A buddy and I were talking and I saw that he was holding his girlfriends hand but he was holding it underneath her hand. I told him later that men are supposed to be in the dominant position when holding a woman's hand which means his hand should be over hers, not under. He said it didn't matter to him. I told my friend it should and that his girlfriend is going to think he is a wimp. Am I wrong here?
2006-09-27 16:46:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt really matter. normally the taller person has their hand on top and the shorter person's hand is on the bottom. its just most comfortable. has nothing to do with male dominance or anything.
2006-09-27 16:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kumari 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the couple is fine with it, why should it bother you? It does seem that the man usually has his hand over the woman but if somehow the hands are in the "wrong" position it's awful silly to switch. Sometimes one position is just more comfortable for one person or the other. My arthritis sometimes limits the way I can hold hands without pain. Someday you will fall in love and you will realize that it doesn't matter how you hold hands just as long as as you do it.
2006-09-27 16:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know there was an etiquette for this!
It seems that with the man's hand in front, over the woman's hand, the woman is put in a "childish" position as if the man is holding the hand of a child. It might be comfortable for them both, though, so whatever feels best, that's what they should do. I myself find it awkward to hold a man's hand with my hand in front.
2006-09-27 16:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time it naturally happens with the mans hand over the womans. I never really thought about it being a dominance issue.
2006-09-27 16:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong! They should hold hands in any way that is comfortable to them. Maybe she likes to hold her hand on the top? Maybe he likes it. He looks like a loving person when he says it does not matter to him. You look like somebody who is about dominance and control rather than somebody who wants to connect with a partner. It is about the loving connection, not about what it looks like when they do it!
2006-09-27 16:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! The husband is the dominant person in the house or relationship! He is the head of the household per God! The wife or girlfriend need to submit to that!
2006-09-27 16:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Yankee Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no proper or correct way to hold hands.
2006-09-27 16:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats rediculous. it doesn't matter whose hand is on top or bottome. if you're looking at being dominant you probably don't hold a girls hand. that would be sissy
2006-09-27 16:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not matter to him, but she may leave him for another man who DOES put his arm on top.
Women like those formalities, and consider anyone who doesn't observe them to be "not a TRUE MAN".
2006-09-27 16:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make one ounce of difference , you can be dominant because your acting submissive
IT can be sign of dominance even in to days times
2006-09-27 16:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by jac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋