Ok I'm in love with this one guy. And we've dated 8 times. On and off for 4 years. But he doesn't love me anymore even though he says he still does. And I'm still so madly in love with him. We're broken up right now but I can't get over him. I'm trying to make it work with this one guy but it ain't happening. He's still in love with his other ex though. And we argue all the time. But he argued more with his other ex. Someone please help me.
2006-09-27 16:47:07 · 30 answers · asked by Kelly J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He keeps talking about how we're going to get married one day but yet he won't ask me back out. And he tells me he still loves me.
2006-09-27 17:58:40 · update #1
we do not have a remote control for our or anyones elses heart..... what is, is what is...... you can NOT make ppl love or even like you...... it happens or it does not...... walk away..... if he is still playing the ex and you too, then HE has a problem !!! your heart will heal in time...... allow all the emotions to flow, anger, grief, sadness, etc........ go with each one as they come, that is how you will deal with it and learn to let go...... make urself turn the corner and try another path...... get busy living for YOU, and enjoy who and what you are...... a beautiful person deserving of that special kind of love......... God bless
2006-09-27 16:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there.......
Please try to understand than that for you is troubles , big ones .... He never love you and you have mistaken his desires for love , Men are very different than women , a man doesn't have to be in love for desiring a Lady........I am sorry , I wish I had better news for you but look at it the bright way , You can still and you surely will find your soul mate , Look around do not despair
Close to you , very close to you is the man of your life , Sometime getting over a big love, a infatuation more than a love is like stop smoking , You think that you will never can but you will, you are stronger than you think . Go out , Go out with friends and look firstly for friendship......
Good luck , I wish that I could help you a lot more
2006-09-27 16:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by J/P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date a lot and try to find #3. Spend a couple of nights crying yourself to sleep (may I recommend the Linda Ronstadt/Nelson Riddle set of 2 CD's as bedime music?)
Neither your true love nor the current BF are gonna work out. the grief you're going through comes BEFORE love, but it's out there somewhere for you. The right guy will see your capacity to love and give it back to you, too; but that hasn't happened yet.
2006-09-27 16:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop the drama in your life. take a breath.. You can only change the direction in your life, as long as you let this ex of yours control your heart you will never be happy,, You have to find inner peace. you have to want some smiles in your life.. find your self worth.. On the real you shouldn't be with anyone right now.. find yourself live a little, smile a little,, you are somebody that has a lot to give why waste it on someone that can't give it back to you???
Take a stand.. step up and step out,, DO you them when roll on your demands.. your allowing them to control your heart when you should be controlling your own heart.. gurl get a grip and live life is toooo short.
2006-09-27 16:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. There are plenty of men in the sea. If y'll are meant to be then it will happen. Take some time for yourself and seperate yourself from him. If y'll are still hanging around each other you will still be dependent upon him. People enter our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and maybe you have learned everything from him that you are suppose and it is time to move on to bigger and better things. Stay Strong.
2006-09-27 17:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by sweet thang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok,,gurl.. you just leave him alone for good. Be strong and make a statement. Just leave his ***,cuz no one deserves not to be loved in return. Obviously,you love this guy ,but sometimes you gots to let it go to be able to let someone great to come in and bring a smile to your face. Love is a two way street. How can you love someone knowing that person doesn't feel the same way. You are confusing love with lust honey,,, and all you gotta do is just let that s*** go and move on. Be happy with yourself, don't ever make yourself believe that only someone can make you happy. Love yourself first,then one day you will meet someone that is worth your heart.
2006-09-27 16:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by BB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not done better than this in 4 years it is time for you to find someone that wants to be with you. Don,t waste your time trying to weigh who argues the most. Why argue at all?
2006-09-27 16:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by luvngran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need some time away from men for awhile. Focus on just yourself for a change, step back, take and deep breath and decide what is best for you. who and what makes you happy.. life is short, you never know, someone new may walk into your life one day when you least expect it and sweep you off your feet and you will forget about those other two guys
2006-09-27 16:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by soccerchelseafan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single for awhile until you know what type of person would make you happy. 8 times in 4 years is once every six months! Find someone who likes more togetherness.
2006-09-27 16:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone off of eight dates in four years!?!?! Wow! If he told you he does not love you then he does not love you and that is not going to change. Guys don't usually pull that stuff out to try to get a woman more into him, so it is probably not what is going on.
2006-09-27 16:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Phister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋