-27 18:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by wing23ca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The things that you did in the past are instantly revealed into the present relationship.
Basically, it's all in your habit. I'm sure, when you were a kid, you had "bad habits" which your mother didn't like and forced you to change. Well, here's another chance for you to change. If you think the past habit was bad, try and rectify yourself. In otherwords, try and make an effort to change yourself.
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Good luck!
2006-09-27 18:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely!
There is a place inside everyone (subconscious) that compares and contracts prior experiences to current ones. In other words, we unknowingly relate what is happening now to things that have already happened. It is how we grow. An example can be when we are kids, our mothers say, "Don't touch it, it is hot!": but we continue risking it until we get burned. After this we do not touch it again!
Relationships are the same. We subconsciously relate consequences to actions.
Hope it helps.
2006-09-27 18:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only possible, but it happens quite often. Each person's outlook is in one way or another colored by threir past experiences.
2006-09-27 18:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 02:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always do. We always bring along baggage good or bad. It is up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want to have.
2006-09-27 18:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋