Ok, i have been dating since about 1-2 years ago. I have kissed boys. But the deal is my parents do not know. How can i like tell them that i HAVE gone out with guys before? Behind their backs! I want to tell them because they think that i would not be able to keep my grades up and all, but i have!! And i still am!! So, could anyone help me please?
2006-09-27 16:05:40 · 16 answers · asked by Eve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell em. You'll be in deep doodoo, but after the punishment. they might see things ur way.
2006-09-27 16:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by dudekunle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...This is a tough one. Keeping secrets from your parents is not a good idea. It will make them feel as though they can never trust you again. So you have the double obligation of confessing and trying to establish trust, neither of which is going to be easy, but it can be done.
First of all, when you tell them they will probably be angry or upset. This is to be expected. After they're all done ranting and raving, that's the time to offer your sincere apologies and tell them it will never happen again, and that you will always be up front with them. They probably won't believe a word of it, so you have to prove it. Then remind them that their main objective in not allowing you to date, was their concern about keeping up your grades. Remind them of your good scholastic records despite the fact that you were dating, and your desire to continue getting good grades.
While your parents may still be upset with you, and maybe even tell you you're grounded for such and such a time, deep down they will appreciate the fact that you've come clean with them, and will most likely give you a chance to make amends. Meanwhile, be extra helpful around the house, go out of your way to be courteous and follow the house rules. Eventually, they'll see that their daughter is acting in a much more mature manner, and they will loosen the reins. I know this is going to be difficult for you, but in the end it will pay off. Good luck, dear.
2006-09-27 16:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand you're not to any extent further going to love this (being that you've voiced your guilt at sneaking round) yet you should set up some type of video digital camera hiden of their room. It would not ought to run for lengthy, only that little bit your father is in his room after paintings. you've the right to understand the reality, somewhat if it involves something immoral, so i'd not sense too undesirable if I were you. you may also pay interest lower than his door or through the wall in yet another room (it helps in case you're taking an empty glass and pay interest hostile to the wall with the closed area on your ear) listening to the sounds he makes and from which component of the room earlier dragging the danger-free out can help you recognize the position to start up searching for the major. Your theory sounds okay, in spite of the indisputable fact that it also appears like a discomfort to run round checking all of those places, it probable would not be any extra sturdy only to envision them out contained in the first position. If no longer something works you should continually act all worried and damage about this and ask your mom about it. Play the pity card. wish I helped somewhat, best of success.
2016-11-24 23:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth. Just tell them piont blank. They may not buy it but say u did it to prove to them u could keep ur grades up b/c u knew they would never have let u otherwise. But now cuz u lied, u may not be able to go out due to punishment
2006-09-27 16:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by azuleyes404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for one telling the truth is your best option. Cause in the long run one lie turns into another and another and so on and so forth. It all leads to a bigger mess than if you would have told the truth in the first place. Honesty is the surest and best thing.
2006-09-27 16:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think i would tell them. parents dont like to be made to look like fools. i would just sit down and talk to them, maybe suggest a trial run. if you could go on dates and still keep your grades up for a month or two, then talk again and see how its going....
2006-09-27 16:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who are you going out with now?
Bring them home one saturday or sunday and have him support you as you drop the bombshell
There will be screaming and yelling and lots of threats and finger-pointing. You and beau remain calm and logical
2006-09-27 16:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to bring it up casually to whichever one is more leaniant. just say something like i know you told me you dont want me dating because my grades would drop, but ive kept my grades up recently and ive been dating. im sorry to go behind your back but i wanted to prove it to you. something like that and i think ull be fine
2006-09-27 16:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by stoned 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure how old you are. But, if you want to tell them.... just honestly tell them just like you told us. Good luck
2006-09-27 16:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better keep quiet about it since you haven't told them before!
2006-09-27 16:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋