How do you punish Your Child?

Question

When My children act bad i take a paddle and beat there ***! Works on em and almost never have to do it it hurts to do it but its either that or a criminal record for your son! How do you punish your children?

Ive Tried lemon juice he like it asked for more LOL
and he wasant joking he LOVES lemon juice

Answer 1

We must be twins. I have a paddle specifically designed for the purpose I use it for. It is applied liberally to their bare fanny as needed.

Answer 2

When my son was 1 1/2 - 2 yrs old I would put him in timeout for 3 minutes. He had a timeout chair in his room facing the wall. His father spanked him once when he was 3 and never had to do it again because we reminded him of how it felt and that worked. As he got older, 2nd grade he had this thing about lying that he brushed his teeth so I made him sit down at the table and write 100 times i will not tell a lie. If he got out of the lines he had to start all over. Now a days if you use anything other than your hand and your child tells the wrong adult you could be charged with child abuse. Just something to think about since times have changed since we were kids. I know because I had the paddle used on me but now that I'm a parent and see that it didn't work since my mom used it ALL the time I thought I would go a different route. Good luck.

Answer 3

Whatever type of of discipline you use, provided it is not excessive, works, as long as you are consistent. A child learns through repetition, and it take at least six times for something to become a permanent memory. Naturally, this applies to everything. The main thing is to never discipline in anger. Settle yourself before doing anything. As for my own daughters, I used a paddle, which hung on the wall in the kitchen. They had to go get the paddle, than bend over their beds. Afterwords, I hugged them and we talked about what they did wrong. Some times, the paddling was not needed, as the worse part was going to get the paddle.

Answer 4

Just consider your own background and consider how your significant other's childhood was. Were you both calm kids? Did you both do well in school? Did you respond well to physical discipline without having emotional issues?

I personally think I turned out okay, according to my mom, except the fact that I am not straight. Otherwise, I am a non-violent person, though my mom slapped me quite a few times and my dad used a belt on me many times. It was never actual "violence" in the true sense of the word.

Just remember, tell your kids that you HAVE to be their parent more than their FRIEND, otherwise they will never learn all the lessons you MUST teach them so that they can be as successful, or more successful, as/than you.

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EDIT: Oh, and, apparently, this happened a year or two ago. Not sure where at, but it happened in a dept. store parking lot where a mom was seen 'abusing' her children or something. She was spanking the kid and they filed charges against her. Discipline in your own home. It is also just plain tacky to take care of your children in public, unless really necessary. Whenever I see a parent grabbing their kid or yelling at them, I shake my head. I was a real pain while growing up, but still...

I like how someone gave my answer a thumbs-down. Fine! This is America. Don't touch your child, or you'll be sent to jail. Be their best friend. Get over yourselves, people. Also, are we nothing like our parents? Doubtful. Is that what that crazy DNA stuff is?! Mm-hmm.

Answer 5

I believe getting a child's attention for a misdeed is not child abuse even though all the liberals in the country believe it to be so. I do however believe that there is a line between attention getting and abuse. The definition is like pornography, I can't define it but I know it when I see it. The good news is that they generally get the idea as get older and the need to get their attention is needed less and actually does not work as well. I also have used knees, grounding, staying and saying an extra prayer in church for being inconsiderate in God's House. Whatever seems appropriate and warranted. Prior to attention getting, there is also the 3 count, with the solid understanding that at 3 you will have your attention gotten at home. Although as a parent I would never reprove a parent for swatting a child acting out in public, its a sign of the times that to many busy bodies do.

Answer 6

I hate the word punish, but love the word discipline. It feels more parental and loving. I've been told (by my own folks as i have no kids) it should hurt the parent more than the child.Spare the rod spoil the child......but never, NEVER leave a mark, bruise or do it in anger. cool down, and discipline on a level head. I've always thought tho, that the admonishment should fit the crime. Paddling might not always be the best choice, sometimes showing your pain, and dissapointment is more powerful than any hand can be.

Answer 7

I do believe in spanking, it works. But it HAS to be used properly. It should NOT be done in anger. If you spank be sure you child knows what they did wrong and why they are being punished. In the long run they will learn more from it. I an glad my parents sometimes punished me this way, it taught me right from wrong, and how to have a firm but loving hand with my own kids. We still spank on occasion but most of the time it's the corner for 10 minutes. (my kids are 6 and 8)

PS. Laffs- I thinks its great to have a kids point of view!

Answer 8

You have to be the parent which means you look out for their greater good. That means setting guidelines to teach them about acceptable behavior. Time out is a great teaching tool. My two year olds are just learning about the world and when there is unacceptable behavior, I have them sit down in the middle of the floor with no toys or other distractions for just enough minutes to get their attention. I explain that the behavior, which I give a name, is unacceptable and they need to think about that for a few minutes. Of course, I had to get the idea of 'timeout' into their minds by some repetitions of this. But now they understand that whatever caused this timeout is unacceptable behaviour. Good luck.

Answer 9

Depends on the age and temperament of the child. Time out worked for one, occasional spanking worked or the other. When they got older, removal of priveledges worked the very best. Now, the idea of having me supervise their every activity works. Basically, the three strikes rule - I asked you nicely twice, now we do it my way.

Watch the swing though - that could lead to a crimminal record for you.

Answer 10

My children are 8 and 5..........I don't like to "beat" or "whip" my children unless they didn't listen the first time I told them not to do something......but most of the time I get right up in their face and ask them "What the hell was you thinking?" They already know that I have an attitude problem so they tend to think that I am going to lash out on them.....but I never do. I can't even yell at my children without thinking that I hurt their feelings. I might just grip their arm and hold it up in the air until they get tired and start to cry "I won't do it anymore" or with my daughter she use to run away from me when she knew she was in trouble. So I would catch her and hold her inbetween my knees she try so hard to get away, but I put a tighter grip on her to let her know I'm not playing. When they don't want to listen.......I pull that belt out and tear that *** up. They start to listen then.

Answer 11

We spanked our daughter when she was young (2-4) years old and we really don't do it to much now. She is a good girl for the most part, but she has her moments. For the most part when she has one of those moments we take away her internet privelages or video games and it usually straightens her right up. If she did something I felt warranted a spanking though I wouldn't hesistate to give it to her.