These calls are to a gut whom she said she and her kids met at a camp ground, but before I asked her I asked her son who said he never met anyone named "don". Now almost every call she's making to this guy is over 20 minutes! I had a friend call her up and my lady told her that they're just "basically" friends! Now I dont know what to think!? Anyone have any thoughts?
2006-09-27 12:52:35 · 19 answers · asked by barbell405 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to talk to her about how this makes you feel.
2006-09-27 12:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well friend.....what do YOU think it means?!
It could be innocent....MAYBE, but it's probably not. If you can get her phone and some time alone with it...call the number and talk to this person.
Say..."Is this Don?", and go from there. Don't be nasty to him. Think about what kind of information you need to get. If you do things right and aren't belligerant or nasty the guy you might get some information you can use against a discussion with her. For example, if he tells you his name of Jim, and you believe he is telling you the truth, then you can calmly sit with her and talk to her about your concerns and ask about the number. You can then ask what his 'real' name is. If she said BIll, then she's probably lying to you....assuming you think the guy was telling you the truth. You will have to gauge this yourself.
This guy might not know she has someone in her life already. So he may be a victim to this too. If he knows and she still did this, let me know, I'll hold him down while you kick the $hi+ outta the guy.
Good luck.....cheating sucks, so does lies and deceipt.
2006-09-27 13:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got 20 bucks that says she is feeling ignored or needs more attention from you. It takes flowers and an understanding that her feeling sis all that really matters in order to overcome this. I almost cheated on my boyfriend because someone else was paying alot of attention to me. Women dont just "make friends" with guys and lie about it later. Something is up, I would talk to her about it after you give her some attention a flowers. Oh, wild flowers are best.... lots of color
2006-09-27 12:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by abbienikol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The phone bill is what did me in when I was cheating on my wife. Women are smarter than men when it comes to stuff like that. She's good sticking with the friend label.. My dumb *** threw away the part of the phone bill that had the illegal number on it. Then the stuff hit the fan and there went my marraige. But I wanted it to happen I was just trying to look like I was putting up a good fight.
2006-09-27 12:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by CHEYENNE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds fishy! She has no right to be talking to another gentleman for that period of time. Sounds like it could become more than just "basicly friends" if that is what it "basicly" is right now...
You need to sit down with her and tell her you don't like the calls... and don't think it's appropriate since she is in a relationship with you. (Ask her if she would care if you did the same thing).
If you just get a defiant answer... it's time to seperate your lifes.
Sorry man.. I hope it isn't what it looks like. good luck.
2006-09-27 12:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh Come On!!! What do you think???
Very rarely are men and women friends that "chat" with one another for 20 minutes. What do you think they are talking about??? Unless he's gay and they're talking about the latest looks in fashion and the best color for her lipstick, the guy is after your girl....if he doesn't have her already. If he's so special that she has to talk to him so much...ask to meet him. And check her reaction. That ought to be REALLY GOOD!!!
2006-09-27 13:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is not romantic YET with this person its coming...ask yourself this, have you honestly been all she needs you to be, experience tells me that if someone is cheating on spouse/significant other there is something missing from the romance. If you know in your heart you have been all you need to be for her then the problem lies with her. My personal opinion is that once a cheater always a cheater. What is her past dating/marriage history like?
2006-09-27 12:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by mchlw43 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes she's Lying 2 U get smart & tell her 2 either stop calling this other guy or your leaving her cheating ways & believe me she's doing more then talking I'll bet on it.Good Luck
2006-09-27 12:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit her down and YOU talk to her...ask her if she would like it if you met a mystery woman and talked to her that much. If she says she wouldn't mind, then there is DEFINATLY something up.....no girl would like that! But if she insists that they are just friends...try asking him round for dinner since they're such good friends. See how she reacts to that.
2006-09-27 12:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Munchy Mooneo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They honestly could just be friends but if it is causing you problems you really need to talk to her. She really needs to respect how you feel about this. If they truly are just friends, then it really shouldn't be an issue to explain herself or to stop calling him. If you wanted to you could call him too - but that would be up to you.
2006-09-27 12:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hit yourself with a barbell. Why are you bringing other people into your business? She told you her story and she's sticking to it. Now decide whether or not you believe her, ask her not to call him on your phone if that makes you uncomfortable, and move on either with the relationship or your life.
2006-09-27 12:56:06 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋