Mostly it is the man who has cold feet, but for some reason I am a little scared. He is almost perfect that is what scares me. Everyone say we are the model couple. What am I scared of?
2006-09-27 16:48:12 · 19 answers · asked by I'm Married!!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's OK not to be sure and wait until you are. When you are ready, you will be more comfortable with everything that has to be done in order to get things right. If you are still going to school, or have some other interest you would like to accomplish before you marry, that is only being fair to him and yourself. Life should be a Lifetime commitment, so you will know when it's the right time.
2006-09-27 16:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long you been engaged --talk with your boyfriend about a planned wedding date. Your being scared is a fear that something can go wrong or he will change his mind. Think positive and cast out negative thinking. Being almost perfect in your sight is an indication that the two of you are compatible and really belongs together. Others also seems to accept your relationship as positive,
2006-09-27 17:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? There's nothing wrong with you- marriage is a big step and it's normal to feel a little hesitant at first. Maybe you're a little scared because everything is great now, but you don't want things to change after you get married. Because that is the case with many people these days. Just get married when you feel ready, it's no biggie.
2006-09-27 16:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly ok to be scared. Marriage is a big step regardless of whether or not you are the "model couple". Don't worry about what others think or say, listen to your heart and talk to your finace. If he's having cold feet there may be issues you both need to work out.
2006-09-27 16:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to wait. It's even healthier than rushing it. It's great that you're totally in love, but waiting is fine. It just means that you aren't prepared to live up to the expectations of being a wife. Don't worry, it doesn't mean you love him any less, and if he really loves you, you can wait a bit. It will make you even more of a 'model couple' for being so understanding with each other!
2006-09-27 16:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continually trust your intestine. it really is the voice of God. Marriage isn't about perfection in any respect!!!! it really is about committing to someone with the purpose of staying with them at the same time as issues are about as far as perfect as you could imagine. issues no man or woman tells you about marriage: a million. it really is exertions!!! each day. Relentless stress from time to time. and also you could not go away. you should stay and fasten it even once you hate him because genuine love tells you that love is an action and that action is staying. 2. each morning you awaken and recommit to the paintings it somewhat is had to be married. 3. you'll fall out of the "in love" degree. then you actually will somewhat comprehend what love is. it really is what takes position at the same time as the infatuation is lengthy previous. 4. Marriage calls for absolute dedication even at the same time as (no longer if) existence receives dull, complicated, complicated, sexless, and only straightforward gruesome. I heavily doubt that anybody, even understanding it truly is waiting for the rewarding undertaking that marriage somewhat is, therefore the intense divorce cost. Marriage is by no skill exciting, exciting, relaxing, and romantic. it really is the most rewarding and mandatory element a human can do with their existence in spite of the indisputable fact that. sturdy success.
2016-11-24 23:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by tobias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a smart move to take it slow. If he loves you as much as you say you love him, he'll wait. I noticed you said he's almost perfect. I'm glad you said almost. My momma told me ,"If it sounds too good to be true, it's probably because it is". You'll know when the time is right. In the meantime, slow your roll!!! Let him earn it!!! You're worth it!!! There's probably a good reason for your feelings. If he loves you, he'll understand.
2006-09-27 17:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be a little frightened as you are taking a very important life-long step. Determine why you are afraid and if there really isn't a reason get very happy.
2006-09-27 16:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nelson_DeVon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when you're ready. Don't feel pressured. If he's in love with you like you're in love with him, then he'll wait as long as you like. This isn't your high school history test, this is for the rest of your life. Take your time, It'll become clear.
2006-09-27 16:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no many people begin to get cold feet when the decision is made to get married....talk it out, reassure him that everything is fine you would just like to take things a little slower
2006-09-27 16:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋