I have been seeing this man for over 3 months. I feel like I'm always there for him, but I don't feel like his there for me. When we are together it is good between us. But alot of times he just don't listen to me. There will be some days when I wouldn't here from him. But If I ever do that to him, he would get mad. I feel like he isn't being honest with me on alot of stuff. I have grown feelings for him. But It's hard for one day to be good and 5 days be bad. We only see each other when he has the time. He says he is aways busy. I'm a busy person to but I take the time to see him. I have tried to talk to him about this. But It just isn't getting anywhere. I do love him, and want to stay with him. But I'm at the end of my rope with this. Should I just give it up and keep moving on to something better. Or try to stick in it with him and see what will happen?
2006-09-27 17:58:47 · 13 answers · asked by amanda t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason why he is doing that is cause he has someone.He is already in a relationship with someone.He can only spend time with you when he can get away.Think about it,if you were in a relationship with someone and you was cheating on them,you could only be with the other person when ever you have time to get away for a while.You would not be able to see the person all the time,only when you have time from the person you are in a relationship with.Game recognize game.Don't be a fool,be smart.Don't let him play with your feelings,cause being hurt does not feel good at all.It happend to me before.Please take my advice for it.Don't let him get a chance to hurt you.Go on with your life and let the LORD send you someone that will be faithful to you and love you like you need to be love,someone that will spend a lot of quality time with you like he is suppose to.My God-Brother always told me,settle for quality,not quantity and you will always have the best in people and things.Good luck and GOD BLESS.
2006-09-27 18:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.pierre3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do it because they can and we allow them to.Decide what you want out of life and how you want to be treated by someone who supposedly loves you.Women can be far too accomodating with their own schedules in order to make time for a man.Why do we do this? If he says he's too busy then take him at his word. Unless you plan on following him around all day to see what he's really up to why not try and be too busy too see him?You're frustrated for a reason so pay attention to how that makes you feel and think about whether you're worth being treated better than this.Sounds like it's time to get out there and start dating again. There's plenty of guys who arent too busy to spend time with you all you have do is be ready to meet a couple of them.If this guy's at all serious about you he'll get a clue and quickly. if he's not he'll be curious as to why you're not so available anymore and secretly relieved at the same time because he just wasn't that into you. Don't take it personally no matter how he acts.Only he knows why he's behaving the way that he is.Think about what YOU want and don't waste another minute sweating over this guy.
2006-09-27 18:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way...Amanda....you don't need this guy anymore. I know you have hard feelings for this guy, but you as a person aren't happy with the way he is being. If you can make time to see him, then he should make the effort. I think him saying "I'm busy" is just ridiculous....for real.
If this guy had real feelings for you, he would definitely make every effort to spend time with you. Besides, if you have already tried everything to make the relationship work......then you've done your job......don't stress out anymore. So pack your bags of sincere, personality, and intelligence with you and leave this guy.
By the way.....not all guys play with women's feelings....just some guys are stupid to take advantage. Take care and Good luck.
2006-09-27 18:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women want attention and want to be stroked. Men are not like that. Men want sex. Period. I am a man. I think in very simple terms. I want sex above anything short of life itself. That means I can be trained (if I had half a brain).
You want attention and stroking, I will do that if I knew that behaving that way will get me what I want. If I am getting it anyways, I won't. If I give you what you want but I don't get what I want, I'll eventually leave.
You hold the cards. Men are simple creatures. We can be trained (like dogs). You need to know how to train
2006-09-27 18:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kitiany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ponder these questions:
Are you sure this man isn't married and lying to you about being single?
Have you talked to him about your feelings?
Honey, there are more fish in the sea and since you are obviously not happy, I would check out the other fish and drop him before you get stuck with someone who is already making you miserable after only three months. God bless.
2006-09-27 18:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by princeton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think better leave him and move on. coz you will see, you said you are going out for 3 months only, and he is treating you like that. men are hard to understand. sometimes they are only thinking of theirselves. so leave him while its early. i think you haven't invested much emotions for him. if you still go on understanding him and giving what he wants, in the end it would be you wiho will be hurted. if he really love or cares for you, he will do his best to make you come back. but if he doesn't, don't regret of what you did, coz there are more better person than him for you..
2006-09-27 18:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...first of all Love is a two-way street. Your man got to reciprocate your feelings. Else, there is no bonding!
So, to wait or move on is a personal decision you make based on YOUR needs. Good luck!!!
2006-09-27 18:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we let them. If he has been hanging around for four years waiting for sex, he wasn't your friend, he was a predator. Your better off without him.
2016-03-18 02:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over thinking everything. Men are simple. Think in simple terms when it comes to men...and it will work out.
2006-09-27 18:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he dont listen to you then he just dont care so move on sweetie and find a man that has time for you and listens to you cuz its only a one sided relationship
2006-09-27 18:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋