Can A Mother Think Her Child Is Unattractive? First Reactions?

Question

This question is not meant to offend, or upset anyone, and I am asking this in all seriousness. I was watching that Seinfield episode, when Eileen and Jerry saw the baby and thought the baby was ugly, but the parents were completely oblivious. I've always wondered about when I get pregnant. I know that I will love any child I have, and be thankful for the little blessing. My mom always jokes with us, and tells us we had big heads or were big babies, but she says we were beautiful babies. I was just wondering, do all parents think like that? This question is hard to word...I guess i'm just more or less wondering when you see your little bundle of joy, no matter what other people think, do you automatically just know that your child is the most beautiful in the world?

Or is that something you just don't even think about after birth, and are just glad they are here safe and sound? The whole process is very intriguing to me....

Answer 1

LOL !! This is a true story... When I had my first daughter I didn't get to see her right away due to complications. So I was laying in my hospital room and my mother came to me crying. I thought she was crying tears of joy because I had just given birth to the grand daughter that she had hoped for. So, fishing for a compliment, I asked her. "Why are you crying mom?" It was to my amazement that she sobbed, "Oh Andi, that's the ugliest baby I've ever seen!" , "She looks just like her father!" This frightened me, because at the time my husband was a good guy but he was no prize bull to be sure.

So, as soon as my anesthesia wore off enough for me to walk, I went to see her. It was only moments before I also was crying. As I looked through the window at all the beautiful babies, I announced my daughters name and to my dismay, they bypassed all the pretty babies and brought to me the most hideous replica of.........yep, my husband.

EGADS !! I thought to myself. She had a head that looked like Sputnik and a forehead that would do any Neanderthal proud. It could have been the medication still wearing off but I seem to remember thinking something to the effect of, "God in heaven, why couldn't she have at least looked like Chucky from the movie?" and, "What ever happened to the face that only a mother could love?"

All the same, ugly as she was, I didn't love her any less than when I had delusions that she was going to be a pretty baby. Now she's a 13 year old beautiful, blue eyed, redhead. So, no, you don't necessarily automatically believe that your baby is beautiful. But you do get over it......EVENTUALLY.

Answer 2

I'm not gonna give you a sappy, "oh all mom's just think their baby is the oh so cutsie, oh I wanna squeeze her cheeks!!! "

Yes, some mothers are blind the lack of "baby beauty" their child has.

Others, can say, ew wow that's a big nose he's got there

it depends on the person.

Personally I don't think all kids/babies are cute. There's nothing wrong with it, most babies look funky until they're about 5-6months anyways, it's just not a nice thing to point out to the mother.

My friend, Shane would not let anyone see his son until he was about 4 months old. He said that the baby was funky looking and wanted to wait until some features were more prominent.

to each it's own and if my baby was ugly at first, I'd admit it - it's no big deal.

Answer 3

Personally, at first glance after birth, my largest baby was not so pretty. You just don't care. Fortunately, their faces and heads rearrange themselves properly, and then they look much better. You just love your child, and I see my children as bits of a whole. For instance, you might feel warm and fuzzy whenever you see their Daddy's nose on their little face, or you might go gaga over the toes that are inherited from a loved family member. In any case, you are bowled over with love, and you will still look at other babies and think they are beautiful, and at the same time know they are more attractive in some ways than your child. It just doesn't matter. You are in a love affair with your child.

Answer 4

When my babies were first born and they put them on my chest I remember thinking "ooooohhhh my ugly little baby" of course I said something more like "ooooh he's beautiful" and they are both completely true statements. Let me explain, I agree with the first response, all newborns are ugly. They look like little old people with scrunched up faces and swollen eyes and scratches all over their faces, they are bald or have funny looking hair and some even have funny shaped heads! But they are ugly in the most beautiful, mesmerizing way. I still say my babies are some of the most beautiful babies I've seen but I guess that doesn't help you huh =)

Answer 5

Most mothers naturally see the best in their children. Can a mother find her child unattractive? Yes, I've known mothers who admit that their baby is not the "most beautiful baby ever" and I know several moms who commiserate with their daughters' physical limitations in the pre-teen years. But will a mother be turned off by lack of physical beauty? Not likely. Psychologically healthy mothers love their children no matter what.

Answer 6

I have a friend who's little girl, in all honesty, was a really homely baby. I don't think she would have admitted to it at the time, but now she freely says, Oh, yes, A______ was not a cute baby at all." The little girl is a beauty now at 7, by the way.

Answer 7

I wanted my children to be beautiful children and they all were. At birth and a few days after 2 of my children were dark haired and beautiful. Than I had a Blondie/bald baby and I didn't know what to think, but i thought he was just as beautiful. My kids even to this day give me compliments on how attractive my kids are. ages 11,12 and 18

Answer 8

My great grandmother used to say, "Every woman thinks her baby is the prettiest, and if she doesn't, there's something wrong with her."

I think most women do, but I'm sure there are a few who realize their baby is sort of--homely.

After my sons' respective births, I thought they were gorgeous. The older they get, the more gorgeous they are. :)

Answer 9

I have a friend that from the birth of her son, until he reached about 5 months old, did not think he was cute or beautiful. She loves him dont get me wrong, but honestly he just wasn't one of those cute babies.


Oh, and no. All newborns are not ugly. Not at all.

Answer 10

Yea, sure. Mothers can also feel no love for their babies or be bored by being a mother. It's fine. Some people just don't have or allow that strong animalistic mothering part of them and can think their babies are disgusting. All newborns are ugly though.