I have been very unlucky in love. I have lived in the same town for 34 years and married one time. My ex found an 18 year old. I have tried everything (last resort was online) but the men lied. It was crazy that they would say one thing and be something else. I am wondering if true love even exist any more. Are their romantic, intelligent, truthful, employed men anywhere in the USA?
2006-09-27 12:39:32 · 23 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that many of us have been unlucky at love during some point in our lives.
I was in a long term relationship with the biggest dolt in the world so I know how you feel.
However, when I was 36 I met the man of my dreams while on a business trip in California. And guess what? He lived in a town that was 30 minutes from mine in New York. We have been married for 8 years.
Both of us had been burned before and were "flying solo with friends" when we met. The relationship took time to unfold.
He is an intelligent, articulate, ambitious, successful, romantic, and sexy man. They do exist!
Oh~I should mention that he is also 10 years older than I am.
So, change the paradigm and be open to possibilities...
2006-09-27 12:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't tried a church singles group you really should. Even if you dont' believe what they do - if you get into a large enough group you'll find someone like what you're describing here. The group I was in had over 250 singles in the area attending. I actually did meet an awesome guy and married him. They also do fun events and things like retreats and great activities where you can make new girlfriends too. It not only gives you chances to meet new people but it is a great social outlet and generally safe. It's not easy when you've been burned by an egotistical pig who ran off with an 18 year old - but they are not all like that. I always say - you need to find a guy who thinks you are his Cinderella, not one who thinks you're a one in ten. It's more important to marry someone who isn't quite as attractive or perfect as you think you are and give a guy yourself being out of his league as it were - rather than putting yourself in a position of having to compete with other women. I'd choose an older guy - who thinks you are the younger woman and feels like a million bucks around you - not one who is the same age and will end up treating you like an old hag who couldn't keep up. Of course, don't pick an already married older guy or you're just going to get another pig.
2006-09-27 19:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just turned 46 yesterday and in the same boat today might be a lucky day for both of us I myself am trying the Internet for the first time and yes I have a good job and I Owen 2 homes I do not know how to put my photo on the Internet I really suck at this computer stuff I am 6ft 180lbs blond hair blue eyes in good shape and good looking live in Reno/Sparks area
2006-09-27 19:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by markhix1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try moving to another town, but the description you have made will be difficult to fit. I think most men in that age bracket that are intelligent and employed, will tend to be less romantic, and may have more than one girlfriend. If you can deal with hearing that, he may be truthful - but otherwise scratch that one off the list.
2006-09-27 19:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no!! Look out!! Incoming!
Boy, are you gonna get bombarded with a lot of guys emailing you now. Lol. Hi. I am no help because I am lesbian, but I can say one thing. This situation is not your fault. It is hard to find a decent guy out there. I think all women know that. So you just be patient. You are smart and lovely and honest. Someday the right kind of guy will come along who will not only appreciate and respect you, but love you like you have never been loved before.
2006-09-27 19:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I met my husband on line match.com. Even before I went there I had to revive. I had to STOP doing what I knew was wrong. I had to STOP being a little girl and become a LADIE. I had to focus on myself and then realize all the men that was around when I did achieve that. WHEW it seems impossible when you are on that side of the fence but trust me, you know what you are doing incorrectly.................... believe it do not second guest it. CHANGE CHANGE CHANGE and you will see a difference trust in yourself, your gut, your self worth............... and the good men will come it will happen have hope. I was hopeless and now I thank GOD everyday for waking me up I love my husband and he came to me with a simple ad on the web it was incredible.
2006-09-27 19:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by justthetwoofus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is elusive at best. Have you tried e-Harmony.com,, Their TV ads seems to make a point of "Find someone that you are compatible with and the love will follow"
As for me 35 happily married years and counting.
2006-09-27 19:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Living well is the best revenge, and they are more perplexed and intrigued if you don't need a man in your life.
Don't be so anxious. Once you have decided that being a part of a couple is truly is not necessary, you give off vibes that are irresistable.
2006-09-27 19:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by finaldx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We are out here, but most of us are married. My single friends are all a little wild and crazy. Sorry your ex-hubbie is a loser. Good luck finding someone. There are a few good ones left, keep looking.
2006-09-27 19:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by barter256 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are, I come from a long line of upstanding people, like for example, I have a cousin that's the top homicide investigator in LA, that's just one. but the point is, there are good people out there, I your case, I recommend http://www.eharmony.com and or http://www.match.com I sincerely hope this helps. good hunting young lady:)
2006-09-27 19:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋