Everyone at work has been asking if we have set a date yet. Unfortunately, we won't be able to invite everyone from work. How do I handle the questions, once a date has been set, w/out hurting people's feelings?
2006-09-27 16:21:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just give out the invitations and the people that dont get them will be snotty and there's nothing you can do about it. not everyone you know can come to your wedding. most people will understand that.
2006-09-27 16:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being honest and telling them the date won't hurt feelings. What will hurt their feelings is if you suggest they will be getting an invitation, but have no intention of sending one. Only send invites to those you're including and everyone else will understand - especially if you mention at one point that you plan to keep the wedding small.
News travels, so no matter what, everyone is going to find out. I wouldn't try to hide it from people.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 16:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say it's a small ceremony with limited space. Only family and there just isn't enough room for everybody. There's no way to not hurt feelings if everyone wants to go.
What you could do is possibly invite everyone to the reception after the ceremony, or just have a separate "wedding party" with ALL of your coworkers. Maybe an after the honeymoon thing.
2006-09-27 16:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by shogun_316 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The etiquette rule is that if you invite anyone at all from work, you must also invite your own immediate supervisor. You also (of course) have to invite the co-worker's spouses or long term partners.
Send the invitations to your work freind people at their homes, do not discuss your wedding, and do not distribute invitaitons at work, so it remains confidential with the people who are actually going to be invited. It is rude to tell people the details of an event they will not be invited to.
2006-09-28 06:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the people that you invite an invitation, but don't do it at work. But don't be too confidential about it. Just let the other people know, if they ask you, that it's going to be a small place.
2006-09-27 16:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Candice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Announcing the date is one thing. Go ahead and tell people freely. What does it matter?
The invitation is another. Only invite those that you want to share the day with you, and send it to their home address. Don't feel guilty. If there are others who you know really want to join, invite them to the ceremony.
2006-09-28 05:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are Catholic, your wedding is YOUR wedding. Tell all that you have set a date and that you are keeping it small and simple. You don't have to elaborate.
People who are happy for you are still free to attend a bridal shower, send you a gift or card and be there to listen to all the news of your new life when you return form your honeymoon. Those who are aware of the cost involved in weddings will understand. Those who don't understand now, will when it's their turn.
2006-09-27 16:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by north79004487 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Say nothing and send invitations.
2006-09-27 16:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋