Is it ok that my boyfriend went a gentlemens club?

Question

My boyfriend went with some friends to a gentlemens club.. Is it ok?

Answer 1

I guess it's ok if you don't mind other women rubbing on him and shoving their tata's in his face for $$$$. Oh and then there is the VIP room where who-knows-what goes on.

Answer 2

First of all... You should ask yourself these questions... Did he come home after 2 am?? Did you both have sex when he got home or did he just crash out?? Is he the one that told you he went or did you hear it through the grapevine?? My boyfriend (we're on a break) he told me that he thinks those places are for men who don't want to be with their women. BUT... That doesn't mean that your man doesn't love you. Some men just have funky fetishes. Others find that going to the gentlemans club is better than going to another persons house or finding a prostitute. Maybe his way of watching porn is on stage. Some men like magazines or videos... others like the real thing. It's ok if they watch and if the girl touches but he doesn't get any. It's not okay if he comes home after it and doesn't give you the attention you need. Ask him to be completely honest with you about the situation and go with him sometime. It may be best for the relationship. Include yourself and maybe he won't shut you out.

Answer 3

No its not. It just means he is a pervert in my eyes and that he can't get enough. Thats's the biggest reason I'm not married now. My Ex went to one of those clubs about two weeks before we got married with his male friend. He never called me the whole weekend. I had promised I would not go out to a bar with my friends while he was out of town. So like an idiot I stayed at home. When I found out what he did he promised I could go to a male strip place with my friends at a later date. When an opportunity came up he laid a big guilt trip on me and then said I couldn't. I didn't because I knew he wouldn't like it. I didn't want to go anyway. The sorry dog. I never got over it and I divorced him six years later. I can't believe some of these answers! Why would I want to go join my husband look at women at a strip bar. I don't want to see another woman pull off her clothes in front of my husband while he stands and gawks at her. If he does I don't want him near me for the rest of the month. He needs to go back to the Club and find his honey. Don't get me started!

Answer 4

The person you sould be asking is yourself. How do you feel about the fact that he went to a gentlman's club? You will either like or dislike the idea, no in between. My hubby and I just got a new neighbor while my hubby was gone training, and when he came back and "met" the neighbor, he knew the guy from when my husband was doing his Officer Basic Course for the military. The neighbor trained his class. Since it was a class, the neighbor was, of course, somwhat lude but totallly profesional. Now that our neighbor is retired, he's a little more loose with his personality. So, my hubby and I are hangin out with him and he says, "lets go to a bar," so we do. Oops, he failed to mention it was a strip club. So, 3 guys: Our neighbor, his dad, and my hubby; 1 girl: me. My hubby was havin an alright time, our neighbor was gettin lap dances, crotch teases, and pressured me into getting one, so to have him leave me alone, I said his dad can go, he said no, so my hubby got a lap dance. Needless to say, I stared so hard at that slut I think i melted a hole straight through her. I wasn't mad at my hubby, but we and he will NEVER go to a strip club again. So, be honest with yourself first, then, talk it out with your BF. If you don't like it and don't want him to go, then he needs to respect that. If you trust him, then more power to you. Just sit down with him and tell him how you feel. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

Interesting question, I've never been a jealous lady. I'm 43, and have no problem with it unless i find out after the fact from a friend. i look at it like if you have nothing to hide why should i find out from someone else. so to show i wasn't jealous, (more concerned about trust), i got him a stripper for his birthday. he was shocked as well as his friends. I'm very attractive and have no problem as long as hes honest and comes to me. (and he does) I'm fortunate , that hes still got it and still comes home to me. I'm very blessed. so yes its ok, as long as it doesn't become a habit or an obsession. ruthiebrat. p.s forgot to ask, are you both of legal age.

Answer 6

Only if he had a good time. I once went to a strip club where the girls were so ugly, I felt sorry for them. But I don't know, ask him.

Answer 7

Yes it`s fine. As long as you`re not like hyper jealous or anything. You know they have strippers right? It`s perfectly normal for guys to go to places like that and as long as you trust him and know that he loves you there shouldn`t be a problem. My bf goes with his friends sometimes.

Answer 8

I think that it is ok, as long as he doesn't make a habit of it. Tell me, when he got home was he anxious to make love? If he was, then you won anyway.

Answer 9

I dont know why men go to places like that when they have the real deal at home..

Answer 10

Matthew 5:28 of The Bible says:

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.