this guy online seem to be really into me and wants to come over but all he wants is sex and no commitment at least that was what he said for the time being at first a few months back...things never worked out he never came over the few times he could have he never showed up he chickened out he said he got scared...but yet he is the one begging me...and i am the leary one...as i want commitment or at least the prospect of it someday...well now he says no no committment ever... but he still wants to come over wants this that and the other thing sex sex and more sex im like yeah right what ever .... he is a joke... for one he would never show up i dont think i think he just was using me for online sex maybe... and never had any intention of showing up .... i dont know what do you all think i want some opinions.....i know playing on the internet was a fools game in the first place but please tell me your opinion on this guy not on my actions.. i know what i did was wrong now obviously lol
2006-09-27 17:22:13 · 20 answers · asked by fantasia91273 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont try this at home lol
2006-09-27 17:23:01 · update #1
what would you do
2006-09-27 17:25:41 · update #2
no i saw him online i dont know him
2006-09-27 17:34:21 · update #3
It sounds like all your instincts are right about this guy. You know what they say: "Actions speak louder than words." Let's take a look at what his actions are telling you:
1. He says he will come over but doesn't even though the opportunities have been there.
Look, I think this one is a no brainer. If he was really excited about you, he would have made it happen.
2. He wants sex and no commitment.
What a joke! Do you really value yourself so little that you would allow someone to take what they want and leave the rest? Hell no! You deserve someone who is really excited about you. Every part of you, not just what they can take.
3. He is sending you mixed messages by begging to come over and then being a no-show.
Other than probably being married, this is a bad quality on it's own. Why invest yourself in someone who cares so little for your feeling that they would toy with them like that? That's just silly!
You know all this. Trust your instincts. They never steer you wrong if you truly listen to what they are saying to you.
2006-09-27 17:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by BadSarahBad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like he only wants sex, but most guys who only want that aren't afraid to show up. Are you sure he isn't married or something?
Frankly, I'm a firm believer that internet romances never work out. I've been chatting online for over 10 years and not a single relationship has lasted. Even the ones who made it to marriage are now divorced after 3 and 5 years.
Good luck...but I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you.
2006-09-27 17:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jen B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of men are playing on the net...same as women. Most men on here are not looking for a relationship...just looking for some excitement and sexual fantasies. If your on-line relationship is built solely on sex....then best keep it that way...or you will set yourself up for alot of hurt
2006-09-27 17:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by north44girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how many perverts there are on the internet? This guy is bad news. If I was you i would drop him like a hot potato!
2006-09-27 17:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you want a relationship, he wants sex. You could have answered your question yourself hun. He won't buy the cow when he gets the milk for free.
2006-09-27 17:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should probably leave it alone. I know he seems into you...but then it sounds like he just wants you for sex. Try finding someone else. Goodluck!!!
2006-09-27 18:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and start being smart. Get a hobby. You don't even know what he looks like do you? He sounds like a scumbag, and he probably looks even worse.
You need a healthy dose of self-esteem. Get a life.
2006-09-27 17:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by texgirl724 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO REALLY FIND OUT AS MUCH
AS YOU CAN ABOUT THIS GUY BEFORE YOU EVEN THINK
OF LETTING HIM KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE. THAT COULD
BE VERY DANGEOUS. AND FOR WHAT HE TALKING ABOUT
IS WHAT HE WANT THAT SEX. SO IF YOU WANT A COMMITTED, THEN LEAVE HIM ALONG. AND FIND SOMEONE
THAT WILL WANT THE SAME THINGS AS YOU DO.
2006-09-27 17:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no need to give any comments. From your writting it is clear that he is not sincere with you and you also know it. If you want to live in fools paradize keep up with him otherwise find another one for you,,,,,,,,,,,,,
2006-09-27 17:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I have the same problem but hell I'm letting the guy come over so we can ****. But you should just leave his *** alone.
2006-09-27 17:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋