So I'm South Asian Indian and my family, church, culture, is very strict that we cannot have a relationship until we finish high school. In almost 95% cases where people like each other they ignore this but i am not sure if I want to risk it. Another aspect is that it would be horrible if I told this guy straight out I liked him so how do I make it so that he falls for me? If its mutual then maybe it'll be one step forward rather than two steps backwards- which will happen if I tell him right out and he turns me down.
2006-09-27 16:53:58 · 11 answers · asked by ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have two seperate issues here.
I think the first thing you need to do is decide if you should go against your church, family and culture. Put serious thought into those things. You do not want to take a leap with this guy, and tell him that you like him, if you are not sure you want to date him at all.
Second, if you do decide to pursue a relationship with this guy, just be honest. Don't come right out and say "I like you" but instead ask him to do something with you sometime, or ask for his phone number. Then, when you are on an actual date, or talking on the phone, you can drop some hints to let him know that you are into him.
2006-09-27 16:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by allforasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should honor your culture and your family and wait until after high school. As for this boy, you could begin a friendship with him and then, by the time you are finished with school, you will already know him well and you will know whether there is still something special you like about him. If yes, you will be in the very lucky spot of having a boyfriend who is your great FRIEND, if not, you still have both made a friend and honored your family. Good luck!
2006-09-27 23:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your cultural values that important to you? Are they that important to him for him to risk a relationship? Is there a possibility of a relationship after high school? You don't want to do what everyone else does just because they do it, but you do want to do what is best for you. Is he a guy that you can picture a future with? Will it distract you too much from what you need to accomplish in high school?
Well, if you tell him right out and he does not like you, you may feel a little hurt, but it is okay to be hurt about this. That just means that there is someone different out there for you.
Well, for him to fall for you. Maybe smile at him. Allow your best assets to shine through. Maybe start a friendly conversation with him. Flirt a little.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-27 23:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by souplane21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to an elder sister Aunt, some one that is raised in your culture. they may be able to help you avoid the pit falls of the western culture, such as intimate relationships before you are old enough to deal honestly with them
2006-09-27 23:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus in your studies.If you want to have a relationship as many people have,you need to change your religion,and church.Because you will feel guilty, if you cheat the principles (rulers),of your church.Easy way: finish the school first.Good luck.
2006-09-28 00:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start really caring for him rather that putting your mind straight.When an appropriate time comes when you see favourable behaviour from him then you dont have to hesitate to open your mind.Most important is Care.
PS:If you are a student then let your studies be over .
2006-09-27 23:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stuff the culture go for it
2006-09-27 23:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question should be, do i want to die with out knowing the answer
2006-09-27 23:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you graduate, the rest of what you said DOES NOT MAKE SENSE!
2006-09-27 23:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by delta s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-09-27 23:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by vbob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋