My little girl is 1 in a half years old and every night when we put her to bed she will climb out and crawl into to bed with me and my husband so one night we were having sex and she walked in and scared the crap out of us. After that we decided to close her room door and now that we have done that she cries, throws her toys against the door, screams and anything else you can think of. What should we do? any advice would be great.
2006-09-27 12:18:19 · 22 answers · asked by marine_wife001 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am sure people are really sick of me telling this sleeping tip...but it works SO great. My friends and I have all used it with great sucess, so here it is:
1st night Go through the normal bedtime routine with your child. If you don't have a regular routine you need to come up with one. Then sit next to her bed, read a book, hold her hand...make her feel good about being in her bed. Do whatever your child needs to calm her down for bed...but once you put her in bed DON'T pick her up. That is the most important part of the trick.
2nd or 3rd night Sit a little farther away from her bed, read to her etc.
Every night you are just moving a bit farther away from the bed until you are out of her room. If she starts to panic move a bit closer and try moving farther back the next night. In everyone I know this takes about a week. If you don't give in and pick her up. You have to stick to your guns for the whole week. Which is hard, I know...but at the end of the week you will be SO glad you stuck with it.
If she gets out of her bed simply pick her up and without a lot of chatting just put her back in bed. Then if she needs you to go to the spot you were sitting earlier that night and start again.
It sounds harder than it is. Your child might really surprise you. She might just need that added comfort of having you near by until she knows she can handle her big girl bed all on her own!
Good Luck and Good night!
2006-09-27 16:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter was/is still at this stage(she' 4).u have to just keep putting her into her own bed and bribing her. it works sometimes and others it doesn't. we actually bought our's a new bed and for the last few weeks it has work, the threat of the bed going back, her grandad going to take it if she won't stay in it and our new one santa will be here soon and he'll not be happy if a BIG girl like you is not in her own bed. we have also tried with us in her bed and she changes her mind about sleeping in her own room. don't close the room door as she'll feeel you are leaving her alone we our door open so that she knows we are not that far away. try a warm bath, bedtime story and hopeful that should work for you. we are keeping our fingers crossed that our run of luck lasts too. try to not let her sleep in the afternoon for too long either that mioght help at bedtime too.
2006-09-27 22:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with it. There is an invisble line between "mommy and daddy time" and "baby tme", and you need to teach her where that line is. Every time she gets out of her bed, pick her up and put her back in it, even if she throws an unholy monster tantrum. You are the parent, and she is the child. I did this for two days when we got our son a "big bed", and now he's very comfortable with the boundary. Perhaps going to the extreme of NEVER allowing her in your room might be a good idea. Show her that that is YOUR space, and that her room is HER space. Maybe put a baby gate across her door, perhaps one above another.
2006-09-27 12:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is already in the habit of climbing in bed with you!Everytime she does that,you take her back to her bed,do this 10 times in one night if you have to. She will stop sooner or later if she knows you will just bring her back in her room. Just tell her that she is getting to be such a big girl and mommy and daddys bed is just not big enough anymore,but that you will see her first thing in the morning. Reasure her of anything she might point out in the 1 year old head lol. It's hard but she will learn. My daughter in 4 now and she will climb in bed with me only when she knows Daddy is out of town working. But she use to do the same to us at 1 year of age.
2006-09-27 12:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by spoiledsarah25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a weekend, and spend a whole evening putting her back in bed. Once she gets up, put her back, the first time you can be sweet, like you are tucking her in again. Then, after that, I would just sit in the hall, and keep putting her back. It may take a few nights of this. The first time I did this it took 3 hours! But it is worth it in the long run.
She has to know you mean business. It is hard not to give in, but as her parents, you have to teach her how to sleep in her bed.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 14:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Beth M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had this problem before. I began with my daughter by telling she was getting a big girl bed and she was excited. Then I bought the bedding that she wanted and let her help me set it up for her. I put a tv and vcr in her room and put in her favorite movie or even classical music will work. Also I gave her a warm bath and used lavender baby bath and it relaxed her. Tucked her in and she went to sleep. It is a long process but she will thank you for it.
2006-09-27 12:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Melisa H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its takes time for a girl to learn that its time for her to sleep in her own bed. But she might do feel scared sleeping by herself. My little sister does not like sleeping in her bed and she always sleeps in my mother all the time. It took her until she was about maybe around 2 in the half to 3 years old.... Its okay for your daughter not to sleep in her bed. When she takes a nap tryed to put her in her bed let her feel the bed and she will know that its her bed and she needs to feel comfortable in it....
2006-09-27 14:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by babydoll_nicole20022002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with my daughter and tried several different things. One that worked was putting her to bed and telling her if she stayed in bed I would be back in 3 minutes to check on her. So I went back and kissed her goodnight again and reassured her she was fine, then told her I'd be back in 5 minutes. This went on up to 10 minutes and my then she was asleep.
Also with my 1st daughter I bought a little blank book and many packs of stickers. I told her there was a "Sticker Fairy" that brought stickers to little girls that slept in their bed all night. She was very excited by this and each morning she looked forward to finding a new sticker.
2006-09-27 12:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by bellagirl1414 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's probably scared of something, you know she's one...probably scared of the dark..give her some time. Yea like the other guy said, try going to sleep with her and then leave her in the room when she's in a deep sleep.
2006-09-27 15:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit on her bed and tell her not to get out and tell her that mommy will be very mad if she gets out. and leave the light on and open the door a little ( you dont have to leave the light on) when they fall asleep shut the light off but dont give in and let her sleep in your bed. just keep telling her that you want her to go to bed and if she doesnt after awhile tell her if she doesnt go to bed she cant go to the park or something that she loves. =]
well i hope i helped you out
2006-09-27 12:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by ToRi_dEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋