My girlfriend found out i was a virgin through some of my friends, and we ended up talking about it. In the middle of the conversation she told me "It's ok ur a virgin,my last boyfriend didn't lose his virginity until he was 21". The thing that scares me about that is that she is 14 and i am too,i also heard her boyfriend is gangbangin',my friends said she said her last boyfriend was a Latin King. What should i do?,i love her but she does quite akward things. The thing i also hate is that she kisses everyone on the cheek,i though she only kissed me on the cheek,but i found out she kisses al of her friends on the cheek,best friend,cousin ect. HELP ME!
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1 hour ago
Look,she's not trashy not a hoar. I think with kissing on the cheeks part it might have something to do with her nationality,she's Peruvian/Codorian/Puerto Rican. She's definetelly not fast,she made me talk to her a month to get with her,she told me the first day i tried to get with her "I'm Not Fast".
1 hour ago
she's not forcing me to do anything,just so u know,she's cool as hell.
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She has no problem with me being a virgin,see she always tell my friends thing she want tell me,and they run and tell me. She said she thinks its cute that i'm a virgin.Whats so cute about that?lol
2006-09-27 18:40:38 · 24 answers · asked by Ramon O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's not wild,she's real laid back and mello,hardly talks in class.
2006-09-27 18:44:49 · update #1
to X Zhiohobian,whatever the hell his name was,She's not hoe not loose,she is nothing close to that. Even though i wonder how in the hell,and why in the hell was she dating a grown man for 1 yr.,she's not like that,u don't know her like i do.
2006-09-27 18:48:40 · update #2
you have to worry about her old boyfriend, did she take away the virginity of the 21 year old dude? Let her takes yours away, let her ride you all she wants ;-}
2006-09-27 18:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by enano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing if she 14 and she ain't a virgin then u have a problem... What the hell is a Lil girl Doing having sex. And her ex was 21 or older that is the second thing that is wrong, what the hell is a 14 year old going out with a 20 year old? does that not sound wrong too u? well maybe Ur an "age ain't nothing but a number type of dude" okay then,,,there is nothin wrong with kissin everyone on the cheek, where i come from we all do that, as well as i , it is a sign of respect.... Yur only 14 u should still be a virgin, aint nothin wrong with that, but if she is not still a virgin then there are gonna be problems in your relationship, she will probably cheat on u with an older guy beacuse if she experiansed an older mans plesure, she aint gonna want a lil boy
My edvice to u is find another girl taht is more on your level of innocence, if u turn out loving this other person then so be it. the best thing to give to someone you love is yourself, you should wait till your older and married. by the by if u do decide to have any kind of sex, meaning oral,anal,and what ever else, please use protection, alot of people say that aint gonna happen to me and u no what it does.
peace love and chuleppas.
2006-09-27 18:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by bigbootyroxxanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At fourteen, you should BOTH be virgins. She's on a dangerous path, and in much too deep for her age.
As far as the cheek kissing, that is definitely cultural. All Hispanics do it, and there is nothing romantic about it. It's just common courtesy.
You don't LOVE her -- you LIKE her a lot, and your teen hormones are kicking in right now. So you think you love this young girl, and in a few weeks, your heart will point you to another young girl, and a month later, to another. It feels like a deep, true and last-forever love, but it's part of growing up and you'll look back fondly on these girls when you are more mature, and laugh at yourself and at them.
That's not what you want to hear right now, but that's the way it works out.
Don't try to prove that you're not 'cute' by rushing to lose your virginity. You've got lots of time for that. Just enjoy being a kid while you can.
2006-09-27 18:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just for the simple fact that you are brave and smart enough to challenge the current state of your romance is an example of great character within you. At 14, you have your whole life ahead of you and are already displaying great decision making. I think that you are safe to trust your instincts and let her go. Down the road of life you will meet a truly caring and sensitive girl has been waiting her whole life to be swept off her feet by you and you only. Being with her will be something that you'll enjoy, instead of the uneasy feeling of what you feel with your current girl. Love doesn't make you feel suspicious or awkward. She is headed in a tough direction, so you may want to be there as a friend to give support when her life turns upside down, but let her know that this isn't the type of relationship that you want. Who knows? Maybe it will prompt her to look where she is headed and quit taking sex and relationships for granted.
2006-09-27 19:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lawrence S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's latinamerican then that's why she's kissing everyone. You cannot imagine the amount of guys who have thought I have a crush on them because I forget its not normal in say Germany or the US to just randomly kiss everyone on the cheek. It sucks but she probably doesn't even notice she's doing it.
But this girl....she's kind of annoying me you know...but I don't know what the problem is...the kissing thing is out of the way, so seriously what is so weird about her?
Ok I just realized her boyfriend is 21...that is weird as hell and so are the 'cute virgin' comments.
2006-09-27 18:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by c_mitu89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she's a nice girl, but ask yourself what kind of 14 year old dates a 21 year old? Maybe she's trying to be a normal 14 year old and is happy that she found a good boyfriend who won't use her:) I think it's great that you're a virgin, even though people try to talk you into having sex...it sucks when you don't know if you've contracted an STD! Plus you have something special to give your wife...something that no one else can give her:) Good Luck!
2006-09-27 18:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, for the simple days when gangbanging meant something else entirely.....
I don't know what to tell you other than take it at your own pace and go for it if that's what you want to do. I agree that the kissing thing is probably a cultural thing. My concern is that she said her former boyfriend didn't lose his virginity until he was 21, so god knows how old he was when this 14 year old girl dated this grown man! That guy should be in prison, IMO. Good luck.
2006-09-27 18:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by smallweed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 man! Since when is it shameful to be a virgin at 14!?! You said that she is 14 and her ex didn't lose his virginity until he was 21? I'm 45, honey, take it from somebody who has been around the block and back again. I don't care how sweet your girlfriend is or how long she makes you wait, she is a whore. And she is playing you. Where are her parents that they would let her date a man who is over 21?
2006-09-27 18:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by ponderinglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay a virgin. There are too many complications attached to being sexually active at this young age. she seems like she has more experience than you. Things change, she is not going to be your girlfriend for next twenty years. Ignore that she kisses everyone on the cheek.
2006-09-27 18:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by observer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend has a lot of experience with relationships. She is too young to be dating men in their twenties. Have you ever asked her why she was with men that age? Doesnt that bother you?
Dont take this offensively: But I dont advise in you seeing her any longer if she has gang connections in the past... it sounds like she knows too much for her own age. She might have a STD if she has had intercourse with men of that age involved in gang scenes.
Its cool to stay friends.. but get to know a girl thats more at your level. Thats good that you are a virgin. You should be. Do yourself a favor and dont lose it yet. Ecspecially to this girl. She just doesnt sound like someone that you need to be romantical with.
Good luck
2006-09-28 19:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it sounds like you have no problem with your relationship!
It sounds good so have fun and enjoy the ride stop worryin!!
good luck!
And to that @$$ that says any 14yr old that goes with a 21 yr old is a $lut! Well i did it and im a virgin! $lut means some one that sleeps around alot and some times for money!
Im not that an im sure his gf isnt so back off you di ckhead!!
Go home to Mommy and stop worryin bout issues that are to big for you!! How dare you say that i hope you die in the gutter where you belong!!
2006-09-27 18:46:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋