My parents have made the rule that i'm not allowed to date anyone out of the church i'm part of until i move out. HOWEVER i have found this amazing guy who i reallllly like and he likes me but my parents are against it. I'm only 16 and totally can't be living out of the house right now, should i just ditch the guy for my parents? What if he's the ONE? Help please!!!
2006-09-27 14:08:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough one there! Hmm. Well... I might get some thumbs down ratings for this, but I say go for it! Unless your parents are seriously hard core and will kick you out of the house for it. My dad always told me if I dated a black guy he would beat my @%%. Well, I dated a black guy (not for revenge or to prove anything... in fact, I hid it from my dad for quite a while!) but, he found out from a letter I wrote to the boy. He was mad and didn't talk to me for a few days... but he got over it.
By the way, when I was 16, I started going out with a half Spanish half white guy......... four years later and we are married and have a daughter on the way and my parents are really excited about it.
2006-09-27 14:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It'd be so easy if you weren't so conservative! I'm pretty faithless about "the one" in general, so with that bias, you're gonna have to set up something sneaky. As a college student, I had a nice fling with a high schooler for a few weeks. An honest assessment: it was great (both the sex and the correspondence), totally unsanctioned (I never had to face the 'rents, but they spied on our MSN, and although I would've loved to develop a relationship (make it official), we agreed to what I like to call a "breakup of circumstances", no one is at fault, we both loved each other, but it wasn't gonna happen. Maybe you need a magic affair, short and sweet, unless you wanna try and corrupt your bible study buddies. Your options aren't pretty, but try to role-play each course of action working out. It's a shame you don't live in a more liberal household where you can negotiate with your parents more
2006-09-27 14:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nate L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the one he will still be there when you are actually old enough to make a decision like this. At 16 we have a tendency to think we know it all, however 10 years from now you will understand that you were very off your mark. I actually completly disagree with your parents rule, however you are two young to be deciding between a guy and your parents. Respect thier decisions for now, or at least allow them to think you are, but dont start anything that you are not knowledgable enough to finish
2006-09-27 14:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. Even if you don't agree, they've been working to raise you for 16 years. Listen out of respect for them. Guys come and go. It's probably not best to meet THE ONE when you're 16, anyway. If I had met my wife when I was 16 (before I grew up), I never would have had a chance with her. If it's truly meant to be, you'll run into him again when the time is right. Or he'll start coming to your church.
2006-09-27 14:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by shinnphoto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your place, I would just keep him as a friend!
That way, you can really see if he's the right kind of guy for you.
You don't want to go all out for this guy, disrespect your parents' wishes, and end up breaking up with the guy a few weeks later cause he cheated, lost interest or whatever!
Stay by your parents right now, especially if you can't support yourself.
Remember, you're 16 years young! You've got your whole life ahead of you to find "The One". :]
Hope that helps!
2006-09-27 14:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well while respecting your parents wishes, could they not respect one of yours? I mean in my eyes, they should give this guy a chance. I am a mother of 2 (19 and 21) and I was always open to the idea of meeting their friends, boyfriends, etc. Just be mature about it and sit them both down and tell them how you feel. See if that might make a difference. I hope so for you, however as a parent myself, I do understand why your parents have their rules. Its for your sake as well as thier own peace of mind. Good luck!!
2006-09-27 14:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither. Your parents are weird but **** your parents off for a bf is even weirder. Tell the guy and do the sneaky dating thing. It's rather fun and adventurous. Or you can talk it out with your parents, try to convince them that he's nice. Just get along, kind of, cauz boyz have hidden faces (many would just date you to bring you on their bed, and very little would take care after you if you're pregnant underage)
2006-09-27 14:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by AlvaDaGansta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if this guy is of the same religion as you then there shouldn't be a problem. So talk to your parents about that. If this guy really likes you and you really like him then maybe he could start going to church with you. Or with another member of the church.
2006-09-27 14:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by LilSenorita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is really the one keep being friends with him and hanging out with him. He will still be there for you when you get older. On the other side talk to your parents about their beliefs. Found out exactly why they have made that rule, and see if you can work out a compromise.
2006-09-27 14:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by mdguy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's the ONE, he'll be there later. For now you've answered your own question... you are 16 and live with mom and dads rules.... get use to it...
If you can't possibly wait... talk to the boy...ask him to join your church... if he refuses... he ain't the one. Because is feels about you as you do about him...he should be willing to do anything to be with you.
BUT Parents are King and Queen... so Princess listen to the royal couple.
2006-09-27 14:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋