We went and got loped 5 years ago and are now having our "wedding" I think It would be a good idiea to write our own vows but I don'r know were to start?
2006-09-27 12:44:07 · 21 answers · asked by f_mcurcio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Speak from your heart
2006-09-27 12:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Say what you feel, My husband And I were married 28 years ago after an on off relationship of 10 years...my first marriage, his 2nd, and he is 13 years older than me.... I wrote our whole ceremony, based on my feelings and faith.....my brother refused to come to the wedding, and my parents were not happy either, so I packed my bag and we went to his home town and got married where I knew someone would be happy for us. My parents had to fly to our wedding, and my mother was not involved with any of the planning.....Our Service started out as Two shall be born a world apart, and one day out of the Darkness they shall stand and read Life's meaning in each other's eyes.......WE are gathered here today to celebrate the union.......it was not a short Ceremony, but my husband still tells people that our Wedding was Beautiful! My in-laws loved me, and 28 years later, my parents live across the street and it is my husband that takes them to the Dr. and drives them when they need to go somewhere. Write what you feel and what you believe, and you will be blessed! Congratulations!
2006-09-30 14:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sherrie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you Eloped five years ago, you are NOT having a wedding. You could be having an anniversary party, or a vow renewal, but it is not a wedding. Get that straight. As to your vows - you have been married five years, so the words should be able to come from each of you as to how you feel about one another. Why is that hard?
2006-09-27 22:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I thought about writing our vows and had the same question but now I think that it would be very sweet. You could use standard vows as a place to start from. Search your heart for how you really feel about your husband, marriage, and how you feel about your future. Those would be very sweet things to say in vows. Good for you!
2006-09-27 19:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to remember is that you have to write VOWS. Vows are promises that you make, phrased such as "I will..." or "I promise to..." or "I vow to..."
Too many people make the mistake of having their vows be nothing more than lengthy love poems. How much you love the other person isn't in question....apparently you love each other, or you wouldn't be getting married. It's making promises and commitments that matter for the ceremony and vows.
2006-09-28 09:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the people who say your in trouble cuz you don't know what to say, don't listen to um, its a very difficult thing to espress how much you love someone in words. I would think on it for a while, make lots of notes, and lots of rough drafts. However, you may want to look at traditional vows and draw from that, put them in your own words, just don't forget the things like honoring and being faithful to him, because if you don't take that vow, then you have not promised him that this is it for you. I don't know about you, but I definetly want my fiance to have to vow that he's not gonna cheat on me!
2006-09-27 22:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend at work asked me to help him with his vows. He just wanted a framework (he claimed) and he would make it personal.
I found out later he only dropped the part where I repeat the opening....so much for personalizing.
Anyway, this is what I wrote for him
I promise to always listen.
I promise to always care.
I will share your laughter.
I will share your tears.
I had no life before you, and I would have no life without you.
You are always in my thoughts, always in my heart.
All I ask is to hear your voice, feel your arms around me and let me hold you close.
All I need is to know are that you believe in me.
Trust me, for I will never betray that trust.
Love me, for I will never betray that love.
Let us grow old together.
I promise to always listen.
I promise to always care.
I will share your laughter.
I will share your tears.
Today, tomorrow, forever.
2006-09-27 19:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Grundoon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got loped? What's that? You have to say what's in your heart. I think people have so much trouble with this because they think it has to be "poetic" . Be yourself or it will sound corny. Express what you've experienced together for the past 5 years. And how you feel about that. What he means to you. And what being together means to you.
2006-09-27 19:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by rere 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trying to express why you love someone is difficult.sit down.relax.look at photos of the two of you together.remember happy time from the past 5 years and maybe the feelings you are trying to convey will come to you.
2006-09-28 23:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by J'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
google search, put some music on, then read it, then feel the vibe of the love song, think of your to be hubby, then start writing from your heart. That alwasys work for me.
2006-09-27 20:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak from your heart. Tell him why you love him and what he means to you. This isn't for anybody except him. The guests are witnesses. Look into his eyes and speak on your love.
For the sake of the witnesses, please don't try to cover the whole five years!
2006-09-27 19:49:43 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋