They owe 500 on the water bill and we did not know this until it was shut off. We have given them money to pay bills with but they used it to make a car payment instead. Should I be upset that the water was turned off? Also she doesn't work neither do I but I am actively looking for work (ie: going to interviews at least 3 times a week) she sitts at home and sleeps all day. Should we still be expected to give them money each week to pay for bills when its not even going towards the shared bills?
2006-09-27 10:55:47 · 19 answers · asked by sexyladylooking4love2233 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have every right to be upset in this situation. I know I would be. They don't shut your water off for a month or two of nonpayment. Like you said, the bill is $500. There's no way I would give them any more money towards what is owed. Tell his sister to get off her lazy butt and get a job. If she didn't have the means to pay for the car, she shouldn't have bought it.
If you feel a little guilty about not paying bills, ask for a statement at the end of each month. Contribute that way. Then you'll know for sure that your money is going to what it's supposed to be going to. If she has a problem with that, save your money (when you land a job) and move out. Then she'll see what an idiot she's been. She won't have a car, water, electricity and maybe even a home.
People never know what they have until it's gone!!!
2006-09-27 11:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I can understand you being a little upset that the water was shut off, I think you should have to give them money each week toward the bills. This is their home, it's not your place to say where the money goes. It doesn't matter what they do with it, atleast they cannot say it is your fault that they are in the hole. Just make sure you get receipts. After all, with you and your husband living there, you are contributing to running the bills up as well as helping pay for them. You should really be greatful that they have extended their welcome to ya'll, letting ya'll live with them. Just think how much money you would be spending for rent and other expenses if you two had your own place and lease. I don't mean this to be harsh. Things rarely work out between 2 different families, couples. There is not a house big enough for 2 different couples. Use this as extra motivation to work even harder at finding a job so ya'll can get the heck out of there. Like I said, you owe them money every week but I do not blame you for wanting to leave. Good Luck
2006-09-27 11:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give them the money. Ask them what the address is for their bills if it's a house. If it's an apartment then just give it to the landlord. I'm staying with my bf's parents but I'm not paying rent. But that was the agreement. I don't have a job either and I have applied many different places so I know how you feel. If you weren't expected to help pay the bills, then don't. It's not your fault that they used the money to pay for their car. I would be mad about it, especially if you specified you wanted to help with the water. Why doesn't she get a job? I'd find someone else to stay with until you can get a job and get on your feet. Why not just write them a check next time that is made out to the landlord and not them? Then they can't use it for what they want but for water so you can take showers and everything else. What's the point of going to an interview and not getting to shower first? They shouldn't have a new car if only one of them works and they can't afford the water.
2006-09-27 11:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you cant move out on your own. I would just set up a monthly payment plan to them.. How much money do they want per week/ month and Thats it. They can spend it how they want whether towards bills or otherwise. Its their problem. Yes it affects you but the way you are doing it now, they will just keep expecting more out of you and bail them out. Then you go and buy groceries that you need/use. Dont let her do the shopping for you she may use the money for bills and not food. I would get out of there ASAP!
2006-09-27 10:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bills should be split equally, but if they owed that when you moved in then yes I would be pissed off too. If she doesn't work when you get a job, her husband is still responsible for her share of the bills, in other words, that isn't the problem, it's their problem. I think I would be looking for another place to live if they aren't going to pay the bills when you give them money.
2006-09-27 10:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make payments to creditors directly by money order or check but do not give them cash. Offer to pay on the water bill until you guys get on your feet and get out of there. Good luck....
2006-09-27 11:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you give her the "rent" money and they spend it as they see fit. You could suggest that instead of giving them the cash...they give you the bill and you pay it.
If they don't want to do that, maybe you should look for another place to live.
2006-09-27 11:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The $a million,six hundred must be a mistake or you've a significant leak someplace..you definitely may have talked about 6 inches of water on the floor although! what's your prevalent bill for water? i'd imagine you would merely be responsible for that.
2016-12-02 04:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by kirchoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you have the right to be upset especially since u do give them money for bills, however, u need to be actively seeking a place of your own
2006-09-27 11:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by Annette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the $500 and try to find your own place. Man that sux! Do you use their car? Then they shouldn't use your part of the bill $$ for their car! 'Nuff sed
2006-09-27 11:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by She B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋