What would you do if this happened to you?

Question

A teacher at my sons school was yelling at him and threanted to spank him with her shoe which she had removed and held over him,,I went to the school to keep it in house, they were suppose to call me today but I recieved no call...should I take this further..this was witnessed my his best friend who was so upset she told her mom who told me my son was too scared to tell me..What would you do..I live in mobile alabama help despreate mom

I left out his is 5 years old and is 36lbs. He was talking in line while waiting for them to call his bus number..someone thought kids should be disciplined and yes I agree but not like this..threatened to paddle with a shoe??? for talking at the age of 5 ??

Answer 1

I'm sorry but it does not matter what your son did. If he deserved it or not there are more acceptable ways to handle the situation and this was not one of them. This teacher sounds like she was out of control. Having to threaten a child with a shoe demonstrates a loss of calm. No one who loses control should be allowed to work with children. A teacher shouldn't even have to yell. And I wouldn't put my children in a class with one who did. I'm a former teacher and I now home school my children after my experiences in the public school system. It is such a joke.

Anyway, I think you need to find out more and not let it go. This woman should not be working with kids.

Answer 2

First things first, go to the police, file a complaint and ask your son's best friend and his mother to come with you as your son's best friend was a witness.

Then go to the school board. IF they don't listen take it to the media - this is abuse and harassment and both you and your child have the right to trust that your child will be able to receive an education without any discrimination or poor treatment.

This teacher should be dismissed or in the least be suspended pending an investigation into her teaching and any allegations against her must be fully investigated.

And for those saying you need to talk to your son - they're partly right. Talk to your son, let him know that no matter what he did, she has NO right to threaten him in any way other than with discipline measures that are legally permissible and in accordance with the school's discipline procedures. Ie she can give him a detention but that's about it.

Your son didn't deserve to be threatened in any way. And as a parent you don't deserve to be dismissed by the school.

Please don't let this lay where it is. Fight till something is done and you and your son receive a heartfelt apology. Also, please have your son removed from any contact with her and have him put in another classroom. As a teacher, I've seen teachers get disciplined and then take it out on the student whose parent complained - have him moved so this cannot happen to him.

And I'm so sorry you and your son had to go through this awful experience.

Sincerely, Meg

Answer 3

I have had the exact same problem myself,and I live in Central Alabama,So I know how helpless you feel when you have to push an issue like this to protect your child,our school system has laws that protect them and anyone that works within their jurisdiction and not a single one that protects the students from an abusive teacher-
If you don't beleive me READ the State RULES AND REGULATIONS HANDBOOK that is handed out at the begining of each year,by law...
I had to deal with a teacher that done similiar things to two of my children.and when I hired my own lawyer the school gave her the choice to quit or be fired so I can only hope its not the same teacher.
If this has happened, go to a lawyer"ASAP"
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Not one that is associated with the school on any level....
This teacher needs to be removed from the school system as soon as possible because he/she has some serious anger or mental stress issues that needs preventitive therapy.
Don't wait or ignore this, the next time this happens your son or someone elses child could be injuired or possibly be killed.
Remember witnesses can be interveiwed and (bullied) ignored by school personell, and the school staff will more than likely take the teachers side especially if this one has worked with in this particuliar school district for a while,but if you have you own lawyer things it will be easier to get affirmative action because the schools just going to place your child with another teacher and that may not be enough to protect your son from this particuilar teacher,he/she will still have contact with your son.

Answer 4

Don't go to the teacher. You and your son should go to the Board of Education and report the incident. But first, file a report at the police department. Take a copy of that report with you. This will assure that they will take further action against the teacher. There are rules at all schools that the children should abide by as well as the teachers. She crossed the line and most likely will lose her teaching license. You didn't say why she was yelling at him and what he my have done. Either way, she handled the situation inappropriately. No teacher is allowed to pose any threat toward any student.

Answer 5

This is definitely something to look into further. My first reaction was "Who does this teacher think she is" and she should be immediately fired. However, I then reflected on some on my daughter's versions of things that have happened (at home and school). They are not always accurate, and whether a version of the truth or a complete lie- she always tells it like she believes it. A perfect example was in kindergarten when her teacher called me to say she had a tough day and through out her behavior report on the way to the bus. The teacher suggested she take it out of the trash and bring it home, but my daughter refused. When she got off the bus, I asked to see her report and she very calmly said it blew out the window of the bus (you would swear she was telling the truth). I've also had situations where she has had problems on the bus. I have asked neighbor kids what happended at gotten 4-5 different versions of the story. I am not saying your child's friend is lying (or your child), but before taking drastic actions make sure you investigate further. Sit them each down and talk to them. If you have any suspiscion that the report is accurate, schedule a meeting with the principal and indicate you would like to talk to the teacher, bus monitor (if your school has one, it is usually a teacher assigned to monitor the students as they get on and off the bus) and the bus drivers. The next step would be to go to the school board, and if necessary the police. You can also file a report with child protective services, who would conduct their own investigation. I wish you luck. Hopefully, it is some kind of misinterpretation as I would hate to think of this happening to my children at school.

Answer 6

First, I would get the absolute truth of what your son did to warrant such a response from the teacher. Ask him ...and his friend, and compare stories. Then, I would march right into the principal's office and demand an explanation from the teacher. I would also call or go to the Board of Education office and demand the teacher be fired. If you don't get any satisfactory answers from them...threaten to call the media. Most TV stations have investigative reporters that just eat this stuff up. And school boards love to have investigative reporters snooping around.

Answer 7

OMG.....I would be on the principles doorstep first thing in the morning. That teacher should be wrote up immediatly for this. No-one has the right to lay their hands on anyone else. NO-ONE. I mean this is a very important message we teach are children at a very young age. What kind of message does this teacher think she's teaching your son. She has no right whatsoever to put her hands on, or even threaten to put her hands on your child. Discipline in that form is up to the parents. This isn't the 1800's...
Who knows, she might have threatened other students as well, and maybe they're too afraid to stand up for their rights. If you don't report her as soon as possibe she could possibly hurt someone. Ya know, teachers are just as capible of assualt, or any other violent act, as any criminal out there.
Make a move Mom.....quick, before someone else gets hurt..
Good luck ! ! !

Answer 8

i would either

a- call the principal and have the teacher talked to or fired
b- I would take it up with your school board
c- i would talk to the best friend, child, and teacher and see the sides of the story

i would do this because if some teacher threatened to spank me in school with a shoe i would say u know what just send me to the office and then i would see what they would have to say about a teacher spanking a child in school. It is wrong especially if there is no reasoning behind it.

Answer 9

Depends what your son did, I'd have no problems with someone threating to spank my kids (depending on how it was done of course) if they were being right little terrors. Tell your son to behave in class in he won't get the shoe :P

But in this day and age it's all about lawsuits and socially acceptable behaviour so if you're that upset about it, request a meeting with the principal of the school and the teacher and just have an open dialogue and get everyone's issues on the table. You can tell the teacher that you don't like that sort of treatment for your son. BUT, you can also ask what your son was doing to warrant the treatment in the first place and let them know that you'll talk to him about his behaviour.

Just my opinion...

Answer 10

I would do everything it took to have this teacher's job...There is absolutely NO REASON for a teacher to threaten a child like that...Me...I'm a tiger when it comes to defending my kids...I would be calling every hour until I got an answer from someone higher up...i.e.-the school principal,school board members..whoever it took to make sure that this teacher suffers the repercussions of their actions. Teachers are the people that we teach our children to trust and respect because they are educators..When a teacher breaks that trust they have no reason or right to be teaching anyone!Good Luck!