Recently, I've been under a lot of pressure from school, sports, music, my parents, preparing for college, SATs/PSATs - basically everything. I'm feeling so overwhelmed and I don't have anyone that I trust enough to open up to. (I don't like sharing my problems with my friends and I don't trust my parents to react helpfully.) I never have any spare time because I'm so busy. Does anyone have any suggestions to help relieve stress? I try keeping a journal, but it takes so long to write everything down...
2006-09-27 13:51:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your first step should take you to the school counsellor, or psychologist if there is one. They are very experienced in helping students with problems just like yours. And your problems are extremely common with students your age.
If you feel like you just can't bring yourself to talk to them, then the next step is to evaluate and prioritize your activities. It may be you are just tired because you are way over scheduled and have no free time to just relax and chill out. Tired and over-extended people are stressed out people. You should be getting around 10-12 hours of sleep at this point in your life, and less than that will cause problems for you.
As you take inventory of the activities you are involved in, score the activity as to how enjoyable it is to you, and how much interest you actually have in continuing to do it. Don't consider what other people think you should be doing or want you to do. Are you in sports because you really like sports? Do you play your instrument because you like to, or is it just something you continue because your parents have paid so much for the instrument and you've played for years?
Sports isn't the be all and end all- it's possible to just play for fun and not the school team. Ditto for the music. Unless you think you want to pursue a career in either of these areas, perhaps it's time to let it go for the time being.
When you decide what you are going to eliminate, do it and don't let anyone talk you out of it. Tell them you just don't have the time and energy to give it, and that's it. No arguements allowed.
I would explain to your parents why you are giving up some activities, and the reasons- number one being you are feeling over stressed and over tired. You might be surprised to find they are more supportive of you and your efforts than you think. Parents aren't mind readers, and have no way to know what's going on in your head or mind unless you clue them in.
By backing down on some of the activities, you will be in a better position to evaluate what you really want to do, and find a time in your schedule for it. Learn to say no. No, I don't have time to do that. No, I really am not interested in doing that. No, I don't want to do that. No is a very good word, when it helps you keep control of your time and life.
For what it's worth, this stressful time does pass. You will graduate, and you will get into college. You will graduate from college, get a job, and have an independant life. Right now it may seem like those days will never come, and it's hard to imagine them when you can't see the light at the end of this tunnel. You are not the only one to feel this way, you are not the first. You will survive it and things will get better. Meantime, if you need help to put things in better perspective- go see a counsellor, either at school or at church. And do try to talk it over with your parents. They really do love you and care about what is best for you.
2006-09-27 14:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by The mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meditation.
Humans are good at tensing up but they are not very good at relaxing. Remaining in a chronically stressed state not only takes the joy out of life but it saps the body of alot of physical & emotional energy that you could divert to more productive tasks.
I had a similar problem & found meditation to be very helpful.
Also, focusing all of your attention on the immediate reality of NOW instead of letting it drift to the past or the future makes a BIG difference & was a large part of the side-effect benefit from meditation. The psychological effect of thinking about the future & the past is worry - wasted energy. You've got alot going on - may as well enjoy it!
It probably doesn't matter what kind you do, so long as you find one you like & stick with it every day.
Good Luck!
;-)
2006-09-27 14:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take deep breaths. Try to do something you enjoy, or try petting an animal, open a window, call up a friend and talk. Doing something like that will keep the stress off your mind and help you release what's being pent up inside. Don't go to any extremes, however, I have, and deeply regretted it.
2016-03-18 02:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the PSATs coming up too... but I found a few things that help dealing with stress (well they help me.)
1) I try to focus on one small thing at a time and just put one foot in front of the other. It makes it easier to handle than dealing with everything at once. (This one helps me the most.)
2) Make time specifically to just relax and watch tv, go swimming, read, or whatever.
3) I try to tell myself it's only going to be for awhile and then after that everything will be fine again. Having something to look forward to in the long run helps.
4) Go for a long bike ride, car ride, or walk and listen to your favorite music/ talk to friends.
2006-09-27 14:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Diet and Stress
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Reduce Stress By Exercising
http://stress-reduction.blogspot.com/2006/09/reduce-stress-by-exercising.html
2006-09-27 19:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 24 out of school and working/paying bills/applying for loans/trying to get promotions. I would give my left leg to have the highschool stresses in my life. If you're stressed as a teen your taking life entirely too seriously. Sounds like you need to have fun.
Sex and weed 3 times a week and you'll be good.
2006-09-27 14:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by szabo31 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When I am stressed I lift up my hands to the sky and give all my troubles to my creator,.....only he can fix them. I after I am relieved of my stress my shoulders relax and then I start to thank Him for what a wonderful God he is and thank Him for being there for me. Sometimes I go further and start to worship Him thru Jesus and the Holy Spirit in turn it empowers me to be a soldier for the rest of the day.
2006-09-27 15:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on overload. Let it be easy. Take care of you first and the obligations, one by one. Warm baths, aromatherapy, reading for enjoyment, watching a video. Alone time is absolutely necessary.
2006-09-27 14:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered a massage? But a massage can do wonders and you don't have to have them all the time reward yourself. or just taking a drive to a state park and finding a place where you can just lay or even release your stress where no one can hear you. or find a craft or hobbie. volunteer in the community. take your mind off of you and devote it to someone else.
2006-09-27 14:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. leave ur email cuz answers is a drag to get to. i've been thru these things and i can offer valid advice. try meditation. holisticonline.com. try walking and listening to music. also a warm bubble bath with aromatherapy candles can help ease ur soul.
2006-09-27 15:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋