Ok, well the thing is she doesn't like me because apparently she heard rumors about me "openly" smoking weed(which I don't.) and that we had sex in the pe field in our school last year(he just graduated last year). And she hates me with a passion...and she tries playing it off like whatever and thatb she really does like me...but sometimes when I call and she answers the phone I hear her talking crap about me...And my boyfriend has this ex-girlfriend who she really likes...and she is going to college in Arizona, and we live in California. And she invited her over to come to dinner tomorrow because it was his birthday last week...and what I think she is trying to do is break us up. We have been together for almost ten months now, and pretty much this whole time she's been trying to get us to break up...is it wrong of me to hate her? And I mean really really hate her? And this other girl...?
2006-09-27 12:58:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend does not like this girl at all, he actually told her to her face...that no matter what she does, no matter how many tricks she pulls she won't get him back because he loves me.(I think that's why his mom doesn't like me so much.) And this girl cried...cuz she tried to make it so that him and his mom and her and her mom go out to dinner...and thats when he told her and she started crying and her mother slapped him. But I mean, I really do not like her, and he knows that and understands why.
2006-09-27 13:04:52 · update #1
Whether his mom likes you or not, she should respect the fact that your boyfriend likes you. For that, she owes you a certain amount of respect, at least in front of your face. I think it is certaintly disrespectful to make diparaging remarks about you and to invite an ex-girlfriend over. Whether or not she has valid reasons for disliking you or not, she is not in the relaitonship with you and so she needs to back off. So as long as you've always been respectful with her, then yes, I think you have a valid reason for being upset.
2006-09-27 13:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by 123123123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but if you really love him stick with him , but dealing with the mom can be difficult . Just think of it as a character building experience. Being mad at her treat won't get you anywhere. Treat her kindly and maybe (not sayin it will happen) but she will find out you really are a good person.Remember Respect is KEY!
And About the other girl remember "EX"-girlfriend they are not together anymore your with him so take a breath and just give it a rest. If he loves you then he won't even think of flirting with her. And Talk to him about this problem he will understand where you are coming from.
2006-09-27 20:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Amiga2780 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to secretly hate her but you must respect her. I had the same problem with my boyfriends mom but on her birthday I sent her flowers. Now we are on each others good side. If you are invited go to the dinner and be as sweet as can be. As for the other girl pay her no mind unless she is trying to make a mom on your man.
2006-09-27 20:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetpea 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, is wrong. You need to talk see what u don"t like about her or what she don"t like about u. Talk with your boyfriend and find a way to do something that she may want u to do, and then she will may do something that u like. Is hard to star but at the end every body is happy at list u ty and won be on u. About the other girl is not on his mom is on him (your boyfriend) he love u no problem u are his girl. Is his birthday u be there and them what. be happy smile and remember is on ur boyfriend.
2006-09-27 20:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Roland G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's difficult if she actually dislikes you. but if you want to stay in a relationship with this guy- you have to TRY to get along with his family. all of them. unfortunately, he has little control over what she does (like spending time with the ex). but he can stand up for you. maybe you should show her that you're good enough for her kid. as a mom- i'd say that there's a high bar there, but just give it time. she doesnt have to love you, but no matter what we all think it's a fact that men listen to their moms! but i really think you should never hate anyone. maybe if she sees that you like her, she will learn to like you. but if she can tell you hate her also- things will NEVER change. good luck!
2006-09-27 20:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by sherdencutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a teenage boy and we want the girls that our son picks out to somehow mimic some of our standards. The truth is no one will ever be good enough for our sons but we do want the potential candidates to be decent.
2006-09-27 20:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong of you... I hate my bf's parents... his step-mom does the phone thing to me ALL the Time!!! It's so annoying... his dad tells me he doesn't like me so that doesn't matter but I'd say something to your guy and ask him to talk to her or ask him if YOU can talk to her about it... Like pull her aside when everyone's together one day, she might just be scared because of the rumors... tell her they're totally untrue and ask her to give you a chance.... Good Luck to ya...
2006-09-27 20:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~That Silly Oto...~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural for you not to like your bfs mom. I live with my bf and his mom and we don't get along that great either. She pretends to like me for his sake I thnk, but she always seems kinda shady. sJust be honest with your bf, let him know how you feel about his mom and about this other girl. Ask him why she really must come over. This is his EX... she shouldn't being coming over for his b-day dinner. He should be stopping that. Tell him he has to pick, you or her at his dinner... Good luck!
2006-09-27 20:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you gotta change your game....start with being descrete with your activities. If his mom is hearing rumors about you then you seriously need to think about your image out there.
It's ok to dislike here for being judgemental, but you gotta admit...those rumors would scare any mother off. I'm not judging you but be real...mothers don't want son's dating girls who get high and put out....be descrete.
2006-09-27 20:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by L.lion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her like the plague but keep the respect and don't sink to her levels if she is playing games at her age...
It's not worth it and your boyfriend needs to speak with her if that's the case because his mom needs to realize that her little boy is growing up and it's time to let go
2006-09-27 20:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by benh316 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋