I wasn't sure if it would be appropriate since we are already married.
2006-09-27 11:02:48 · 28 answers · asked by rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
OH MY! OH PLEASE DO IT! IT SOUNDS SO ROMANTIC...JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU CAN'T RENEW YOUR VOWS. I LOVE IT WHEN HAPPILY MARRIED COUPLES DO THAT. YOU SET AN EXAMPLE FOR ALL HAPPILY MARRIED PEOPLE! CONGRATULATIONS FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!
2006-09-27 11:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not a wedding! You're already married!!!
Come up with another type of event to show your love.
Let me guess, this is your idea. Your husband probably thinks it's stupid. I did. And so do most other men. My first wife started planning a "vow renewal" thing 8 months after we were married.!!
Are these the same vows? If so, why renew? A vow is supposed to be permanent. Is someone straying and therefore needs a reminder?
Are they NEW vows? Why? Do you need to change the commitment? You changing the rules?
Men hate this kind of crap. It's not necessary and can really cause problems. Does he get another Bachelor Party? I didn't think so. Most of the people that attend will be women without their male counterparts. We're embarrassed for the poor guy.
Think it over. How about blowing the money on a nice vacation to the Caribbean? Wouldn't that be better for your relationship than spelling out the rules, again?
Show this answer to your husband and see what he thinks. Then when truly agrees with me, don't be hurt or mad. Just realize that it an unnecessary BS thing that women try to make their man do. It's a bad thing and we don't appreciate it at all.
2006-09-27 18:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a bit stumped by this question. How can you renew vows if you didn't take vows? Are you implying you did not have a marriage ceremony or did you have a ceremony but you didn't wear a gown in a formal wedding or have you never been married? I am left to try to make sense of this. The only way you can renew vows is if you have already made vows, right? Whenever someone marries there is a wedding so if you haven't made vows you would be making them for the first time, not renewing them. If you have never married, get married for sure. If you married and really do want to renew your vows by all means make the big splash and do it up right! Recently I attend a wonderful renewing of vows after 25 years. It was wonderful! Their 5 children read poems, sang songs, gave tributes, one played the piano. There was a huge banquet afterwords and a grand time was had by all. The couple looked lovely, their children followed them into the church dressed like a ringbearer, flower girls and bridemaids. It was so pretty.
2006-09-27 18:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see why not, but it's the kind of thing you can really only do once (besides the actual day, I mean) without looking too tacky. That's my opinion anyway.
What exactly is a "wedding"? It's a ceremony where you publicly vow to become husband and wife. What you would be doing is having a public ceremony to renew your vows. Given that, I don't know if I would call it a "wedding" (like on invitations and whatnot), but there is nothing wrong with using the wedding ritual as a base for a renewing of vows ceremony. No point in exchanging rings if you already have been wearing them, but you could exchanging vows affirming your relationship, have the readings and blessings and whatnot. Maybe not wear a poofy white wedding gow, but a tasteful dress is fine. You get my drift.
If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been married?
2006-09-27 19:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not appropriate because you DID have a wedding. That ceremony, where you exchanged vows? That was your wedding. Congratulations!
You get one wedding per marriage.
If you simply want to celebrate, save up and throw an anniversary dinner-dance or banquet and invite all your family and friends. But don't have a re-run ceremony with "all the trimmings." That would be in very poor taste.
If you need to renew your vows becuse you are getting back together after a separation or something, that is a private matter and you do it quietly at your place of worship, with only close family attending. No hoopla.
2006-09-27 19:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get married if you didn't have a wedding? Maybe you mean that you had a wedding ceremony that was not the type you wanted but it was still a wedding in the eyes of the law. Why not have another under the reason of "renewing" since it just strengthens your commitment? Then again if you really didn't have one and are not really married, then having the first ceremony now is a good idea anyway.
2006-09-27 18:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got to watch your words here. If you are already married, then you have had a wedding - whatever form it took. If you are renewing your vows, good for you. Have a simple family party after to celebrate your anniversary, but it is NOT a wedding.
2006-09-27 22:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is a celebration. It is witness and shared with your each other as well as your love ones. You should go ahead and have your wedding if you decide to renew your vows. My parents have been married for 26 years and never had a wedding until their 25th wedding anniversary. They had 6 kids and celebrated 25 blissful years before they were able to afford one. Invite those that would want to celebrate with you and your accomplishment to each other. As long as you have fun and enjoy it that's all that would matter.
2006-09-27 18:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it! My fiance and I are having just an informal dinner after our church wedding b/c we are saving for a house. We have already planned that on our 10 anniversary that we will renew our vows and have the whole shindig!
2006-09-27 19:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a vow renewal and reception. do not expect gifts also no wedding music like Here comes the Bride
2006-09-27 18:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by nora7142@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an Event Planner for a banquet facility. We have people that do an actual vow renewal during their anniversary party. I say yes it is appropriate....
2006-09-27 23:13:43 · answer #11 · answered by ~♥Aimee♥~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋