how can u prevent yourself from becoming an attention-seeker?....serious answers only!?

Question

i'm in highschool and i'm quite attractive- i almost always have a bf and even if i don't i have quite a number of guys asking me out on dates. i am talkative but not loud. i get along with boys especially because i talk about things related to them as well. however, since of late, i realised that i get very upset if i see another girl who can come up to my standards- and that leads me to think that i might be an attention-seeker!! can anyone give me suggestions on how to prevent myself from becoming attention-seeker, because its not a good road to go down.
thank you in advance!

Answer 1

First I see that you are humble and a polite person, those qualities take you several notches above the others. I'm thinking your parents should host parenting classes on how to raise children to be adults with manners and thoughtfulness. Bravo to them and kudos to you for choosing to be an aware and caring person.

I also see that your word choice is a little more sophisticated than your average high school student. So already on those counts you have great personal qualities that anyone should want to hang out with you. Are you the female version of Ferris Buehler?

The way not to be an attention hog is to love yourself and know that you are "all that and a bag of chips," and that you do not have to upstage anyone else to get attention. Being able to step to the side and allow others into the conversation and the limelight helps them grow into their adult selves as well. But just remember not all other students are as fair-minded as you indicate, and their teeth and claws can be mighty sharp.

Being secure about yourself seems to be the biggest hurdle here. Since you can already identify your feelings you're halfway to fixing the problem. If you can identify how you feel as it happens to you, you can make a decision to take the high road and do the most right thing. Other students will come into their own as time goes by and they learn to use make-up and dress appealingly. They might catch up and pass you by too. This is why a woman needs to have goals to work toward. We don't need to be the best cow in the barn to get picked to be breeding stock, we can own companies and invent cures for cancer.

Looks only take you so far, your kindness and concern for others will help you go further, and your education and drive will take you wherever you want to go. Learn to drive and leave the others in the dust.

Good luck to you!

Peace.

Answer 2

It sounds to me that you are a normal female. Most females get jealous of other girls that may be taking attention from them or competing for the same things. Being jealous or competitive does not mean you are attention seeking.

However I may be wrong in this, but it seems like boys are a focus in your life. That really should not be a focus for you. It can lead you down the wrong path. There's nothing wrong with dating, but your ability to get a date does not determine how valuable you are. School work and activities or your job plus your family should be your major focuses and it is through these that you should value yourself.

Answer 3

Yes. You already know you can get the guys attention, so since you are in school you might as well spend some time and energy on that... Remember, no matter who you are, there is always someone smarter, funnier, sexier, more loving, etc., try giving some of your time to people less fortunate than you, it will teach you many lessons that I think you will appreciate. Good luck hun.

Answer 4

Did you get enough attention as a child? What are you lacking that makes you feel this way?

This is not a good thing, actually, since later on in life you may become very controlling and jealous...

Try to figure out if there are any self-esteem issues, really, dig deep...there's gotta be something somewhere for you to feel threatened by others when you have it goin' on.

I'm sure you probably KNOW what it is, if not, it's probably a sub-conscious thing based on your upbringing. Good luck~

Answer 5

I think this age, this problem is not rare, but it's rare that you have such insight and I want to give you compliments on this.

I don't know you, and it's hard to know you thru your short (yet insightful, and clear) paragraph.

I think may be the problem you have it's 'self confidence' and 'self assurance'.
You need others (not yourself) to assure you, and affirm you, that's why you keep trying to get attention.
And when your self confidence is 'shakie', you need others to approve you.

How is your relationship with your family? often problems with self confidence, self assurance, (needing others to approve) caused by family.
Like if when young age, children is constantly disapprove by others, they learn to stop self approve, and become depend on the other to approve them.

I just want to let your know that the value and attractiveness of a human being is not depend on outside factor (the way the look, dress, try to act culturally trendy). And even if a person try to 'copy' trendy culture, to win popularity, it won't last long.
Afterall, you really want to earn some real friendship, right?

Answer 6

Who cares about what guys think? You dont want there attention. In fact the more you care less about them the more they will find you atractive.

First of all you should not think of yourself as numero uno. Instead of despicing the girl be happy for her. Maybe you should even become friends with her. But the question you must ask yourself is this. Does there attention relly matter?

Answer 7

So you've got a good thing going for you there. But its a very big world and the chances that you're the most attractive girl in the world are like, low. You might have to content yourself with being like, the most attractive girl out of every five thousand or so. 'snot so bad, eh? Instead of getting upset, think to yourself, ah, here is one who is worthy, what can I learn from her?

Answer 8

be proud of the fact that you are confident! maybe it's not the fact that you are necessarily an attention-seeker, it's just that you may be competitive, and you see confidence as something to be competitive with. so you get jealous when you see others being confident like you are. just remain humble and realize that it's ok to take the back seat to other people sometimes and to hold your tongue when you feel it's appropriate.

Answer 9

you Be yourself, you have to LOVE YOURSELF and YOU NEED to accept yourself, just the way you are!!

when you like you...you don't need approval from anyone about, you liking you...so you don't need to seek no ones attention, YOUR OWN attention TO YOURSELF will be enough for you!

Answer 10

Let others have the limelight sometimes, just remember to share the floor