I was dating this guy for 3 yrs and now my sister is hanging out with him and sneaking around with him like i wasnt gonna know...it is a small town and i konw she knows that. what should i say to her, should i even say anything, should i just hope that it will just be a phase. i really dont know. i dont know how i put up with his *** for so long. he just treats people like **** and i dont want her to see her go through the pain that i have. and she even watched me go through that and she was the one who was telling me to get rid of him and now this. im just really confused and need some advice so if you have any please give it to me...
2006-09-27 18:44:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Say very little if anything at all. Your sister knows herself without you telling her. Be there for her when its over. Never let a man come between sisters. Men will come and go. Never bad mouth her choice she will always come to you in times of trouble and who best to be than her sister.
2006-09-27 18:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by ava_weis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you and said boyfriend still together or have you broken up? Next remember how interesting and flirty he is at the beginning of the relationship? Well your sis is just beginning to date probably and if she is in fact being a bit dis loyal I bet some time down the road you are going to forgive her, so take it slowly and for goodness sake don't do or say anything you can not live with later after all blood is thicker that water.
2006-09-27 19:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. The only advice I can give you is to let her find out for herself. This is a really painful situation for you. Try to keep yourself busy, or this will drive you crazy. Take a class, kickboxing, or something involving alot of activity. This will help with anger management, too.
My sister did the same thing to me. Mean people suck!!
2006-09-27 18:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Joy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such guy does not deserve your sorrow or sadness..Tell your sister to keep away from him if she listen to you OK if not let her experience by herself and be responsible for her mistake.. Don't regret or be jealous, leave him for ever even if he left your sister, do not look back and move forward with a guy who respect s the dignity of the human soul.
2006-09-27 19:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 07:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel and let her know you know she's been seeing him. Tell her that it bothers you and ask her why she would wanna go out with a guy that treated you so terrible - knowing that eventually he will treat her terrible too.
Odds are she won't listen to you and she'll have to find out on her own, but you have the right to open your mouth and voice how you feel.
2006-09-27 18:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation but it was my older sister and yes it is ur right to say something to her tell her how u feel if she respected u enough to tell u hey u are in a bad thing the guy is not for u then maybe u should step up and do the same for her ill pray for u
2006-09-27 18:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by tasha m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something a sister should not be doing to her sister. She must be a skank to have your left overs. I say she deserves what ever he dishes out to her, just stand back and let it happen.
2006-09-27 19:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is also hanging around ur sister and u don't want ur sister to feel the pain then leave him.,
it will be a painful affair for both of u.
2006-09-27 19:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to be the bearer of bad news but this relationship didn't just start with him and your sister.............she was sneakin way back when and now they are hangin knowin u know...........but they don't care........if u say somethin it will just seem like u care and i know -----you are just hurt,disappointed and maybe not even surprised because u know how your sister is....if u dont care just be the bigger person and let it go.........u kill a persons spirit with kindness don't waste your time.......sometimes family is your worst enemy
2006-09-27 19:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋