Every boyfriend I've ever had her famous line is "I hope you don't marry him". This sort of thing has been going on since my sister was my age, and now she is 29. I'm dating my boyfriend, and yes we talk about marriage and maybe he will be the one I marry. However, my mother is so hooked on the fact she doesn't want me to. I say tough ****, I am going to marry who ever I want because it's my decision and my life. We fight constantly about it, and I am not giving up on what I believe. What should I do? My sister and I have tried telling her if she continues behaving this way she is going to lose me for good. What is a nicer way of putting how I feel without fighting with her? I am so sick of fighting, and she is actually making me want to move out and say goodbye for good.
2006-09-27 10:39:06 · 8 answers · asked by Lydia J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother is who she is and she isn't going to change. Wouldn't it be better and easier if you just learned to ignore her and not turn this into a fight? There is no reason to even deal with her saying this until the day you actually do decide to marry someone. Until then just laugh it off and let it go.
2006-09-27 10:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to take heed to how out of control your daughter is. Does she take medicine? i'd attempt spending more beneficial time with her. She would like/desire more beneficial interest. i doesn't imagine that her having adhd, has something to do with her back speaking, even if, i do not understand lots about that. think ofyou've got to get counseling, i'm confident that would help. i'd also put up this question less than well being. each and every each and every now and then a strong pop interior the mouth is what it takes to wake someone up. Grabbing the throat isn't a strong ingredient. each and every each and every now and then raising little ones can make you sense like a nasty be certain. strong success....... a counselor can allow you to recognize what to do on your childs case.
2016-10-16 02:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're old enough and financial capable of doing so, maybe you should go ahead and move out. I'll bet if you DO move out, your relationship with your mother may just get a little stronger since you two would have some time apart. The best you can do is try to help her see the good in the guy you're dating and talk to her candidly. You can't make her change her mind, but maybe you can open her eyes to a more positive attitude about your decisions. You can't please all of the people all of the time!
2006-09-27 10:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Garrrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say goodbye for good but moving out sounds like a good idea. I would tell your mom one more time that you are an adult and you will live your own life no matter what she thinks about it. Tell her that if she insists on arguing about those issues she will have to argue to herself or someone else because you won't listen to it anymore.
Seriously tho', I would move out if I were you. She'll probably want to argue about that too but be strong. As long as you know you are doing the right things in your life then you should feel good about yourself. Don't let her get you down. Good Luck!!
2006-09-27 10:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put your mother out of your life for good she is you mother she is going to state her opinion no matter what because thats just what parents do just listen to her not saying that you have to actually do what she say but just act like you are listening even if you are not follow you heart you can't listen to what everyone tells you if thats who you want to marry then marry him just don't disrespect your mother you'll end up regreting it one day you are the one that going to have to live and sleep with the guy not her
2006-09-27 10:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine she is saying that for you own good. Maybe the guys you and your sister have dated weren't worthy of marrying you. You always have to remember that your mother wants nothing more than the best for you. Why not just chill out a little ?
2006-09-27 10:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to sit down with her and have a heart-to-heart discussion about why she won't give any of her daughter's boyfriends a chance before she announces that she doesn't want them for sons-in-law. If she is unwilling to respect your choices maybe it's because she thinks that your living in her house means you aren't mature enough to choose a spouse yet or maybe it's something else altogether. You will never know unless you ask her.
2006-09-27 10:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're her daughter. It's never going to really stop and it's up to her to accept that she can't. You can't force her though. People are people and they'll do what they'll do.
2006-09-27 10:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋