I have a question about Islam and the Q'ran.?

Question

I'm a Catholic from the Philippines....

does the Q'ran really states the ff?

"Husbands may beat their wives."

"Do not make friends with Christians and Jews."

I didn't read the Q'ran but I saw these statements in a website....
and I don't hate muslims but I just want to know if these were true...because it seems so brutal...ONLY MUSLIMS can answer these please.

Answer 1

I am not a muslim but I can tell you that... oh crap, I could answer your question from you I am a professor at a n ivy league school, but I am not muslim... so I'm not going to tell you.

Answer 2

What do you mean only Muslims can answer this question? This is an open Q&A forum. Christians know how to read the Quran and Mulslim know how to read the Bible and understand it. From what I recall, the statements that you have made about husbands beating their wifes seems to be valid in the Quran. But, the Bible also says that parents should beat their rebellious chrildren with a rod. Do we do that? Well, all I can say is that I'm a Christian and, I don't practice that type of punishment. Also, the Old Testament allows for stoning to death a child who over a period of time continues to rebell against their parents. So, go figure. It's not exclusive to the Quran and Islam only. (this type of behavior) is recorded in the Bible and Christianity as well.

Answer 3

Beating the wives is only as the last resort. Even the prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has never beaten his wives.

When a wife misbehave, the Quran advises the husband to perform the following,
1)"admonish them"
2)"Refuse to share the bed"
3)"Beat them" but to cause no harm.
4)Get an arbiter, one from her family and one from the man's family.

Here's a verse from the Quran,
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband's absence what Allah would have them to guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance); for Allah is most High and Great (above you all). If you fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family and the other from hers. If they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation; for Allah has full knowledge and is acquainted with all things." (An-Nisa': 34-35)

Regarding your second questions, The Quran does not generalise all Christians and Jews. You can find the Word {among them there are some...}* placed before such criticisms so that the good are not condemned along with the bad.

wallahu'alam,
Peace.

Answer 4

hayaa_bi_taqwa, i salute you for taking so much effort to answer this question!

I just wanna add some details to all the good points people have made here regarding wife "beating":

The word "beating" is used in the verse, but it does not mean "physical abuse". The Prophet (peace be upon him) explained it "dharban ghayra mubarrih" which means "a light tap that leaves no mark". He further said that face must be avoided. Some other scholars are of the view that it is no more than a light touch by a toothbrush, for example. It is also the last option.

Generally, Muhammad (pbuh) used to discourage his followers from taking even this measure. He never hit any female, and he used to say that the best of men are those who do not hit their wives. In one hadith he expressed his extreme repulsion from this behavior and said, "How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace (sleep with) her?” (Al-Bukhari, English Translation, vol. 8, Hadith 68, pp. 42-43)

It is also important to note that even this "light strike" mentioned in the verse is not to be used to correct some minor problem, but it is permissible to resort to only in a situation of some serious moral misconduct when admonishing the wife fails, and avoiding from sleeping with her would not help.

Answer 5

why does every body take what they want to read or understand in the quran with out completing the same sentience, I'm a Muslim and i want to tell you yes its there but the sentence is not complete and i don't memorize it but i can tell you the rest or the meaning of it... husbands can beat their wives only if they try all mains of correction with them read Surat al nisa from this link and you will find it
http://www.quran-islam.org/97.html
also as for taking christians and jaws as Friends its there but also its not completed there was a reason for that but i don't recall in which sura you can find it
as for me i have both Christians and jaws Friends

Answer 6

God is well aware of his creatures. those little things can save marriage life and increase the respect and love between married partner but we don't know.

-sir, regarding beating wives. Muhammad (P) describe it as using four fingers with little spank on the shoulders. in the verse it says if you fear their "neshooz" which is something that is unusual against the husband, then first advice them, 2nd don't sleep next to them, beat them as describes above.

[34]...... As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allâh is Ever Most High, Most Great.
Quran 4:34

-regarding making friends with christians and jews. If Islam allowed me to marry christian and Jewish how can't i be their friends. however in this verse you mention translation has problems. in that verse it says "awleyaa" and awleya means leader over you. so the right thing is don't let the jewish and christians be a guider or a leader over you. for example in Israel you can't see a muslim become a leader.

Answer 7

Both of thse statements may be found in the Qur'an. I do not have my copy handy to look up the references, but they are there.

Answer 8

Well, I'm certainly glad you asked rather than fall prey of those counting on people to not ask questions, lol. Many people have tried and tried to distort Islamic practices and verses from Quran, however as much as they try, there are a million facts that prove them wrong. Some, unfortunately, absolutely refuse to look at these facts and would rather go on blindfolded screaming at anything that slightly differs from themselves.

So to answer your questions. Taken out of context, this verse of the Quran (4:34) certainly seems as if a man is permitted to beat his wife, however upon closer view (which some tend to be too lazy to do) one will see just how extreme this "beating" (lol) can be! So here is the verse:
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all)."
The first step is to admonish a deviant wife. According to American Heritage Dictionary, admonish means:
-To reprove gently but earnestly.
-To counsel (another) against something to be avoided; caution.
-To remind of something forgotten or disregarded, as an obligation or a responsibility.
So when admonishing doesn't work, he can refuse to share her bed, i.e. sleep on the sofa, in another room, on the floor even! If that still doesn't work and this wife is just a pain in the neck, he can "beat" her. Here's why I use quotations: hitting anyone in the face is absolutely prohibited in Islam, the husband is to "beat" his wife with a twig the size of a toothbrush (which is the very purpose of this twig actually), and the twig in no way whatsoever is to leave the slightest mark on the skin. No bruising, no welps, not even a little redness. When you look at this you can clearly see that this "beating" is more of a psychological method of dealing with an insanely noncompliant lady than it is physical, aside from the fact that the majority of men would be ashamed of himself if he "beat" his wife in this manner. I hope that helps and if you need more regarding that situation, just ask!

Second question... I really have to laugh when people spit these slurs at us. In total honesty it is they that do not want to be friends with us, not the other way around (that's why they make up such nonsense). In reality, there is no verse in the Quran that says not to be friends with Jews and Christians. First of all, that would do absolutely no good when spreading the knowledge of Islam, lol! Plus, the Quran basically demands that Muslims treat their families (especially parents) with the highest respect. It would be confusing to those of us (including myself) who have Christian parents/families and Jewish families. Even neighbors are to be respected regardless of religion! Regarding Christians and Jews (called the People of the Book/Scripture in Islam, book meaning Bible), as well as non-Muslims in general, here are some verses of the Quran:

60:8-9 "As for such [of the unbelievers] as do not fight against you on account of [your] faith, and neither drive you forth from your homelands, God does not forbid you to show them kindness and to behave towards them with full equity: for, verily, God loves those who act equitably. God only forbids you to turn in friendship towards such as fight against you because of [your] faith, and drive you forth from your homelands, or aid [others] in driving you forth: and as for those [from among you] who turn towards them in friendship; it is they, they who are truly wrongdoers!"

2:62 "Those who believe (in the Qur'an), and those who follow the Jewish (scriptures), and the Christians and the Sabians,- any who believe in Allah and the Last Day, and work righteousness, shall have their reward with their Lord; on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve."

5:82 "Strongest among men in enmity to the believers wilt thou find the Jews and Pagans; and nearest among them in love to the believers wilt thou find those who say, "We are Christians": because amongst these are men devoted to learning and men who have renounced the world, and they are not arrogant."

9:6 “And if anyone of the Mushrikoon (polytheists, idolaters, pagans, disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah) seeks your protection then grant him protection so that he may hear the Word of Allah (the Qur’an) and then escort him to where he can be secure”

3:64 "Say: O People of the Scripture. Come to an agreement between us and you: that we shall worship none but Allah, and that we shall ascribe no partners unto Him, and that none of us shall take others for lords beside Allah. And if they turn away, then say: Bear witness that we are they who have surrendered (unto Him)."

5:8 "O YOU who have attained to faith! Be ever steadfast in your devotion to God, bearing witness to the truth in all equity; and never let hatred of any-one lead you into the sin of deviating from justice. Be just: this is closest to being God-conscious. And remain conscious of God: verily, God is aware of all that you do."

16:125 "CALL THOU [all mankind] unto thy Sustainer's path with wisdom and goodly exhortation, and argue with them in the most kindly manner- for, behold, thy Sustainer knows best as to who strays from His path, and best knows He as to who have been guided."

18:29 And say: "The truth [has now come] from your Sustainer: let, then, him who wills, believe in it, and let him who wills, reject it."

2:256 "Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah heareth and knoweth all things."

42:48 "But if they turn away [from thee, O Prophet, know that] We have not sent thee to be their keeper: thou art not bound to do more than deliver the message [entrusted to thee]. And, behold, [such as turn away from Our mes­sages are but impelled by the weakness and incon­stancy of human nature: thus,] when We give man a taste of Our grace, he is prone to exult in it; but if misfortune befalls [any of] them in result of what their own hands have sent forth, then, behold, man shows how bereft he is of all gratitude!"

Again, hope it helps, and feel free to ask more if you need!