How do you know how to act or behave in different situations?

Question

How do you know how to act or behave in different situations?
It seems I am lost lots of times.I dont know should I act like this or like that.What kind of person should I be. I am always looking for other people to do something so I can imitate. When I am alone with new people I dont know what to do or how to behave at all.
So I start acting all weak and people start to put me down,and consider me a looser.Because I always try to kiss their *** and be very nice with everyone,because I dont know any better. Do you just do whatever you want to do,or do you have role model.
It seems that I have no idea who am I.Any help appreciated.

Answer 1

dont worry about trying to impress others. discover new ways to impress yourself- go the distance, see how far you can go and find your own interests not based on what you think everyone else likes or is considered cool. it would start to define YOU. step outside your comfort zone- your zone appears to be what other people are focused on. do what YOU want to do. watch the movies YOU like to watch. listen to music YOU like and read the books YOU find interesting. your true self will start to emerge. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Ouch. The problem here is that any advice we give you may be good adive, but it's much easier said than done. Especially in your case I'm guessing. So what are some baby steps that you could take to get you from 'conforming' to being 'yourself'. A sense of humor always works. You can both kiss *** and kick *** with people you've never met with a good set of jokes and a winning laugh. This doesn't work for 'all' crowds, but it does for most. Let's face it, people love to laugh when appropriate. (Don't try this at funerals.) Make it a point not to be silent throughout an entire conversation, even if it's with people you barely know, but don't just be agreeable with everyone when you do talk. That doesn't 'win people over'. A lot of people like to be challenged during a conversation, so long as it's with a logical bit of info that isn't put in a way that dismisses their opinion altogether. Hopefully you can come into your own and learn to be ok with standing out in the group, as you should.

Answer 3

I feel very sad reading this. I wonder if somewhere you have had a lot of negative messages to make you doubt yourself. And not enough positive reinforcement. Maybe councelling would help. What I do is try to learn three things about a person, or ask opinions on what's going on? I ask a lot of questions, that seems to help. Keep trying till you find an ice breaker, don't give up. You'll find your niche if you relax & use your curiosity.

Answer 4

When I was younger my personality use to blow with the wind.
When I was around one person I acted like them...when I was around another person I would act like them. Both felt natural to me. And then one day I decided that I did not feel right about being like everyone else. I wanted to do what I thought was right because for me I made lots of mistakes acting like others.
I decided I believed in God and decided to find out what HE says is the way I should behave/act. In was through Christ that I began knowing that my actions were right as long as I followed what He said I should do. I never question my actions anymore if I am following His ways. I always know where to go when I have a question on how to act to learn what to do -- The Bible. It is so awesome to feel confident!

Answer 5

I think you should act like YOU. There is no one on this planet who is just like you. Your a special individual and I think that you should act the way you want to act and not copy others. People appreciate individuality and I think you should stop being so scared of being yourself. You are unique and if you had confidence in yourself and stopped stressing over acting a certain way, than you will be more at ease and the others around you will feel this. Be yourself and people will appreciate you a lot more. Just remeber that you are special. Good Luck.

Answer 6

If you're a young adolescent, you're in the right ball park. Many kids go through the same agony. The best advice is to be yourself. Never try to be someone else. The people around you will sense your truthfulness and judge you for that, and not on how well you are behaving. Kids can smell a fake, so don't be one.

Answer 7

It sounds like you have a social skills problem. I wish I could direct you on how to get help for that, but I cant. But since you already have an idea of what your problem might be, maybe others can help.

Answer 8

you need to be yourself this is a really mean world out there if you are different they dont like you then there not worth your efforts.are you autistic?

Answer 9

Learn to be yourself at all times and you wouldn't have to worry about that

Answer 10

Have some beer and take a break!!