I cant believe how stupidly insensitive my boyfriend is.I asked him since we are going to have a long distance

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relationship, becuase he goes to London to study and teach, difficult enought right_So i asked hm to rent with a man, and he comes saying he will rent with a female friend. They are going to see this month, him, her and the son of her, if it works. I couldnt beleive it, it was listening the word WE , and me just left away.
I am glad at least someones feelings have importance, sarcasm.
So here I am, trying to get over, and wondering why men are so stupid, if he wants to end the relationship, why not being honest, but why all this perverse game_I cant get over really. It has being a relationship of two years. I am so desapointed
Nothing will change his stupid mind, what would you do

He said do not worry, he even gave me the phone number, but I cant even ring, its like accepting the deal. I feel so depressed.

He said it is a friend from school that he will never feel attraction to, he said he rested before with females and nothing happened.
But why oh why it has to be with a female? aren’t there enough apartments in London with single men? AARRGH, why does he has to just destroy my own feelings, why men are so stubborn and cant accept they are mistaken, he is ruining everything, and when he comes back as a dog, it will be late, I tried to end the relationship but the pain is unbearable, but I am seriously thinking to get drunk and to screw someone to start forgetting him, I mean what is the point of being a couple if your feelings do not count? It is not about trust, but someone caring for me

Answer 1

oh dear, i feel for you so much. long distance relationships are so hard to work, esp if there is any doubt about how committed the other person is.

the worst thing is our imaginations get the better of us and any 'sign' is taken to mean they are cheating or don't care any more. then we don't contact them to find out what's really happening, and instead stew about it and just make ourselves feel worse.

for me, the best thing is to contact him and talk seriously about it all. explain to him what you feel and why, and listen to his reasoning for moving in with the female friend. if nothing more you'll be able to get a better understanding of the whole situation and may help to alleviate your own anxiety over your relationship.

do realise that long distance relationships are much harder to maintain than same city relationships, coz you live totally different lives and have very little if any physical contact with each other. do what you can to keep the feelings alive, but makes sure they are there to start with.

all the best in this, i really do feel for you and hope it works out the way you want.

Answer 2

I think you do have to have trust in a relationship.
I have a female friend that I will always know whoever I go out with (should that ever happen!).

It may simply be that it is expensive to rent in London and it works out better for him to move in with someone he knows. But it sounds like the distance and career will make him move on if anything.

I would suggest you make yourself look at him more in the friend category and that he is moving on. Be prepared yourself to move on if the right person comes along, otherwise you may miss the one that could be even better.

I don't believe relationships can work long distance. Only as friendships and if you have already accepted this, then if he does decide to part, then it won't hurt nearly as much as you will be already prepared for it.

Answer 3

I honestly think you´re making something out of nothing !!!! Just read what you´ve written and if you had read that from someone else how would you react.

1. stop being childish, he told you who he was moving in with, he didn´t lie, he could have and you would have been none the wiser.
2. That´s what friends are for, to be there for other people and not just thinking about themselves.
3. If you put pressure on him about ending your relationship it´ll be your own fault.

A friend of mine was serving in Iraq and his wife (also a friend of mine) stayed at my place, she needed support from a friend while her husband was away, because she doesn´t like staying at home alone (young and attractive) she stays at mine whenever he is away on duty and other courses, he knows this and knows he can trust her and me.

I really suggest you grow up and start trusting your partner a bit more. If he can´t be with you at least be happy he´s got a friend to stay with.

Answer 4

I though renting with a man would be worse - he has a wing man to go out on the pull with, and who'll probably "keep things on the down lo" so as to speak. What you want is a big butch lesbian, man-hatr or something. Look this isn't going to work, save your self the future heartache and move on. Of course hes not going to move on he then has two routes to sex. So if you use sex as a weopan he has a back up. Women need to realise that guys dont want sex with lots of women, they just want lots of sex.

Answer 5

Let me ask the question why stay if from what I just read u don't trust him? I'm getting the feeling yes u love him do want to honestly but your self though the hurt.

Answer 6

he's moveing in with a single mother and her child that sounds..... like a serious realsonship to me! so many thngs could happen if the son likes him gets attached to hm well ....... i think you should move on

out of intrest how far away is he moveing where you from?

Answer 7

this is why long distance relationships don't work. But why are you waiting for him to end the relationship? are you helpless? You are an adult, end it yourself, hello.

Answer 8

were not all bad! Honest! Why don't u try trusing him! i know this is a little way out for u females

Answer 9

i know were ur coming from, i won't like that sort of arrangement myself

Answer 10

guys are dumbaSSes dont let it get you down
tell him how you feel and if he still is a jerk then leave him