She's been my close friend since 4th grade.. I think she might even like me, neither of us have the guts to just ask each other out. I think all that, then I think, I'm wrong. It's happened to me enough in my life already after all. I don't know.. someone give me a shot of light in the dark.
And no, I am not some pathetic 5th grader crying over a crush for those idiots who might think so.
2006-09-27 13:20:56 · 19 answers · asked by Tom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell her!! What have you got to lose?
2006-09-27 13:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
assuming that you are old enough to make concious decisions and expect to deal with the recoil, it is in the end something you will have to figure out on your own.
However I had the same problem come up 3 years ago with a great girl I knew. She and I had been friends for quite a bit, but she was shy like me. We got together on a joke and have been together since. I'll tell you this when you are friends with someone you see all the good and some of the bad, when you start dateing someone you see all the good and all the bad. Sometimes it is ok, but sometimes it is hard. If i was not so easygoing it would not have worked.
If this didn't work out for me I can tell you quite honestly that we would not have harsh fellings towards one another. We would however not talk to each other like we did before we started dateing.
Also if there are kids, that is a very hard thing to deal with.
Are you sure this is not just because it would be convienente?
Well, I hope this helped
Dez
2006-09-27 20:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dez Myr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure that when or if you start going out with her it will be a little awkward for both of you, especially when one of you asks out the other. To make it not so awkward, you should try telling her you like her when it's a little dark, maybe on a midnight stroll, when you're walking her home from a party, etc. That way it's still romantic, but you both don't have to see each other blush...! =D Good luck!
(Just wanted to add that I think it's great you want to date a friend. I here that relationships last longer when the couple are friends first. Makes sense since you know that the two would get along!)
2006-09-27 20:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be up front and honest with her. I have been in the position of this girl you like . I prefer that approach. You just tell her that you care for her a lot and the feelings expand to more than just friends. If you have been friends for this long she probably already knows you like her she is just waiting for you to make the first move.
2006-09-27 20:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by gemir69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are available, I suggest something like:
"Sara, we've been friends a long time and you know I wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardize that friendship. Several times recently I've caught myself thinking what an amazing person you are and if you are ever interested going beyond friendship, I'd love to grab a cup of coffee and talk."
2006-09-27 20:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by mahoneycuttnc2002 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just do it, but be prepared that if it really creaps her out, you might lose the friendship. Sometimes we all have to take chances on the things in life we really want. Better to have tried and failed then to do nothing and wonder!
2006-09-27 20:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rckets 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card. send her an SMS. Send her an e-mail. Get her roses. get her chocolates. ASK HER OUT OR YOU"LL NEVER KNOW> Go for it, bro. Don be no 5th grader crying over a crush. BE A MAAAAANNNNNN, Man.
2006-09-27 20:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Totoru 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem So joke about it first and if it seems like she was happy about it then just ask her. Anything you say to her can be taken back with "i was just asking", so you really have nothing to lose.
2006-09-27 20:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back when I was young, I had a female friend say to me: "You know what it feels like when you have to go to the bathroom?"
I said, "Yeah," thinking it was the setup for a joke.
She said: "Will you feel me, and tell me if I have to go?"
True story, but probably no help in this situation.
2006-09-27 20:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by lucyanddesi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sticky sit. man. Try and make it obvious that u like her
if ur in middle skool u can easily check out from some friends to find out
if ur in highschool go ahead and ask her out
2006-09-27 20:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by Panzy killer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is your friend Tell her that you value her friendship and that she has the qualities that you consider important in a relationship. She is probably very attracted to you and is giving you time to know yourself.
2006-09-27 20:26:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋