Ok, I think it is ok for the teacher to flex a little bit of mental muscle to help my child from misbehaving. He is a small problem in listening. But my wife thinks what the teacher said to him was wrong and she wants to talk to the principle. Living in the USA I think we become have become to sensitive to issues. I want to know what you think we should do?
Oh yeah, the teacher has 30 years of experience and my kids goes to one of the top kindergarten schools in the USA. The teacher also before told him that if he does not stop misbehaving he will go to jail.
2006-09-27 16:54:39 · 21 answers · asked by RivenPhoenix 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The teacher should be in jail!!
I don't care if she does have 30 years experience, that does not give her the right to torment a child, to make him nervous, and probably really dread going to school everyday!
If she's been teaching for 30 years she's probably tired of it, and tired of kids & needs to retire. Surely she hasn't been using these methods for 30 years!
Do like my mom did one of my teachers many years ago, she threatened to "drag you out of here by the hair on your head and take you to the parking lot...." LOL! Ya just don't mess with mama's baby! (Or daddy's)
Ok, don't go that far. But I can tell you if it were my child I'd put a stop to it by any means neccassary. Tell her she needs to stop threatening your son or you're going to the principal & if he won't do anything you're going to the school board.
2006-09-27 17:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by smiles2u 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how many years of teaching experience this teacher has, what she said to your son was very inappropriate! Especially to a 5 year old just beginning school! I am sorry but I agree with your wife, I would be talking to that teacher asap. If that didn't work I would be in the principals office so fast my shoes would leave skid marks! I have come across a few situations like that with my now 11 year old son TY, he also had trouble listening at that age...we later found out he had ADHD. You are your child's advocate, he isn't old enough to say what he feels yet.
2006-09-27 16:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The teacher is very wrong. if you was too lock your kid in a room for misbehaving and your 5 year old went too school and told. you would be turned in for child abuse. so whats the difference. talk too the school and for bid any thing like this happening.
2006-09-27 19:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go directly to the Principal and if the Principal does not side with you immediately, or if you see other similar things happening, then go to the School Board. Smilestou is right in her response. What this so-called teacher (torturer) is doing is outrageous, inappropriate and not open for debate. Tormenting your child is not ok. Threatening jail is outrageous. (Remember that children grow up to meet adults' expectations of them.) I hope that teacher gets kicked out of the school. She probably has been tormenting children for 30 years, and she is probably worse to the ones whose parents don't stand up for them.
2006-09-27 17:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by schoolquestions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens when he misbehaves and finds out he doesn't go to jail? Then he thinks adults lie, and if you try to warn him of (appropriate) consequences, he will likely disregard them, and you.
Also, I think threatening, (and certainly if she ever follows through), to lock a child into any room is inappropriate and ineffective discipline. I agree with your wife, I would talk with the principal.
2006-09-27 17:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Miatia 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1st: speak with the teacher and ask him/her what the teacher said exactly and what the circumstances were. Tell teacher about your concerns and insist that they not frighten the child nor threaten him and that if it happens again, you will go straight to the principal and board of education. Document it with a letter to the teacher and keep it in your child's file. It shouldn't happen again.
2006-09-27 17:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by G-35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 5 would you like to hear that your going to jail or going to get locked in the gym, but i d talk with the teacher first.
2006-09-27 17:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by massimo1127 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that this is what the teacher actually said. A lot of times (My step-kids did it too) kids will exagerate or change things around that someone may have said. Go to the teacher first.
2006-09-27 17:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best if you talk to the teacher directly vs. going to the higher ups. The principle will surely reprimand her fearing a lawsuit (because of this wonderful country we live in...). You may hear something from her that may make some sense. If nothing else, you can tell her that you don't like your child to be dealt with in that manner... and you'd like her to stop. If she doesn't abide by your wishes, then you may want to take it up with someone else. I think experience has to count for something. A little fear always goes a long way when it comes to kids. My parents used it on me... and I'm surely going to use it on my kids. It works!
2006-09-27 17:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry but this teacher is out of line. Discipline is fine..a corner or so but to threaten them...HONESTLY! i dont care if this teacher has 30years experience..do u go running round telling other ppls children ur goin to lock them somewher???
wrong! NO DOUBT WRONG!
Ur wife is right, talk to the principal, lay down the law.. no one has the right to discipline ur child in such an aggravated manner.
2006-09-28 00:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by samchic86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋