A woman from work and I have been good friends for a year. I realized I wanted to be more than friends as she is very special. I knew she wasnt seeing anyone, so earlier this year, I asked her out on a date. She said "No".
I changed jobs recently (she knew all along my contract was for a limited time only) and we remain close friends and hang out alot still. I have heard from 2 mutual friends that she has had feelings for me all along. Why then did she reject me when I asked her out?? If it was because we worked together, I figured she would have said SOMETHING like "Not now" or "Wait til you're done working here". To complicate things, she is allegedly seeing someone else, even though she denies that to me, which also makes me think she has feelings for me.
What to do?? Help!!
2006-09-27 17:11:34 · 27 answers · asked by merrizz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally... I would NOT ask her on a "DATE DATE" but ask her out to somewhere fun like going for ice cream or skating... (even if ur like 30 it's still fun) .. somewhere anyways... or invite her to a party where alotta ppl will be. And if ur not up for that... you can get together someway and ask her what you are asking us... be upfront! I lOVE when a guy is upfront with me, even if I didn't want him like that I'd love that he attempted to be "PERSONAL" with me :) ... so yeah just come out and ask her how she's feeling and what's REALLY on her mind... tell her not to worry about what she thinks you'll feel about it, and tell her to be HONEST so that you can move on either way! :) GOOD LUCK! Hope it works out for the best! :)
2006-09-27 17:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the common reason for something like this going on is because she's afraid of losing the best friends relationship. She's worried that like many other relationships she has been in, this will lead to heartbreak and irreconciliable pain, hence she might not be ready for trying again.
Of course, another reason is that your friends are misleading you and she doesn't see you that way.
Either way, like any other person in the field, you are free to give it another shot and see what happens. Just be prepared for either success or failure. Go the way of the bold!!
By the way, perhaps if you examine your approach, you might want to try another way to her heart since you and some mutual friends know her kind of well. The first approach might have scared her, after all.
2006-09-27 17:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all she said was "no." and apparently asking her out didn't ruin your relationship, so you may be able to ask her out in the future. If she had said she didn't like it when you ask her out, then you would have to stop.
However, if she's "seeing" someone, and tells you she isn't dating anyone, it sounds to me like now is not the best time to ask her.
Of course, if your friends inform you that you look better than whoever she's not seeing, you might be able to take her from him... but is a girl that lies about whether or not she sees someone, and changes men at the drop of a hat your idea of a special woman?
2006-09-27 18:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! But be prepared in case she says no again. She might have said no the first time because of the place you both worked at. But just tell her you are still interested but make it clear you won't ask again. Perhaps if she is dating someone now, she'll ask you the next time. I wish you lots of luck. Remember just tell her how you feel about her.
2006-09-27 17:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by sunnyrays61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The workplace is not a good way to start. Don't take what her friends say as facts, they may have said that to get you to ask her again if they think you are a good guy. Why wouldn't you ask her again though (other than her already having a guy)? The worst that can happen is she says no again, which she likely will since she is not unattached.
2006-09-27 17:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask n a thx 4 2
2006-09-27 17:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh most definitely ask again , I've seen persistence pay off with women . Sometimes they just need a little coaching to realize they like you .
2006-09-27 17:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try again she most likely if she had feeling don't want the relationship to end then still have to see you every day right after the brake !! she was probably afraid so try again and if u get turned down just find another fish in the sea
2006-09-27 17:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by latigerchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are too much fishes in the sea. Why be so desperate?
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2006-09-27 17:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋