I recently found my self sitting in my jam smeared kitchen after a very long day with my kids [2 and 6 both boys} stareing at the pile of supper dishes,toys and other dabrea, wondering how this became my life.I am at stay at home mom and my husband is a truck driver so there for not home much. Any way during my bout of self pitty my mom calls, And ofcourse I start telling her my woes. She listened for a minit and then says"honey you should try it with five." witch got me thinking about when I was growing up. My mom Like wise stayed home while my dad worked{ alot as there were 7 mouths to feed} And all of a sudden I had this urge to call her back and aplogise for every late night spent up worrying, everything i had ever broken and everthing she had to miss out on for our sakes. What I would like to know is.. Has having children given you a new insight to your parents and why they did the things they did?
2006-09-27
12:06:02
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blue_eyed_brat78
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I would like to add that I love my life I do clean my house, and my hudband is involved, He is home every night he just leaves early and comes home later. It is a sarafice he makes so I can stay home with the kids. I was just having one of those days. Which I am sure my mother had had and that is why i got to thinking what I did.
2006-09-27
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Yes I can see exactly what you are talking about, (my kitchen looks like the one u explained), but my parents did an excellent job in raising us.And they were foster parents , so our house was always full.I appreciate my parents more every day.For all the things they did for each of us,mind you there were 11 of us.But we are all grown up now,and trying to teach our kids what mom and dad taught us. LOVE,LOVE,LOVE
2006-09-27 12:46:50
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answered by wallsuds 3
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I love my life as a mom. I've often found myself sitting in a messy kitchen, in messy clothes with the two boys running around like maniacs. And I smile. This is what I wanted and I'm good at it. I don't mind cleaning up the house and I love a noisy house. I also home school. I just make sure I don't define myself as just mom. I'm also my own person. AND I have a very involved husband and I suppose that makes a huge difference.
As for my own parents--I'm a much different parent than they were. Our views on discipline are very different. I'm now estranged from my father. I'm older and have insights to how they parented but I still don't agree with the things they did. I'd never treat my children the way I was treated when I was growing up.
2006-09-27 12:42:53
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answered by Amelia 5
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When I got my first daughter (fostercare at 2 1/2, adopted her at 3 1/2) my husband and I had it kind of easy. Don't get me wrong, it definitely changed our lifestyle, but she was already almost potty trained, slept through the night (if she woke up before we did she would play with her animals or read books until we came to check on her), picked up her toys, ...... It was actually worried me a little, as she was like this dream child (not normal for her age). It wasn't until she was older and I had my first baby that I realized just how easy we had it. She started showing signs of problems related to her history and genetic background- but it was the typical things that seemed to make my life crazy. All of a sudden I had no sleep, was constantly on the go, and had no time to myself (I can't even go the bathroom alone anymore). One of the things that finally made me call up my parents was dance class for my oldest daughter. I danced for 12 years (was in 3 groups and as I got older was in competition level). My daugter was in dance for about 6 months when I thought I was going to go nuts. Trying to get her ready, get the baby ready, get to class, wait in a crowded hall with the baby (I was also pregnant again), plus paying for the lessons/clothes/shoes/costume/pictures/etc,- anyway, I called my parents and thanked them for everything they did for me- then apologized for everything I ever did wrong. I love my kids and wouldn't change anything, but I realize now what people say when they say being a parent is a full-time job. I also have a better since of empathy and understanding for the parents of the children I work with. Good luck!
2006-09-27 13:46:38
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answered by teacher/mother 2
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Definetly!!!
My relationship with my mother wasn't the greatest...and even now I don't speak to her (haven't seen her or spoken to her in over a year and a half).....the way she treated me has definetly taught me how NOT to treat my daughter...I thought about what she used to do to me when I did something wrong...and realized, No more!!!...i'm not going to treat my daughter like that...
My dad has definetly taught me alot...and me now being a parent, I look back on what he used to do (my parents were divorced when i was 2 years old) he always treated me with respect, love, and kindness. And, always let me know that he was there for me, and didn't pry into my every little thing...he showed me that some things are better learned on your own...while others you should definetly listen to the advice given...
Being a SAHM myself....I sometimes feel stressed out, but then I can't help but smile when I see how happy my daughter is...it lets me know that i'm doing something right...even when at times i feel like a failure :)
2006-09-27 13:12:20
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answered by BeautifulGirl79 1
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While I was in labor my mother was by my side, I was fine until I looked at her and was hit with a major contraction...I began apologizing for everything I could think of that I did wrong.
I have a new appreciation for my parents and they don't seem so crazy to me anymore. I know they get a big kick out of seeing me chasing my daughter, since it's something they did with me to many times to count.
2006-09-27 14:54:29
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answered by dreday 2
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Absolutely sweetie. You have described what life is like in alot of homes. My situation is a little different but very similar. I have 2 daughters and yes, I love my parents more and more each day. Just remember to enjoy each day you have and not to take it all too seriously.
2006-09-27 12:14:21
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answered by BRITCOURT 3
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it quite is confusing to declare by way of all their faults, my mum and dad did an astonishing job. They raised 4 bright and powerful infants. we are all autonomous, have stable jobs and handle others with know and compassion. I do the final i will with my 2, in spite of the undeniable fact that on the age of seven i actually can't be certain what style of fellows they are going to be. i will purely desire that I easily have controlled to instill in them a similar values my mum and dad did which I carry to on the present time. real now they're magnificent infants. they're bright, sort and efficient. in spite of the undeniable fact that I nonetheless would desire to make it in direction of the teenage years. this would be a question to probably answer in yet another 2 an prolonged time, as quickly as I easily have 2 youthful men who call me mom. Then i'll be waiting to tell you extra precise what style of human beings I raised and then possibly i could have a stronger answer. in spite of the undeniable fact that on the 2d, i will desire for a minimum of a similar, and if available exceed what my mum and dad did.
2016-10-18 02:28:55
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes, I have also had spend nigths & days thinking the same, & all the trouble my parents went thrue to raise us up & to make us good kids & most important I wonder many times how they did it to aldo have fun for both of them as couple with 4 kids..Now that I have my kids I try to follow their role model because I want my kids to be happy, to trust us as parents, to respect us, to love us & to see that a the sacrifice we are doing & all the hard work is for them so they can have what we can provide to them but most important our LOVE!!!!
2006-09-27 12:20:02
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answered by Anonymous
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lol, oh ya. I have a 4,6, and 10 yr old, and one on the way and I have a whole new appreciation for my parents, lol. I understand how much they had to miss out on because of us. And they always told me that I'd understand when I got kids and I always got mad at that. Need to listen to the parents more huh? lol
2006-09-27 12:14:46
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answered by Melba 4
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Yes!! I realized my parents were people too! LOL It helped me realize they have problems like everyone else and sometimes their reactions to me and my sisters were sometimes b/c of other issues they had. I definitely have a new respect for my parents and really appreciate all they had done!!! Call your mom and let her know how you feel--I bet you'll make her day!!!
2006-09-27 12:15:07
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answered by Tracy S 4
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