Some of you don't realize I lost my wife, whom I'd shared my life with for over ten years, to cancer in August.
Hard enogh to hold a heart that's been torn apart like hamburger, but to offer it up like a small child with a macaroni picture, and have others callously step on it, brings new meaning to the word "pain".
I don't expect all I had with my wife, wouldn't be fair to anyone. But oh to have that shoulder to cry on once again, that understanding smile that says volumes with silence, so many little things to show I'm loved and cherished.
It is hard to go back to a life where I'm just a poor stupid ant, a nobody to everybody.
To have to prove myself all over again, because I'm nothing more than a stranger, not someone's beloved husband anymore...
It is hard to find the strength to love and trust others when they're wearing hob-nailed boots and cynicism is dripping from their fingers...
2006-09-27 15:03:02 · 22 answers · asked by bobkgins_sock_puppet_2 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. I pray that God will give you the strength to get through this hard time. When God is ready for you to love again, He will provide the right person.
2006-09-27 15:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by ironchain15 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you loss. When you write about wanting a shoulder to cry on, I am thinking what you are really reaching for right now is a friend to share your pain. And sometimes friendships can grow into more.
Try reaching out to support groups and to your church.
And remember that you are never alone. God will walk every step with you. There is nothing you can’t share with him. He may not offer a physical shoulder to cry on, but he will stay with you through all the tears. And when you do find someone to share your life, he will share your joy as well.
2006-09-27 15:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you had was special...maybe once in a lifetime...until you are not compelled to reach for the brass ring you once had, plant a garden, climb a mountain, or just collect stamps.
If you can't find the strength, don't attempt the task. You wouldn't other areas of your life; dont do it in this most important area. The strength will return. It will. Be strong in your weakness. That is best.
2006-09-27 15:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by jdoug_sellers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't all mend at the same speed, my friend. I am sorry for your loss; I can empathize with you in a way. I know about loss. I know what you mean. What would your dear wife want for you, to suffer or to try to enjoy your years as best as you can? What would she tell you to do? I wish I had expressed those sentiments to my ex-wife while I was still with her... I'd still be with her if I had known how to express my feelings and sentiments back then... You seem to know how to express your emotions; you stand a better chance than anyone I know of finding the strength and courage to love again, my friend. Hang in there!
2006-09-27 15:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man my heart goes out to you. you may feel like a nothing to nobody, but Jesus loves you and He STILL has a plan for your life, even after so great a loss.
It sounds like you need a change of environment, give God a try..
Psalm 34:8
Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good;Blessed is the man who trusts in Him!
if you find a group of Christians (real Christians not phony baloney plastic banana type) you will find the comfort you need
my condolences for your loss
2006-09-27 15:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by SETFREEBYJESUS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek for to understand him more and more, and seek for the middle of his will on your existence, and do not shun what God has called holy. such an incredible style of weak Christians who imagine they are reliable would don't have any further something to do with the baptism of the Holy Spirit merely because some who're baptized contained in the Holy Spirit pray or talk in tongues and this scares them off. they have truly been taught pretend issues about the Bible. we choose the fullness of the Holy Spirit to be as ambitious as God needs us to be in this loopy mixed up and mean global.
2016-12-06 06:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by frahm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope to love again but yes there a special someone that will come to make the hurt go away but remember their heart is in for you nother but they will care
2006-09-27 15:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I remember, and I have been praying for you. Love will come again, probably when you least expect it. She won't be the same as your wife, but you will love her in different ways. She will love you for who you are, and you won't have to prove yourself for her. I'll keep praying that you will find that special someone.
2006-09-27 15:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that true love feelings can happen to anyone at anytime wait for it...It will find you again. Just now she would want you to be happy so don't second guess your emotions.Have faith.
2006-09-27 15:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bonita722 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can...with a Filipina. Filipinas are very understanding and caring creatures on earth. There are lots of them in the Philippines. You can initially get acquainted with them if you find any Filipino community in your country.
Good luck
2006-09-27 15:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by camilo r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋