How do u stop an 8y/o from wetting her pants?

Question

She has been to drs and they can find nothing wrong. Everyone says it's for attention, which I believe. An 'awards' system has been set up, and failed because when she doesn't get her way she wets her pants. She gets made fun of at school, but the school's no help, other than to suggest she wear an adult-type diaper.

Answer 1

I had this problem when I was a child, and my grandmother thought I was doing it for attention, I wasn't. My niece also has this problem she is also 8. She has a serious problem. Doctors told my mother there was no problem, and no one could find anything wrong, yet I kept doing it, no matter where I was. It was embarrassing and it hurt that people around me didn't believe me. the doctors never found anything wrong with me, and they haven't with my niece either. Sometimes it just happens. You need to be supportive and loving. How would you feel if it were you that was wetting your pants and no one believed you? Trust me it hurts! And she needs all the support she can get. I finally stopped on my own at about 12, but I will never forget the humiliation and pain I went through being teased and even spanked by my grandparents when my parents weren't around. There are a lot of doctors out there who may be able to help. Don't give up on her and don't blame her.

Good luck.

Make sure to tell her she's not alone.

There are others with the same problem and it will be ok :)

Answer 2

If she has been to the doctor and nothing is physically wrong with her then it could be caused by stress. The stress of school and peer pressure is a very real problem for kids these days. Stress can cause loss of bladder and even bowel control. It isn't that uncommon of an occurance.

Diapers may be a good solution for the immediate future. If she is doing it for attention then maybe the thought of having to wear diapers all the time may be enough to change her mind about how she is acting.

You could also just ignore her if she is just acting out. If she gets embarrassed enough about it at school and so forth she will eventually give it up. But you need not react at all to it happening, the fact that she gets a reaction is why she continues to do it.

The other things is, if it is stress (which you don't know for sure) you need to be understanding and supportive of the issue. Treat her like a person not a baby. Don't scold her for doing this, it may just be something she can't control. How would you like to be scolded for having your period every month, you can't control it either.

Work with your daughter and try to understand what is going on. Have a good sit down long talk with her and don't be judgemental when you do. Maybe she just wants to wear diapers and this is her way of trying to tell you. That too is not an unusual thing to happen.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Why should the school help with a parenting problem? It is not their job. She is going to get made fun of when she wets her pants, that is a fact of life. I suggest therapy to find out why she is doing this. Those who claim it's "attention" have no clue themselves so they have to "blame" something/someone and they're blameing her which is only making the problem worse.

Answer 4

Find another doctor, hopefully a urologist. As an alternative, if you have an OB/GYN who works in a multiple practice clinic, see whether any of the GYN's specialize in urinary incontinence in women.

Before jumping to the conclusion that this is for attention, does your daughter have other attention-seeking behaviors? If so, you need a child psychologist (the school should be able to help you find an affordable resource).

But if this is the only behavior that you can point to as 'attention-getting', then I'd reconsider. There's something organically wrong.

Good luck...

Answer 5

My sister's daughter had that problem. She cut off all liquids from her daughter after dinner time, and didn't let her guzzle beverages all the time. Also, there are alarms you can get from a doctor, and the alarm will sound if she begins urinating in bed. It will train her to stop bed wetting. It is LOUD and it may wake others up, but it could help her. (My sister didn't get the alarm and her daughter wet the bed until she was a teenager!!) That's a lot of P!SS. As for wetting her pants, she may have a weak bladder or a small bladder. Some times kids will foul themselves if they have been molested. I hope NOBODY has done this to her, because it's possible. Get her some Depends, and get her to a GOOD doctor!!

Answer 6

This will take great patience on your part, but here's my suggestion. My oldest daughter went through this at that age, and this worked for me. If she is in fact doing this to get attention, and you give it attention when it happens, she will keep doing it. My suggestion is two fold. First, when it happens, act like it is no big deal. Second, make her clean up the mess. That way she isnt getting any attention for the behavior, but at the same time has to take responsibility for her actions. The other thing is, you have to be supportive of her. Just tell her how great she is all the time, and don't bring up the wetting, make it a non issue, like it doesnt even exist, eventually it will stop. Good Luck

Answer 7

i would take her to another doctor. i know that i wet the bed occaisionally till i was a teenager because i would dream that i was in the bathroom on the toilet.my mother thought that it was just for attention or that i was scared to get up in the middle of the night but that wasn't the case at all. What does she say about it? Now if she is wetting her pants at school or in the day time that is another problem because she should be old enough to be worried about what the other kids say. So that makes me think that she can't help it but if she is just doing it at home in the day i would put up her clothes and uderwear and make her wash her clothes out in the tub before she can change into clean ones or out side in the hose after she changes so that wetting herself isn't putting any one out but her. but the trick is to act like your not mad and just make this punishment a matter of fact. if you get mad then she won.

Answer 8

Wow, if the doctor cannot find a cause, then perhaps it would beneficial to see a child psychologist and find the root of the problem. Getting mad at her and forcing her to wear adult diapers will not stop her. Ask her pediatrician for a referral to a good child psychologist and hopefully things wil be on the upside sooner than later.

Answer 9

It sounds like you have had a lot of good advice with regard to your daughter. I just would like to add one more recommendation: Make sure your daughter takes the time to finish her voiding (urinating) when going to the toilet. Some children rush through their toileting and never completely void - leaving them wet, with residual odor. Also, sometimes little girls retain a little urine in their vaginal area - again if they do not void completely. So - I would encourage your daughter to sit for an extra minute or two after voiding to allow for complete emptying of the bladder.
I doubt if there is any serious problem. You have not mentioned anything about bed-wetting. I feel she does not. Otherwise you would have mentioned. Stress or anxiety may play into her condition.

Answer 10

I would make her wear pull-ups. They do make them big enough for her size. You'd be suprised. If she wants attention then she just got it. If you humiliate her even if you are the only one who knows then maybe she'll stop wetting herself. She wets her pants when she doesn't get her way? Are you serious? She should not be allowed to get away with this. Even if she got over the peeing in her pants she will need to understand that she doesn't always get her way and she isn't supposed to. I would suggest punishing her when she reacts in that way.