My boyfriend and I were having problems in our relationship and played the breakup makeup game a lot. Earlier this month he reached out to me and told me he wanted us to really try and make this relationship work and he took the blame for all the bad things that happened in our relationship and wanted to make a fresh start. So he starts pouring his heart out and he told me that he cheated on me. Now I had suspicions, but I never spoke on it becuz I had no solid proof. Since our talk he's a different person, but I can't get over the fact he cheated. My viewpoint is once a cheater always a cheater. But my friends told me that I should give him credit for telling me he cheated in the first place, and that it means he's ready, people make mistakes, blah, blah, blah. I do love him, but at the same time trust and honesty is important to me, and he broke that. Should I stay or give him another chance?
2006-09-27 10:44:07 · 14 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably all the girls in this site will tell to drop the guy and run off as fast as your legs can carry you. But who says the next one along won't cheat as well? At least this one was honest about it and had the guts to own up. If he wasn't really sorry for what he did, he wouldn't have told you, would he?
2006-09-27 10:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well - Maybe he should get one more chance. I mean he didn't have to tell you did he? Nope! He told you because he wantedt o come clean and he was living with the guilt. That is probably what the source of the problems were. I would be sure to let him know he will only get one more chance b/c the chances of him doing it again are pretty high.....i am saying all of this but if it was my husband I would be feelign the same as you and posting this qquestion as well. Ultimately do what your mind tells you not your heart.
2006-09-27 10:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am also a person that appreciates a lot honesty but i think you should listen to your heart. i know this sounds clisheic but nobody can tell you to trust him if you can't. it's simple.if you think she deserves a second chance just begin from zero. the fact that he was honest in the end and told you should be a point for him but if you think he will never change maybe it's better to let him go. probably he told you that because he wants a new beginning without shadows from the past or he want to be in peace with himself, or he loves you or all that together....just do what you have to do and the only one who knows what to do it's YOU and only YOU
2006-09-27 10:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by andreea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats crazy girl i no how u feel bout the whole once a cheater always a cheater but then again he came clean and told u about it he proble feels like s h i t for doin that so its up to u hunny go with ur heart and u only live once so if u feel he is sorry then go for it u never really no untill u try good luck
2006-09-27 10:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by my heart belongs to a sailor! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO he told you . When hard times hit again if he cheats again but tells you its ok ? You have to makes you happy . So the question is Will it ? You will always have that thought in the back of your mind now Where is he What is he doing And With Who ? Good luck
2006-09-27 10:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by silver01222000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say another chance, since he could have been home free.. he didnt have to tell you sounds like, and he did. Watch him, be careful, let him know that you feel once a cheater but you're trying to be open minded.
I think that at least a man(or woman) who'll admit to cheating when they were home free is less likely to ever cheat again.
2006-09-27 10:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not coming back, that same, . . . anything. it will be hard and it will hurt like hek but you deserve better, and you won't leave him or know that until you decide. All the friends in the world can tell you to run or forgive but this is your life, and aren't you worth more? When you figure that out you will have your answer, good luck and big hugs.
2006-09-27 10:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you intend in giving him a hard time over that, then you shouldnt be w/ him. Dont be judgemental and critical about this, he did came on his own to disclose this, but at least you know the warning signs now from experience. So you too have learned something from this.
2006-09-27 10:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmm.. it's true about giving ppl 2nd chances.. when he cheated that was the past innit you gotta stop looking back and start looking 4ward but don't let him get off easy for what he did!! make him pay!! don't be 2 loving and all that make him beg for your heart.. but if you turn the cold shoulder and he aint tryna beg then you know he aint serious
2006-09-27 10:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by uniqu3ang3l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is taking the next steps as he sounds like he really wants it to work. you should be very happy as most men doesent do this unless they are in love with you and set things straight. maybe you should sit down and chat to him about the people you were with in the past. he sound as if when he was with this woman he wasnt happy with her as he thought about you all the time and saw she is nothing like you. he loves you. give him another chance
2006-09-27 10:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by sharon b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋