I have been dating this woman for 6 months and last night we decided to move it into a sexual relationship. she cooked me dinner and she drugged me. when I came to I was tied and gagged and nude. my date and her sister took turns having sex with me. I know sounds like every mans dream but I was never asked and being gagged I was not able to tell them to stop so I know this is considered rape. Now where it gets wild is I enjoyed it so my question is. Is it still rape since I enjoyed what happened? I do not plan on making an issue out of the ordeal I just would like others opinion on this question.
2006-09-27 16:41:14 · 29 answers · asked by willy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a bit surprised at many of the answers and have given some thought. if the tables were turned i believe hands down the females would all say it was rape no doubt. and the people who think being taken without consent is bragging, wow you really need a reality check.
did it happen? yes it did, I enjoyed it yes but on the same note I feel used and ashame but since no one here knows me I feel why the hell not air it out here. for the record i would have said yes without the tying up or the drugs but that was not the options I will take willyum's advice and call the police because wrong is wrong folks no matter what and rape is rape.
2006-09-27 20:36:52 · update #1
Willy, listen dude you were raped and anyone who says otherwise would not say the same if it were a female telling this story. Rape is rape no matter if you enjoyed it or not. The bottom line is we tell females how important it is to report rapes. This is nothing good here and those stupid people who think it is cool well shame on them. You must remember they did this against your will and it was wrong and if you let it go then what is to stop them from doing it to someone who will not enjoy it. do the right thin man and report this rape. dont press charges if you don't want to but do let them police aware of this behavior so they have some history incase of a future problem. and hey man it was not your fault.
2006-09-27 19:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Willyum 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it still is rape whether you enjoyed it or not.
You did not consent to having sex with a third party and you certainly didn't consent to being drugged.
Lots of victims have experienced orgasms while being raped or molested. It is far from being their fault as it is very normal to achieve an orgasm during sex.
If the situation is not dealt with, it could result in the victim carrying scars from the experience for the rest of their life.
Some counselling would be a huge benefit.
Regards,
Billy Dee
2006-09-27 16:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by billydee49 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it definitely is rape. HELLO. You started with "she drugged me" regardless of how you enjoyed it, you should be concerned about what you might wake up to next time she drugs you. What if it's two male truckers with some whips and gerbils.
Also, really though. It may not be an issue for you, but don't think you're unique. That might be truly traumatizing to someone else and you're not being very socially responsible by letting them get away without at least a police report.
2006-09-27 16:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Legally, yes. The thing that would concern me is the drugs. Only you know if you have acted in a manner that would give her a reason to believe that these actions would be ok but I would be seriously concerned about her common sence. If you have not done these drugs with her before then she would have no idea as to wether you would have an allergic reaction to them or not. I would keep my eye on her.
2006-09-27 16:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is rape if you enjoyed does not have any bearing on it. The fact that she drugged you, makes me wonder. I hope they used protection. and how do you know what else they did to you.
2006-09-27 16:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by tina j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would guess that it's not rape i don't even know why u would say that of course u liked it.duh.quit being a whimp let them do it again hey maybe u have started something that leads to a new world of fun.next time try not to wait so long the poor girl must have been frustrated looking at ur *** for 6 months and u ain't givin her none.
2006-09-27 16:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by bronodiamond 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did you give consent? No. Than it is most definitely rape. Do not ever see this woman again.
2006-09-27 16:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
even though you may have enjoyed it, without your consent it is considered rape. but you have to ask yourself. if you weren't gagged, would you have tried to stop it? lucky guy lol
2006-09-27 16:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider it rape since you never said yes. Although if she didn't drug you would you have said yes to it?
2006-09-27 16:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by WaHiAwA WaHiNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even if you enjoy it it is rape if you did not give your consent to it.
2006-09-27 16:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by kay 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋