Have any good tips?

Question

We have lived in aparments before our daughter was born, well we have a two bedroom apt, our son has one room and my hubby and I share a room with our two year old. We are moving into a home finally and my question is is there any good way or tips on transfering our daughter to her own room since she has shared a room with us for so long I am not sure if it's going to be hard on her or not.

Answer 1

Well, one thing that you have on your side is the fact that you are moving into a new house and doing the transfer at the same time. If you introduce the new house and show her that its her room and thats where she sleeps she will get used to it a lot faster because she has never slept in your room at that house.

Now, dont get me wrong, she will probably cry at first, but this is what I learned in parenting classes and used with both of my sons and had it work wonderfully.
The first night you put your child in their bed or crib and sit in their room with them until they fall asleep, no matter how long it takes. This allows them to feel safe and not scared in this new environment. They may cry because they dont want to go to bed and all that, but they aren't scared like they would be if you just put them in there and left them in the dark.
You do the same thing for 1-2 more days, depending on your child, if they are falling asleep faster then move on to the next step, but if they need a day or so more with you there until they are asleep then you stay. If you move on to the next step anywhere in the process it will take you all the way back to the begining.
The next step is sitting in the room for a half an hour or so and then getting up and leaving. If they cry longer than a few minutes then go back, sit half an hour or so, and then try again.
Both of my children were completely happy to be in their own rooms in a week. You just have to be sure that you never give in and let them back in bed with you, once you do that you are confusing them, they wont understand why they can one day and cant another, they will also know if they scream hard enough you will give in.
I have to say, I was pretty leary about this process, but I do not believe in letting your child cry themselves to sleep. I think its awful. A few minutes is one thing, but sitting there while they scream for half an hour or so is borderline child abuse in my opinion.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

I've been through this one and it wasn't any fun. However, since she isn't too terribly old, it shouldn't take long for her to adjust. If she was sleeping in the same bed with you and your husband it's going to be a bit more difficult though. Try to design the new room around her to make it more enjoyable for her to be in first of all. Secondly provide a nightlight at first so it won't be too frightening for her to be alone in there. Thirdly and most importantly is to be consistent. If she doesn't like it at first you can't let her come sleep in your room. You'll have to deal with a few nights of crying, but just go to her when she cries to let her know that you're still there for her. Soothe her when this happens but make sure to leave the room again while she's still awake. She needs to see that you'll be there if she needs you, and that you know it's okay for her to be there alone. On occasion, you're just going to have to listen to some crying, heartbreaking I know, but it won't take long before she adapts and begins to appreciate her room. To make the transition a little easier for my 2 yr old, I left a radio softly playing in her room. Best of luck to ya!!

Answer 3

1) Let her pick out the theme for the room.
2) Have a nightlight.
3) Just stick with it.

Kids are very resilient, particularly at that age. She might scream and fuss at first, but make sure you're very firm about her sleeping in her own room, and she'll get used to it within a month.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Our daughter slept with us for some time around 2-3yrs and then i relized that it was affecting my sleep ,i was fussy i the morning and we would not have any space for ourselves.Finally i decided to take the big step and made her sleep in her own bed.I decorated her room with her special things like barbie and girlish things which would make her feel special and she would also now that everything belongs to her,it her bedroom.The first couple of weeks were horrible!i would wake up like a zombie and go to her bed and try to put her to sleep,at times i would end up sleeping with her!Then i told her that i was just next to hear and shedid not have to worry she could call me anytime.So slowly she started to improve she would call me at night;'Mama are you there'..and i would answerher back.
It takes sometime but if you are firm and loving you will reach your goal so hang in there and the sooner you shift he the better it is for when you have yor next baby.

Answer 5

How about just letting it go? She will no doubt leave pretty soon. Children of that age usually start wondering about things and would like to have something of her own.
If you use the Feber method, this can result in emotional trauma, I wouldn't wnat to do that.
Is it necessary anyway?
When I think of various cultures where it is custom to have young children sleeping with mom until the child wants to leave and it is considere abuse to put them in seperate room before they are ready....
If you think it is necessary it will be pretty hard on her, unless she is ready, in that case it will be easy.
How about trying to talk to her to see what she would like?

Answer 6

my advice would be to tell her she get her own room and play it up real big if you can afford a bedroom set (walmart has a really cute one with a table and chairs, a toddler bed and a toy organizer for 100 dollars...princess, dora the eplorer , backyardagains....) set it up before you show her the new house (and in it, her new room...) and mabe put a few ballons and such in there and tell her yall are haveing a big girl party.... for good mesure you may want to act like your gonna sleep in there (lay a blanket down and lay down...) and then get up when shes asleep (you may need to do this for a few days....but shell get used to the idea that she gets to sleep by herself now...

this is how we got our cousin to sleep in here own room

Answer 7

Don't anticipate a problem. Tune in to her and relate with all your love. It works out better when it's real than when we've decided on a plan before anything occurs.

Answer 8

Try to make it a big deal out of it by prepping her for the move into her "big girl room". make it sound exciting , let her pick out new sheets and stuff. When you finish blowing it all out of porportion she will be happy to move out.

Answer 9

Ferberize your baby.
But I would probably start easy, since a new home may be scary experience for her.