is my boyfriend of 3 years trying to break up or is he cheating?

Question

his acting really werid.when we where first 2gether he would call me and always beg me to come over and get mad if i wouldnt .lately he doesnt even care .he'll tell me to come over and if i dont he doesnt even get mad .last weekend i went over and in the car he told me to listen to this song called can you be my weekend girl?i was like wtf why are you listing to that and he just changed the song when i got mad .he doesnt hardly call and the other day i was playing around and said that i got a new man and i hung up on him and he didnt even call back or anything and when i tell him that his changing and ask him if he wants it to be over all he says is do you want it to be over .before i would see him like 4 times a week and now i see him about 2 times a week and he doesnt even care .the other day he told me to come over cause he wanted to f*ck all day ..if he wants it to be over why wont he just say it already?should i break it off or just let it ride and see what happens

Answer 1

Well, like they say actions speak louder than words. Why say it when he's showing you with his actions. I think you should have a serious sit down with him and let him know that you feel that his heart isn't in it anymore and if he isn't happy you want to know before he does something like cheat (if he hasn't already).

If he answers your questions with questions I think it's safe to say he just isn't in to you anymore :o(. Just put it on the line ask, and find out the truth so you won't be holding on to something that isn't there.

Sorry you are going through this, it's hard to love someone when you aren't being loved back.

Best Wishes!!!

Answer 2

do you love him well it doesn't sound like he wants it to end to me did you ever thing that you need to take the step if you love him always remember love has no pride think about it what and where does that pride get you yeah alone great reward for pride hun you lost the passion the excitement maybe you should look at it like this. maybe he is disgusited when you don't call because he thinks you should be calling more. being with him more why wait for him to tell you to come over why not if you know he is going to be home take it upon yourself to go over and today you be an agressive woman, men do like that listen it is very hard out here don't take things for granted try and add passion if you love him I am one who savors love I can't find it and been searching for years i am just looking out for your interest I know it's only a 47 yr old womans opinion but for some odd reason as I read this I just felt this is how he feels and it's so easy for two peeople to want the same and be thinking something wrong so let me know if you do it and do it more then once .

Answer 3

The constant thing in this world is CHANGE, maybe he is just getting mature and ur taking it bad.

Telling ur boyfriend that u got a new man and u hang up on him and u r expecting that he will call u and beg u not to break up with him and since he didnt, u feel unwanted / rejected. Dont u think that ur being immature and compulsive?

Well, if ur instict tells u that he is cheating and if u think that ur no longer happy with him then split. u r his gf u would definetly feel if he is cheating or not.

GOODLUCK!

Answer 4

Yes, break it off with him sweetie because he's not worth it.

Be the dumper not the dumpee. What he is plaing games when he wants to be bother withu he'll call when he doesn't he don't call, Im sure he is messing around and he wants u to knmow it but he's playing it by giviing little hints. So just dump him and move on to a guy who will not play games and treat u this way.

Answer 5

need to sit down with him and ask him where this relationship is going? and find out whats going on. talk talk talk. communication is important specially after 3 yrs. sounds like yall either need a break or just need to break up. if i was with a girl for 3 yrs i would have already popped the question so find out whats really going on get the truth out of him

Answer 6

You don't have to break up, it's already happened and he isn't treating you very well by not telling you directly. He is using you for one purpose only and you already said what that is. 2) You can do better and find someone who will treat you right. Anyway it sounds like you don't like being a doormat already.

Answer 7

Sounds like its easier to keep you around until things get off the ground with #2. Stop asking (you dont really want the answer to) questions. They only hurt you.

Answer 8

Sorry sweetie, sounds like he wants to break up but doesn't want to be the bad guy in order to keep you as a f*** buddy. I'd break it off, but you need to do what you feel is the right thing, go with your gut instinct.

Answer 9

let him go, stop calling him, dont answer none of his calls, when you do be busy all the time, stop catering to him, apparently he does not appreciate you , and if he calls you just for sex, just say no, why do you want to be miserable sweetie, cancel this guy like a bad check, I know you, you really like this guy, but if he acts like a @ss while your dating, if you decided to marry this jerk then screw over you, if he is not considerate and understanding to your needs, your feelings, your emotions, then fine someone who will, anybody can F**K, find you a man that will that treats you like you are suppose to be or want to be treated, he is probably has someone else, but let him go, dont allow him to let you go Take care K

Peace and Love

Answer 10

Hard to believe he put up with your ways
for three years. You wore him down, and out.
He needs someone more into him.
He should be given a medal. You were hard on him.
If you really want him, you'll have to treat him alot better.
Spend time with him. Be more loving to him.