This question has been asked by many people. How long should you wait to have sex after you start dating?
Me, I say at least two months. Thees days, oral sex is considered a good night kiss on the first date. How long do you think people should wait?
No sarcasm or rude comments, please. They're not called for.
2006-09-27 12:47:44 · 22 answers · asked by D-Wizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that there are a lot of variables that come into play when dealing with this situation. Some of the things you should take into consideration are:
1) Beliefs
2) Maturity levels
3) How you feel about the other person
I think that maturity levels are uterally important. Don't do anything that you do not want to do or feel you are not ready for. I think you should get to know the person a while first. Talk A LOT! Don't rush into anything.
2006-09-27 12:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Amber C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol oral sex is considered a goodnight kiss? That's funny!!! OK no seriously, 2 months is a long time for a girl... We start to wonder if you are even sexually attracted to us. For my current boyfriend I waited 2 weeks.. but the feeling was mutual. I think that you and your partner would know when the time is right. Didn't force it, but don't ignore it..
2006-09-27 19:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by abbienikol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to wait until I know me and the guy are in love and the chances we'll be long term are good. I hate sleeping with someone and then we break up like a mth later. lame. However, oral sex is the most personal to me...guys have to wait a long time to get there. heh. Otherwise, I wait on average month or 2.
2006-09-27 19:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that the way people are having sex on the first date is way too fast. how can you do something so intimate with someone like on the 1st date? i agree with you- 2 months is a perfect amount of time.....you get to really know the person by then....around 2 -4 months is good..depending on how much time you spend together in those months....so it depends.
2006-09-27 19:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you don't need to feel pressured to have sex at all. Disgusting is it not?! (Not sex! But the expectation that you are expected to perform after dating someone for a period of time regardless of whether you want a relationship with them or not.) Personally, I say you wait until you are married.
Spend quality time with your dates -- acknowledge their minds, take time to really get to know them. Really. What is the rush?
2006-09-27 20:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by joyann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS LONG OR SHORT AS YOU WANT TO. BOTTOM LINE IS THAT YOU HAVE TO BE READY TO MAKE THAT TYPE OF DECISION AND ALSO MATURE ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES.
BY ALL MEANS DON'T LET PEOPLE GUILT YOU INTO DOING IT IF YOU WANT TO WAIT THEN WAIT. IF YOU DON'T THEN DON'T.
MEN AND BOTH WOMEN HAVE A LITTLE VOICE IN THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD IF YOURS IS SCREAMING AND SHOUTING NO LISTEN TO IT. IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS AND YOU HAVE TO ASK SOMEONE'S OPINION THEN ITS SAFE TO SAY NOW IS NOT THE TIME. HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. THE SONG BY LIFE JENNIGS SPEAKS TO WOMEN AND GIRLS BUT IT CAN ALSO APPLY TO MEN AND BOYS. "ONCE ITS GONE YOU'LL NEVA GET IT BACK.L
2006-09-27 19:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Nia M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait at least two months and even longer. You really need to get to know someone before you sleep with them even with protection. I would get blood tests done before I slept with someone.
2006-09-27 19:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 hours
2006-09-27 19:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go on a lot of dates and give her a lot of good night kisses.
2006-09-27 19:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till your married. Believe me it will be alot more special when you find that person you love the most and you both have saved yourselves for eachother. And you share that special relationship with them and them only.
2006-09-27 19:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by crankyangel102 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋