what do i do?

Question

ok heres the situation. i've been dating this guy for 6 months, and i love him (i think), but i feel that he doesn't have time for me. he keeps telling me things will change when he gets his latest business venture up and running. if i stay with him i know i could have a good, stable future with all the houses, cars, cloths and what not. sounds good right?! well, i'm also inlove with my best friend of 2 years, who is married, well going through a divorce. i know he has the time for me. and he understandsa me and knows everything about me. but staying with him, would be pretty much living pay check to pay check, and i don't have a problem with that. he has recently asked me to move in with him.
i'm so confused.

let me clarify. i am not cheating on my boyfriend. and i'm also not staying with him for his money. basically my question is, do i stay with my boyfriend and hope he eventually has more time, or leave and start new things with my friend who i know is not faithful to his wife. (my friend and i have briefly dated, before i knew he was married)

Answer 1

You say you love your boyfriend you think? Ok and maybe he will get this buisness up and running or he might not. It doesn't matter what material stuff you can get, will you be happy with him? You can you imagine growing old with him or your best friend? Yhea you'll live pay check to pay check, but in the end money doesn't matter. When you die you can't take your money and cars and designer clothes in the end none of that will matter, butr what will matter is passing knowing someone loved you for you. Think about it

Answer 2

You have been dating a guy for 6 months and at the same time you'll move in with your bestfriend who's going through a divorce? So that means you are a two-timer? And that you are cheating.

Answer 3

Follow your heart. Guy number 1 - there will always be something else more important. Guy number 2 - sounds like he's into YOU. Big difference. By the way, we have the same avatar - head shot anyway. Good Luck Girl.

Answer 4

the friend of 2 yrs is rebounding and looking for a safe, no hassle relationship. if you're not working, then he figures he's got someone to be there for him and take care of him and he'll do the same for you, but neither of you will ever get anywhere. if you do work then he gets someone you'll help out and work with him, still like you said, it'll be paycheck to paycheck, still never get anywhere.

the other guy, the boyfriend, has dreams, goals and wants you to share in it, he needs some time to get it going, but at least he going somewhere, you sound young and looking for attention. i don't mean that as a bad thing, it happens, we want to really be involved with the guy, spend lots of time with him, be showered with love and affection and give the same in return. but young men who are going places or want to get anywhere, don't always have that kinda time and we feel ignored. it's normal and frustrating.

ask yourself this, do I want to get somewhere ? or do I want a ho hum, boring, doing the samething everyday life (sounds so safe but it's not) not safe, because you'll get bored, end up hurting and being hurt and unfortunately no other way to put it, wasting a lot of time.

be friends with your friend, and be supportive of your boyfriend, check out his ideas, how can you help in ways that allow you to spend more time with him and feel more involved in his life and him in yours.

Answer 5

FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO GET YOUR SELF TOGETHER
FIRST, YOU NEED TO LEAVE BOTH THESE MEN ALONG
THE ONE THAT YOU BEEN WITH FOR 6 MONTHS, THAT NOT
A LONG PERIOD OF TIME, SO YOU NEED MORE TIME TO
FIND OUT WHAT REALLY GOIING. AS FOR TH SECOND
ONE HE STILL MARRIED AND UNTIL THE DIVORCE IS
FINAL, LEAVE THAT ONE ALONG AS WELL.

Answer 6

Your priorities are a bit fu*ked up,ain't they,Hon?